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Post by stevensmummy on May 28, 2008 14:24:36 GMT
My OH announces the other week that he would like it if we tried for a baby now rather than in a few years, as we had initially planned.
I have decided against going back to uni right now and will wait another year maybe 2 to enjoy being a mummy, we are gettin by financially and he fears if I start working again I wont go back to being a mum again.
He has a good point, one many have pointed out when I stated my plans before and I really do want another. He really wants another too, hopefully a girl, as we have 2 boys.
Am I mad? Is it possible to get pni 3 times round? Can I really cope with 3 kids? Is it really horrible being the middle child?
My mind is buzzing at all the questions, but i keep also getting excited flutters at the thought of possibly getting to have another. I keep dreaming about how this is what I had always planned and I might actually do it and feel like my family is complete.
Sarah x
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Post by winegirl on May 28, 2008 15:23:39 GMT
Hi Sarah
Just wanted to say that I have posted about this in your diary hun. But just to add I think you would be a FAB mum to three kids! My mate has three children aged 4, 2 and 1 - i told her she was off her head but she tells me that having three isnt much different to having two children!
Go with your heart babes x
WG xx
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Post by stevensmummy on May 29, 2008 9:51:50 GMT
Good point WG, I'm told having 3 isnt much diff to 2. I know how much easier its been 2nd time round so 3rd must be easier too. I think 1st time you worry about so much and make so many mistakes you end up compensating for them for years, well look at steven, even now I am still struggling with his sleeping and hes 3!
Coil comes out nxt wk, so think i will just carry on as normal and if it happends then its meant to be.
thanx x
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Post by gizmoracer on May 29, 2008 16:41:21 GMT
Hi Sarah.
I've got much the same phlisophy as you on this one. Let fate decide when you are ready. I know that once I went back to work it is unlikely I would want to give it up again. We are also looking at trying for a third this year. A friend of mine has 3 boys aged 5, 4 and 2 1/2 and she is on her own with them and is also a fellow PNI survivor. I think it is possible to get PNI as many times as you have children it depends on you personally and your circumstances. As far as I can work out we are at a greater risk shall we say with a history of it already. HOWEVER make it known to the GP and midwife and make sure OH keeps a close eye on you and you will be fine. IF it sets in again it will be picked up early and therefore treated early. We as mothers can't let this illness dictate our lives and happiness.
In so saying let fate decide there are a few tricks to upping your chances of a girl. The main one that I remember and worked for me (No Gurentees here) is to know your cycle well. To be scientific, male sperm are stronger swimmers and die younger to female sperm. So the theory is if you have sex after ovulating then the male sperm have a better chance of getting there first whereas if you have sex before ovulating then there is more female sperm left waiting for when the egg is released. (Sperm are supposed to survive 3-4 days). All very complicated I know.
Anyway I am rambling. So let us know what happens and good luck.
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Post by stevensmummy on May 29, 2008 20:47:07 GMT
Cheers Giz, I' going to research this a bit and try to get a girl. My OH would love a little girl and really I would too. My boys are fantastic and I wanted a boy first but now after 2 I fancy a girl. No really I would love a girl. I would be ahppy with any healthy baby but a girl would be complete family. Dont really fancy trying for 4 but hey we'll see how it goes!
Coil out on tues, then we're off on the trot! OH wil think its his b'day lol
So being blonde. When am I ovulating? How do I know?
xx
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Post by winegirl on May 29, 2008 21:00:19 GMT
Check out www.fertilityfriend.com. I have PCOS and was told I couldnt conceive so went through everything fertility related. This website tells you when you ovulate, what signs to look for and how to take your BBT (basal body temperature) etc with a graph to plot them on. I always knew exactly when i was ovulating and fourteen days after you have ovulated you know if your preg becaude your BBT keeps rising as opposed to dipping, thats how I knew I was pg. ANy fertility type questions, just drop us an email. After 2 years of trying and all the advce under th sun I see myself as a bit of an expert! LOL x
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Post by stevensmummy on May 29, 2008 21:03:58 GMT
Cheers hun, i'll check that out and consult our resident fertility expert when required! xx
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Post by winegirl on May 29, 2008 21:05:48 GMT
Happy trying!! LOl x
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Post by stevensmummy on May 30, 2008 6:58:36 GMT
Thats exactly what the OH has been saying, last nights excuse was we better practice!
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Post by Scarlet on May 30, 2008 7:21:25 GMT
I have a diet for a girl/boy, and you have to follow it for 2 months before tryng to conceive. Do you wanna try it? Mind you no come backs if you produce another little fella of course. ;D
I can pm you more details hun.
xxx
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Post by winegirl on May 30, 2008 7:22:50 GMT
And I have info on when to `get practicing' to have a girl if you want that info too..
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Post by Scarlet on May 30, 2008 7:59:12 GMT
Me too hun, I have that info as well...Goodness knows why, although if I did (in another lifetime of course, as I'm way over the hill) produce another, then I'd want a litle girly.
xxxx
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Post by larsbars on May 30, 2008 15:44:40 GMT
Hi Sarah,
I've just read your initial postr and it's like me at the moment. I too would like a third baby. I want to start trying around August but am going over the exact same questions as you are. I've always wanted 3 or 4 and feel that 3 would make our family complete although I did worry about getting bad PNI again and whether I should chance it but as gizmoracer says I don't want PNI to dictate my life. I'm just gonna go for it and worry if I need to. My 2 are 15 months and nearly 3 and if I get pregnant when I want I'll have 3 under 4. Argghh. I know it's not old but I'm 34 now and couldn't wait until the other 2 were at school because for me I would be too old to start again. Plus I would like to be able to work so that I can bring some money. I guess life will have to be utter chaos for a few years but I kno ot will be worth it.
I'm a middle child and you kind of get left alone really. You're not supposed to be setting any examples and you don't get wrapped in cotton wool. It wasn't all bad!
My OH always jokes about us 'practising' how to make a baby. They think they're being really funny don't they!!!
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Post by stevensmummy on Jun 4, 2008 15:41:04 GMT
Hi Guys, been too sore to sit on a comp for the last 2 days!
I'll catch up proper 2nite or 2moro am.
Yep lars they do think they're funny, must be a man thing! I dont say lets go and practice I just turn and say come upstairs and hes there like a shot!! Throwing a bra at him works too, infact anything would work I think, lol.
I'm going to try my best with the girl stuff. Cheers Scarket any advice will be great, and no love ure not over the hill, ure auntie scarlet, mature and wise!
WG I'll get round to reading when I'm not so sore and let you know if I'm being a bimbo and dont understand lol.
This coil is getting cursed, its sorer coming out than going in!
xx
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Post by winegirl on Jun 4, 2008 20:46:48 GMT
Hi Babes Have posted in your diary about things but thought I would mention that link again here... www.fertilityfriend.comWG xx
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