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Post by monica on May 23, 2010 20:52:46 GMT
Hi
Any change at home with oh? I so get you - ar eyou sure you're not married to my bf? They are very similar- my bf goes on binges whilst I'm away usually - during that time he won't text me or phone me even if kids aren't well - it's like his drinking is the be and end all.
I'm sure this won't help but he is taking the piss. Is there anyone you can get to talk to him? Would he try relate or something similar? Soemtimes a third neutral person get them to see things they wont' see on their own. It's something I'm seriously considering.
thinking of you
Monica x
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Post by tabbysmum on May 25, 2010 12:36:48 GMT
Thanks Monica, we're over this crisis now, we've had a talk etc etc and he's sorry until the next time. Unfortunately now we've moved onto another one! My husband has a quick temper and over the years it's wore me down bit by bit. It's usually something small which triggers him - like being hungry, and it doesn't happen very often but i've had enough. We've had a lovely few days, getting on brilliantly and last night my daughter knocked a beaker of juice over which was on the tv stand - he went ballistic, started ranting and raving about it starting a fire - which I know is a valid point, he wouldn't let me clean it up and spent ages doing it himself, all the time snapping at us, he was screeching at Tabitha to sit on the settee and not to move or she'd go to bed etc etc - she'd done nothing wrong, she's only 2. When he'd finished cleaning I asked him why he was so angry and he starting going on about the fire risk etc. I tried to tell him it was an accident and he just went on and on and "that's ok then when we out on the street and the house has burnt down, it was only an accident" He said we couldn't be trusted and he was going to take the plug off the tv. When I questioned his right to speak to me like that he said I should just go off and cry like I normally do. We haven't spoken since. I stayed in the bedroom all evening and was awake all night, he stayed downstairs on the computer until silly o'clock even though he was up for work at 5. He went out without saying goodbye etc, completely ignored me, which he never does, even when i'm not speaking to him he kisses me goodbye. I just want to pack my bags, how can we go from being so happy to this, I just don't get it.
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Post by monica on May 25, 2010 16:43:50 GMT
I'm sorry how things are between you and oh again. I trully understsand how you feel because I have exactly the same thing at home. And the yoyoing has also really worn me down over the years.
I'm sure deep down your oh knows his behaviour is out of order it's getting him to admit it and do somethng about it. Maybe write him a letter? I did that to mine the other week and at least he read my point of view without having a go.
Thinking of youx
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Post by winegirl on May 25, 2010 20:14:24 GMT
Hi Mate
It sounds like he may have some issues of his own with struggling with his quick temper and inability to rationalize after the event. I know where you are coming from though, we can have a couple of good days then it can all fall apart over something like me moving something in the house and it causes a world war - and yes, it is very draining.
Im so sorry you have had to have this after having had a few good days. How has this evening been for you so far??
WG x
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Post by cokey on May 28, 2010 11:21:06 GMT
Hi Lydia
Sorry to hear things aren't great with Ed at the moment. It could be me writing that about Paul. We are just the same, so happy one minute and the next I absolutely want to leave. I think its because when they decide to be ok, we are ok but as soon as they so into shit-mode, we have to suffer and we remember its not acceptable for them to be like that. I know some of it can be me when I am blippy but still, Ed's behaviour wasn't good.
Having said all that I am sure he feels bad and you will sort it.
C xx
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Post by monica on Jul 10, 2010 15:35:43 GMT
Hi
how are you doing? how are thngs with oh?
Love
Monica
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