Advice Please

[davidh21]

Hi there, I am looking of ways to help my wife, she has bad PNI and is prescribed medication from the doctors. We have a 5 month old and she had a very traumatic time after the birth with medical complications.

She is like a firework just now and nothing I say or do seems to help in any way. She is constantly talking of 'disappearing' and our marriage is over. But between these angry time she goes back to the lovely woman i met several years ago. She takes it out on my mother so I get dragged into arguments between them both and I have no idea where to turn.

Can anyone please offer any advice to help her? I am at wits end. Thankyou

[juppster]

Hi David and very warm welcome
Firstly, I am sorry your wife is suffering with pni but also that you are suffering too. It is such a rollercoaster of emotions for everyone involved and it can be really really tough on partners. Do you think the medication is helping her at all? Often a combination of medication and counselling / cbt / therapy is the best way forward. Do you think your wife would consider seeking out some of the above to help her move forward?
Some of the other ladies will be along later with their own advice but for now I would just suggest to continue doing what you are doing but also take time for yourself. Know that your wife is ill and suffering at the moment and I am sure alot of the emotions she is expressing are out of pure frustration and fear.
Please feel free to keep posting here so you have somewhere to offload and maybe suggest this site to your wife if you think she would be open to that? Thinking of you x

[Weeble]

Hi David

Stick with her and take a big deep breath. Two years ago, I was suicidal, confused, scared and angry. Now I am a brilliant mum to my children, back at work and going out on my own. I did this with lots of help but the most important thing is the love and help my husband can me.

Kat