Other Websites For Men

[Veritee]

Hi

here are other forums and info you may be interested in:
www.fatherhood.org/
great site - like it
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HomeDad UK
www.homedad.org.uk/
for men who are the main carers of their children
( house husbands, stay-at-home-dads, male mqain family carers)

A good and supportive site

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Justice for Fathers UK
www.justiceinfamilylaw.co.uk/
not sure
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www.singlefathersonline.com/

great site - for dads on their own
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MAMA Perinatal depression helpline: 0845 120 3746
Supports men too either with depression after becoming a dad or if they are supporting their partner

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www.fathersdirect.com/

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freehost06.websamba.com/forums4dads/forum/

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www.dads-uk.co.uk/

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UK Men and Father's Rights Home Page
www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/
again seems very bitter to me - but it is up to you

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Fathers Direct - www.fathersdirect.com/
Fathering tips and ideas to make life simpler, easier and more effective. Sections include discussion boards, advice on books for Dads, toys, and a place for professionals working with fathers.
Fathers 4 Justice - www.fathers-4-justice.org/
Civil rights movement campaigning for a child's right to see both parents and grandparents. Includes press releases.
Families Need Fathers - www.fnf.org.uk/
Registered charity with support, legal and other resources for UK fathers.
Dads and Sons - www.dfes.gov.uk/dadsandsons/
Advice and ideas from the DFES on how dads can get involved with their 11-14 year old son's education.
Home Dad UK - www.homedad.org.uk/
Devoted to providing support and encouragement on-line to the growing number of fathers who are staying at home to bring up their young children.
UK Men and Father's Rights - www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/
Resources that advocate men's and fathers' rights, examining discrimination against men in the UK and proposing solutions.
The Equal Parenting Council - www.equalparenting.org/
Wants both parents to be treated equally by the law after divorce or separation for the sake of the children. Includes campaigns and resources.
The Men's Project - www.mensproject.org/
An initiative within the Parents Advice Centre, Belfast. Includes background, fact sheets, news and web directory.
Families Need Fathers Sheffield Branch - www.fnf-sheffield.org.uk/
A national charity helping parents stay in touch with their children after divorce. Includes meeting times and contacts.
Dads UK - www.dads-uk.co.uk/
Provides information about the helpline for single fathers, as well as news and relevant links.
Dads United - www.dadsunited.co.uk/
A site for dads providing help, support, and a chat forum.
Parents Protest Group - www.parents4protest.co.uk/
A group campaigning for equal rights and protesting against the countries family courts. Includes articles and links.
Fathers 4 Justice (Wales) - homepage.ntlworld.com/f4jswansea/
Features news, articles and meeting information.
Shared Parenting Information Group (SPIG) UK - home.clara.net/spig/
Promoting responsible shared parenting after separation and divorce. Includes FAQ and articles.
DadCafe - www.dadcafe.co.uk/
Fatherhood advice, news and reviews for new dads and dads-to-be.
Gay Dads Scotland - www.gaydadsscotland.org.uk/
Social and support group for gay fathers living in Scotland. Includes news, FAQ and events.
Justice for Father UK - www.justiceinfamilylaw.co.uk/
Self-help group dealing with disrupted parenting and the pitfalls and the deficits of Family Law.
The Cheltenham Group - www.c-g.org.uk/
Men's and father's matrimonial rights group. Includes details of current campaigns.
FQ Magazine - www.fqmagazine.co.uk/
Quarterly for new dads and single dads. Includes subscriptions information, competitions and contacts.
The Dad Farm - www.thedadfarm.co.uk/
Features information, resources and entertainment for new dads.
Fathers First - www.tyepro.co.uk/fathers/
Fathers' advocacy information.
Developing Dads - www.developingdads.org.uk/
Rotherham YMCA founded initiative offers information, advice, training and support to enable young fathers to play a more active role in the parenting of their child.
Man Included - www.geocities.com/manincluded/
Provides information from the Campaign for Donor Involvement.


All the best
Veritee

[William]

Hi,

As a man, I've written a piece on my feelings and thoughts and tried to get it published on several websites, and have had no response from other fathers.

What I feel that what I need as a father is to be able to talk to other fathers, in a similar position, but the best help that my wife and I have found is firstly a local support group, in Ashbourne and realising that we need to take time out for ourselves, without our daughter or other half, and for me to be able to take time out on my own with my daughter.

I think that this message board is an excellent resource, and hopefully with a few extra posts others can be encouraged, but often men don't really know what to say, or the thread doesn't seem relevant.

Firstly it must be recognised that men do need help and support, and they must recognise it, and secondly men also need to recognise that just by saying hello can be a great help, especially when it's to others in similar circumstances.

I'd implore other men whose partners or wives have a PNI, to just post a message as more than anything, men can also get PNI, so take care of yourselves aswell as your other halves.

William

[Veritee]

Hi William

It is lovely to meet you on this site.

Thank you so much for your efforts on this board and I do agree with what you have said.

In fact when I first started this site I considered myself to be working in partnership with a man called Ian Sands who ran a web site for men with partners with PNI or who were depressed themselves after a birth. - his wife had had PNI quite badly.

Unfortunately about 3 years ago his site disappeared overnight and because our contact had been entirely virtual - that is I only ever communicated with him via e mail - I was not able to find out what had happened to him or speak to him further.

I guess he had just felt he had done his bit, as he ran his site tirelessly, answering hundreds of e mails and supporting many men, for several years.

I do not think he had much support on this and sometimes it can be time to move on and get on with the rest of your life.

It is my guess that this is what he felt - but this is only a guess as her never contacted me or anyone else again.

We worked together in that I referred people on to him and he to me depending on who could help most considering the individuals needs and he would contribute on this site's forum.

It was very useful to have a man’s perspective at times and support from a man for both men and women.

Anyway what I am trying to say is that as you are keen to support men (and I am guessing also women where appropriate ) I would like to say that you are welcome on this site and if you want to to do this through this site I would support you fully.

I am sure that men do read this site but perhaps do not feel it is for them to use or post on.

While my main focus is the woman who has given birth (probably because I am a woman) I never intended to leave male partners out in the cold and truely hope that they can use this site to support each other and try to support anyone who posts on here.

So I do hope that you will stay around and persevere in your bid to get men/partners/husbands to at least say hello to each other and hopefully to offer each other support and often it is useful for women to get a male perspective.

All the best for now

Veritee

[William]

Hello again!

Just a quick post this time to give you a bit more of a backgroud to me.

My daughter was born in late March this year 2004, which has been quite a busy year. I started my first proper job Sept 2003, move house from Sheffield to Derby several months later followed by my daughter's birth, which involved a very difficult 26 hour labour followed by an emergency C-section.

My wife was quite ill with PNI after quite a bad case of the baby blues in the hospital where we were told we should be happy because one of the previous two nights that my wife was in labour, a lady had come in who had a still birth. The birth affected me very deeply and even things like animals giving birth on the TV can still make me want to turn over. I'm not sure if I've had a touch of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PNI, myself, but I've so far managed without medication.

We were lucky to find Debbie, who runs PNI-SH (Post Natal Illness - support and help) based in Ashbourne, which from several weeks back is a registered charity!! And is a constant source of help for my wife and I. I'm lucky to be able to check the notice boards from work, during lunch or before or after work.

Anyway time to get back to work,
Best wishes,
William

[yorkslass]

Hi

We know debbie she often comes on here to help out she is a great woman and I so wish I lived near her for her help



Melxx

[lucy]

hi william

its great that you are posting on this site and trying hard to deal with pni. i know it must be hard on the husbands. my husband is a great support like you and i will encourage him to post on here to give you support. keep up the good work and take it a day at a time

regards

[cheshire]

Not sure whether we've had this one before:

www.talktofrank.com

0800 776600

www.rethink.org

Father's Matter 01375 364 654

http://www.southessex_trust.nhs.uk

It's amazing the info. you can pick up when reading mags in the doc's surgery

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[cheshire]

Not sure why the Father's Matter link doesn't work as was a recent mag - will look into it..