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Post by Scarlet on Apr 25, 2008 7:23:26 GMT
Hi Ladies, My LO is almost 20 months now, and is becoming a right handful. He's always climbing on tables, and the other day he climbed on the bed and jumped to turn on the light and fell off the bed. He also destroys everything he comes into contact with, and is constantly throwing things in the air (his new hobby), including all the CDs from my CD racks, remote controls, anything he can get his hands on. He threw one of his toys in the air and it fell on his head, but this still didn't stop him. He's become a real house-wrecker and the list of things he's broken is as long as my arm. He's also started whining when he wants attention, which I am ingoring hoping it will go away, but he does it in the middle of the night as well. Also he picks up the telephone and dials, and a frined of mine has just been charged for her kids ringing emergency number and calling an ambulance. If I get a bill for a couple of thousand I'll be mortified. My house is a continual tip and I 'm forever tidying up mess. I have tried time-out in his high-chair when he's naughty, but it's so often now, and I can't put him in his high-chair all day. My eldest was a breeze in comparison. Any tips to nip this behaviour in the bud would be very welcome....
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Post by southerngirl on Apr 25, 2008 11:02:19 GMT
Snap. Peanut is pretty much the same. I have run out of ideas too, anyone help us. Liz x
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Post by cazfletcher on Apr 25, 2008 14:56:11 GMT
at that age they understand more than they let on.if they make a mess, get them used to picking it up. remind them that the more mess they make, the more time they have to spend clearing it up, and the less time they have playing. mummy doesnt break your stuff when shes bored, how would you feel if mummy did?
call the phone company and you can block all outgoing calls to premium rate numbers etc. is the phone out of reach?
also be consistent. if youre not ok with them doing something, stick to telling them no, its naughty/silly, but tell them why ALWAYS. dont throw things at me it hurts etc. reward charts/systems work at this age too. start with a gold star in the morning. for every nice thing they do or good behaviour they display, they get a gold star. at the beginning, if they can get up to 5 stars by bedtime, they get a reward. build up to 10 stars. good luck
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Post by winegirl on Apr 25, 2008 19:18:32 GMT
Caz - you are now my child care guru! I will be using your assistance on tap I think!
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Post by cazfletcher on Apr 25, 2008 19:45:50 GMT
lol ok hun x
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Post by winegirl on Apr 25, 2008 21:26:09 GMT
I like the star chart but am stuck for ideas of rewards. Dont fancy giving LO chocolate or anything like that as a reward before bedtime. Any ideas??
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Post by cazfletcher on Apr 25, 2008 21:33:20 GMT
their favourite toy? a special video or dvd? or you can take them to a favourite place the next day or something?
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Post by winegirl on Apr 26, 2008 7:30:16 GMT
Yeah I like that idea! Thanks babes x
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 26, 2008 8:06:25 GMT
When mine need the extra insentive I make up a star chart where they have to fill in X amount of spaces then there is a giant star with what they want to do written in it. Sometimes its making playdoh, sometimes its taking the train to visit Nan or the bus (coz I always drive them) or it could just be a picnic in the local park or going swimming. Basically something we don't do very often even making pizza or something like that.
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Post by nicola1712 on Apr 29, 2008 13:10:39 GMT
Star charts always work wonders...
My LO isn't big enough yet for this problem but am thinking of what my mum used to with us - if we wanted a new toy out we had to put the other ones away first. If we didn't wear out seatbelts in the car or undid them she would just pull over and sit there until we put them on again (we got bored quicker than she did!)
If we threw things we had to then go and pick them up and put it away. Oh and my nan even threw toys away/on the fire if my mum didn't tidy them up! She only had to so it once mind you!!
As a teacher when I want the kids to tidy I tell them I will count to ten and the room has to be spotless - they love working to a given time, it is like a race then.
Glad to have found out that thing about the phone though from caz - might be useful. And yes consistency is the key - carry out the threats you make or they won't believe you...
Praise them to high heaven when they do something good and if one is being good and the other not, give your attention to the one being good. Amazing how quickly the other one will then copy them!
Will keep an eye on this thread myself for other ideas!
xxx
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Post by winegirl on Apr 29, 2008 20:52:35 GMT
This is a great thread as a first time (and last time) mum I really am learning loads!
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Post by Scarlet on Apr 30, 2008 7:10:11 GMT
Oooo I had forgotten about this thread I wrote, daft that I am. Thank you so much for your tips. I like the one about stopping premium numbers, although he tends to ring 100 which is the emergency number. I did star charts with my eldest when he was about 3, but I think at 20 months my LO is a wee bit too young. But... I will get him to help me tidy up most certainly, and I will always tell him why and try to be consistent (thanks Caz), which is my problem have to admit. He's been a good boy this week, have had him doing exercises with me, and have been giving him lots of mum time... trying to get in my 17,000 words . He follows me around like a little lap dog, awwww bless!!!. I love him to bits, and when he's wrecking my house he does it with a cheeky grin. I think he needs a bit more attention. Thanks again ladies xxxx
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Post by cheshire on Apr 30, 2008 9:43:23 GMT
He follows me around like a little lap dog, awwww bless!!!. I love him to bits, and when he's wrecking my house he does it with a cheeky grin. Sounds familiar!!
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Post by sianyc on May 2, 2008 12:14:20 GMT
My youngest was a bit little for charts and naughty step at 20 months. She gets it now at 2 and half.
It was a case of riding it out until she could understand and distracting her with other things. Know what you mean though, my eldest is NOTHING like that and the lo is a monkey - a loveable one but hard work - when the house goes quiet you just know to find her quick before she wrecks something else
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Post by nicola1712 on May 2, 2008 18:48:28 GMT
Am sooooo not looking forward to my LO getting to this stage!
Went to a baby group the other day with two friends whose LOs are same age as mine. When we left there was another lady with her LO and older boy of about four. He went into a MASSIVE tantrum as we left cos he didn't want to go and got himself in such a state. She tried and tried to pick him up, coax him to go with her, explain etc but ended up walking off and hiding behind a bush watching him waiting for him to calm down/realise she wasn't there.
We all walked off and left them to it cos she was so embarrassed and gave her massive looks of sympathy, saying how we just can't wait.
My mum says she can't wait till my LO does it cos apparently I was a nightmare and she used to leave me screaming in the aisles of shops. She thinks it will be pay back time.
xxx
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