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Post by cheshire on Sept 22, 2008 9:42:30 GMT
Ways for other people to help ''Don't be shocked or disappointed if your wife, partner, sister or girlfriend confesses that she has felt awful since the birth of her baby. Take the time to listen and make sure that she gets the support and help she needs. Try not to be shocked or disappointed by a diagnosis of PND - it is common and can be effectively helped. Do all you can to help with the practical things that need to be done, while your partner does not feel up to doing them - shopping, feeding and changing the baby, or housework. Make sure that you are clear about what is happening. Get advice on how to help, especially if you are the mother's partner. Make sure that you have some support yourself. If this is a first baby, you may feel pushed to one side, both by the baby and by your partner's needs. Try not to feel resentful. Your partner needs your support and encouragement. Practical help with the baby, sympathetic listening, patience, affection and being positive will go a long way. Your partner will appreciate this even when the depression is over. '' www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/mentalhealthproblems/postnatalmentalhealth/postnataldepression.aspx
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Post by terri26 on Jan 5, 2009 21:51:41 GMT
hi hopeful,
i'm new to forum's and haven't quite worked out how to post my question generally, so i'm just sending it to you for now!
i think that a friend is suffering from PNI, but she's not a hugely close friend, and she won't return my calls, which I can totally understand if she is depressed. Do you think I should keep bugging her? I'm going to try emailing her, but do you think I should keep leaving phone messages or will she hate that.
any ideas?
terri
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Post by winegirl on Jan 5, 2009 22:01:21 GMT
Hi Terri
Welcome to the site x
I think you have to tread really carefully here. If you bug her too much you run the risk or pushing her away. But you need to be there for her too. I think sending her a delicately worded email is a good thing. let her know you are there for her etc.. If she doesnt reply dont email her back 2 days later. Give it some time before trying again.
I know when I had PNI I would have been seriously p****d off with anyone bugging me when I wanted to be left alone, but on the other hand I needed to know that I still had people around me and wasnt alone.
If you want you could give your friend a link to our site where we would be more than happy to talk to her.
You sound like a great friend x
WG xx
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