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Post by sarah c on Jul 17, 2005 19:48:20 GMT
i have had pni for over 3 years and i feel like iam out of control dont know who iam anymore or who to ask for help been to health visitor and she just seems to think it because i hyave 3 children!!!!
I just cannot seem to shake what iam feeling and any seem of anti depreesants they put me on either make me fall asleep and unable to wake up or just make me feel worse iam constantly at the drs each month and i can feel him thinking as soon as walk in the door not again..
i do not have any bond at all with my 3 year old daughter i feel as if iam waiting for her real mother to come and get her although i dont feel this with my 2 sons..
i need help and cant seem to find it any advise
thankyou
s x
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Post by tj on Jul 30, 2005 8:42:13 GMT
Hi Sarah,
Can I ask your pnd was it with your daughter???. My post natal depression was with my daughter phew 8 years ago, I remember a mixture of feelings - "resentment you made me feel like this", those sorts of things....In time you will bond I promise.
I'm really concerned with this health visitor, if she looked past the fact you have three children...she would pick up on pnd...maybe you could change your health visitor.
Anti depressants - Sarah you really must stick with them, it's not a quick fix, I remember going through about five different ones, until I found one that suited me, all the side effects do deminish, seriously for me If I hadn't of taken them, don't think I'd be here now.
Anyway thinking of you, e-mail etc if you need me!!!.
love tj p.s. just wondering how old are you?
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Post by bam02 on Jul 30, 2005 10:12:59 GMT
My daughter is nearly 3 in August and I have a 10 year old. I can undestand the feeling of waiting for someone to come and take them away and I still have it. I feel very happy abidicating responsiblity for my kids - but I think they are still lovely - but only in short bursts.
My doctor sound like your HV she talks about me having other health problems, an ausitistic son and the fact I have tried several anti-ds and tried counselling including some cogantive behavioural therapy. As if I should be OK by now. There appears to be nothing left for her to suggest!!!
I self refered to a local Mind group and they seem to be listening except I can't get to them always due to chilcare!!! So what can we do?Catch 22 having a child makes me ill- caring for a child means I can't access the help offered......
There maybe some place like that for you - Mind/social services/ health services have support places all over Britain and if you have been taking anti-depressants for three years then you qualify- i had to prove I had problems for over two years!!!
I have been away ironicly at my sister's for a week and forgot my anti d's Cipralex so I thought I don't need them and gone cold Turkey. unfortunately my sleep has been affected and my dreams have been so weird and vivid and yesterday I cried in the Wacky warehouse!!! So maybe it wasn't agood idea. But I think i have got off lightly.
Will i go back on antid's don't know. maybe it will give me a chance to chat to my doctosr to really understand the situtation.
Any way I am good at rambling on someone elses thread.
As our daughter s are simialr age maybe I can understand!! I hope some of this helps.!??
Speak again...best wishes A-M
Tj noticed noticed you are new and in Manchester like me and you sound so positive. Lovely to hear that how are now? Is it your son is 5 now? I wonder if I will ever get over problems and my doaughter is nearly three as I say!!??
love
Anne-marie
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Post by tj on Jul 31, 2005 18:16:10 GMT
Hi Anne Marie,
I read you thread my heart goes out to you.....
For me, I'm such a believer in anti-depressants, as said before I wouldn't be here without them, please don't stop abruptly taking your anti-depressants, it takes a while to build up, so it does take a while to wean yourself of them, you really aren't doing yourself any favours, I did and it was horrendous, ended back at square one.
I have survived pnd depression, although I do not for one minute take away from all you ladies what you are going through, believe me I've been there. I really don't know how the nightmare started and ended, it still remains a blur to me, I just remember feeling like I was existing, getting through each day, was an achievement!, also having a little one to cope with at the same time, having to stop breast feeding because I had to go on anti-depressants to survive. (may sound extreme, but that was how it was).
I think if you can find a Health Vistor or a doctor, basically who tell's you, no your not going mad, my health visitor was really the light at the end of the tunnel and really owe her so much.
I am fine now, I still have my off days, pressures of life get abit much sometimes, but I keep it into prospective, I can always shut my front door and have the santity of my home....if that makes any sense, but know I can open the door and start a fresh the next day.
My daughter Alexandra who is eight, we have such a strong bond now, we've been through so much and I have truly been blessed. My son is five and didn't have post natal depression with him, although paranoid I was going to get it again, major stress as he was diagonosed with one kidney, although he is a healthy little boy (touch wood)...
Ain't life strange.. Anway hope I've sort of made sense....
take care god bless tj
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Post by bam02 on Jul 31, 2005 21:43:30 GMT
Thanks Tj,
I am home now and started anti -d Cipralex again -don't like the weird dreams! I had to stop breast feeding also as i needed stronger bl0od pressure tablets as I had prenatal and post natal eclampcia................ And anti biotics for my chest problems and imunity problems!
I am now 40 so as Sarah is nearly three my age pobably made me worse!
My nephew who is two and a maniac runs and little speech is a whirl wind !1 Think my sister nadher hubby are in for a shock!!!
Thanks Tj
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