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Post by Weeble on Apr 10, 2010 10:01:08 GMT
I feel really worried about asking about this, because I know I am lucky to have this as an option. But could do with advice and need to write about how confused I am by this.
So I work full time normally, and will be working full time technically from may (lots of holiday to take). I am pregnant have a seven month old and a 3.5 year old. Both my job and my OH involve travel and some long days. When we had just S we juggled, with help from my parents and our childminder. However, my parents are excluded from my life at them moment, my OH and I have both been promoted in the past six months and have much bigger jobs, my OH travels across europe and is away quite a bit normally.
My GP, psychiatrist and friends have all told me I am going to collapse unless I get a nanny particularly with my PNI and when the new one comes in sept when I have another section. I am not sure, it makes logical sense, but I like where they go at that moment, i dont want someone in my house if I get ill with the PNI again after the birth and I dont want someone else being closer to my children than me.
So I know it is a luxury that I can consider it, so please excuse my lack of gratefulness for my circumstances. But advice please
Kat
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Post by Hopeful on Apr 10, 2010 12:04:59 GMT
Hi Kat, I don't know if this will be helpful - but just to relay my experiences really! I was full time with first and went part time after second/ PNI. Husband used to work very long hours and this was a good solution (going part time). However, have recently increased hours - as husband is taking time out to be a stay at home dad. Had he continued with the 12 hour days and had I also chosen to apply for / accept current new position - I must admit to considering an au pair or a nanny of sorts. I don't think I could do my job full time, 2 children (my son also has special needs) + husband working round the clock and travelling. Well, I say that, if our lives depended on it, I'm sure I would manage, but since PNI, health is something I value more and I like to do my job well. So my advice would be to go for the nanny and to cut yourself some slack Hopefulxx
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Post by winegirl on Apr 11, 2010 10:24:14 GMT
Hi Kat
Im with Hopeful... Ultimately you have to think of yourself, and Nanny's/Au Pair's know their place.. I think it is a good idea! I know I struggle like hell working full time, juggling nursery, housework etc..
Dont worry about appearing ungrateful! Everyone has different circumstances and lifestyles and its ultimately about you and your comfort zone!!
WG x
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Post by Weeble on Apr 12, 2010 20:37:23 GMT
Thanks girls, made me feel less guilty and more able to say it on here. However, two problems, hoping beyond all hope that I dont get sick again but needed home treatment team/admission for five weeks this time. If it happens again,which it will not unless OH starts again, want to be able to stay at home, do not feel that would work with a nanny in the house. Also, house quite small really for six people - two adults, three kids and a nanny, never a moment peace.
Finally, tried today to start looking into this and Monica's idea, however, just seem overwhelmed by size of the problem and how to do this. What about interviews, contracts, cars, hours, sick leave and all that rubbish.
lets see how I do, have learned that I do things in much smaller steps since last august than I used to.
Kat
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