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Post by steph on Dec 31, 2013 19:02:52 GMT
Hi all Have been finding the holidays quite tough being stuck in most of the time and lots of irrational thoughts popping in and out. As much as I love Christmas time I'm definitely someone who copes better with PNI with routine of home/work balance etc. Just started my period so that probably hasn't been helping. Just so irritating that the same old thoughts always get to me and get my mind racing and doubting myself. I know it's just a blip and I will get back on track again, you'd think I'd just be bored of it all by now but like I said before these are just my fears which will always be there but I just cope with them differently depending on how I'm feeling. It's just getting me down a little as this time of year is special and I was hoping this would all be at the back of my mind a little more. Haven't told hubby how I'm feeling just yet as don't want to dwell to much on things but know he is there should I need to get things off my chest a little. Quiet night in for us tonight. Happy New Year everyone! Hears hoping 2014 is a good one
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Post by juppster on Jan 1, 2014 20:33:00 GMT
Hey, happy new year to you too x I'm exactly the same, need routine and space! It happens every time there are school holidays but at least you know what your trigger is, I know it doesn't make it any easier! Talk to your hubby, it might just make you feel a tinsy bit better xx
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Post by monica on Jan 2, 2014 18:28:24 GMT
Thanks Steph. All the best to you too.
Xmas is sstresssful. We all have this idea of a perfect Xmas but it's very fraught time and lists of work. With pni in particular, it can add to feeling even worse.
Hopefully by next week life will be calmerx
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Post by Weeble on Jan 4, 2014 13:46:34 GMT
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Post by monica on Jan 7, 2014 17:59:34 GMT
How are things?x
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Post by steph on Jan 8, 2014 20:10:19 GMT
Hi Monica I'm doing OK thank you, how are you? I'm starting to get back into routine now a little which helps. Still have the daily jitters but coping which is good. I know I've mentioned this a lot but I can't tell you how much of a support this site is for me. Just reading other posts of other women suffering and people's advice really helps you to realise you are not alone and we are all here to help each other. Whenever I get a worrying thought I am just saying to myself, it's just an anxious thought and it will pass if you just let it go. Still finding some situations difficult which can bring on anxiety but refusing to not do the things I have always enjoyed with my children. Decided to start running once the weather improves a bit, will be good to get out in the fresh air and get the endorphins going Also possibly we may be getting a dog in the summer time so need to get fit for that too (god help me) we've all wanted a dog for a while now, my daughter would be thrilled so we shall see. Lots of plans for 2014! Had anyone else made some interesting news years resolutions?
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Post by monica on Jan 9, 2014 12:41:53 GMT
Wow what a positive post! You're doing brilliantly ! You'll see the blips in time will get easier to manage.
Fantastic news on the running. That will give you a huge boost. I remember my first bad blip - I felt dreadfully depressed and went into an aerobics class desperately low and came out feeling normal.
You mentioned you might be getting a dog. What breed? It'll be fantastic. I'm currently dog sitting my sisters black lab. He's adorable and a constant source of entertainment for the kids . I've even got used to the poop scooping!
My new year resolutions are to lose a bit of weight, maybe try to change jobs or do something else temporarily as need to get some enthusiasm back into my life - oh and sort out finances! A tall order for me!
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Post by Weeble on Jan 18, 2014 23:15:02 GMT
Wow look at you girl.
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Post by steph on Feb 1, 2014 21:34:19 GMT
Thanks for sharing your news years resolution's Monica How are yours working out so far? I haven't started running just yet, have been debating going out in the recent wet weather. Will hopefully get started soon. Would still very much like to get a dog but hubby not so sure, I guess he's thinking more practically about things and that maybe having a puppy will be a handful with the children as well but I think life is too short and if it's something we really want we should just go for it. The kids would love it and it would get us out in the fresh air more often Hopefully in the Spring/Summer we will be in a better position to get one and prob a lot easier to train etc during the dryer months. As for breeds, we like so many - love Collies and Spaniels On the PNI front been having some more good weeks since Christmas which has been great. Feeling so much more like me again. Have my daily mind battles but just focus on other things and remind myself of everything I have learnt so far
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Post by monica on Feb 9, 2014 13:31:46 GMT
Sorry for late reply. It's wonderful to hear things are going well. You really are doing so well putting into practice the techniques you've learnt. Be proud of yourself!
Re NY resolutions .... Weight not going great but am hoping things pick up. Have started doing more exercise. On the money front, things not too bad but not making much effort in tracking my expenditure. Never have time!
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Post by steph on Mar 14, 2014 21:11:16 GMT
Wow! Can't beleive it's been about 6 weeks since my last post!! Where to start?? Glad to see that Spring is gradually starting to arrive. On the whole I can say I've been coping really well these past weeks/months. Unfortunately though I've been off work all this week with a nasty cold/flu bug so been trying to rest as much as is possible when you have two little ones!! Luckily my daughter has school and my little man goes to childminder so that's given me a bit of restbite. My son's been at home with me today though as he's not right either bless him! Hubby has been on night shifts so not been around much to help but has been great when he has The annoying thing about being poorly is that I know it can often be a trigger for anxiety for me especially if for more than a few days. I find with being limited on energy, being stuck indoors and not much communication with the outside world my mind wanders and while I'm feeling low where I'm poorly it makes me dwell on negatives etc. So... I have been a little anxious this week on top of feeling quite rough. The silly usual thoughts are trying to get the better of me which doesn't help when you are stuck indoors, being alot more irrational than I am normally. Due on too so that probably adding to things. On a plus side have started to feel a little more human today so fingers crossed this bug is on its way out now. Will try and use this weekend to flush out the negativity and get back on track. I do have some exciting news to share... We are bringing home our puppy 'Elsa' on the 6th April. She is a Sprocker spaniel (Spring x Cocker). She is adorable and can't wait for her to become part off the family. Managed to convince hubby to take the plunge, he does still have reservations and would have preferred to have waited a little longer but managed to bend his arm in the end. You probably think I'm nuts but I think it will be lovely, will get us all out more and the kids will love her plus I heard once that dog owners are less stressful?! So we shall see. Often thinking of you all xx
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Post by juppster on Mar 15, 2014 18:01:02 GMT
Lovely to hear from you Steph and to hear you sounding so positive....good luck with the puppy xx
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Post by monica on Mar 17, 2014 19:32:47 GMT
Hi
You are really doing brilliantly and that's wonderful to hear ! Hope ur feeling better. I know even now I find if I'm physically ill it gets me down or can make me but anxious so as unpleasant as it can be its s common reaction.
Fab news on the dog front ! My sister got a pup Labrador last year and we've looked after him on a few occasions several weeks at a time. He's adorable and a constant source of entertainment for the kids . Ur so right he gets you out the house whether you want to or not and I found that even during the winter thst does the whole family the world of goodx
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Post by kmum on Apr 3, 2014 22:16:08 GMT
So strange to hear you ladies say that yoursekf or child being ill (like with cold or flu) is a trigger for anxiety! It's also mine but up until about 3 or so weeks ago I thought it was only me! Weird!!! But very comforting indeed :-)
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Post by steph on Jan 10, 2015 20:33:46 GMT
Happy New Year Everyone! Hope you all had a lovely Christmas?
I've been doing really well throughout 2014 despite the odd wobble hear and there. Still taking my meds which I reduced down to 20mg Citolopram a couple of months back. For me I don't see myself coming off medication for a long time yet as I find I can really struggle with anxiety so it does help take the edge off should a blip occur.
Strangely enough I have been having a bit of a blip this past week or so since the New Year! Negative/intrusive thought patterns creeping in and anxiety levels spiralling a bit but trying my best to stay on top of things and power through. It's the worrying about worrying that is the real frustration, that constant niggle that something awful may pop into my head and send me over the edge while I'm with the children. It may sound mad but I just try to tell that little voice in my head that I'm not a bad person, I'm a happy, positive loving mummy who adores life and her children and will not be tricked into thinking otherwise!! My prediction is that I'm feeling a little deflated after Christmas and have the January blues a little and whenever I feel low or anxious of course all my old fears and insecurities rise to the surface. Very frustrating and upsetting at times as I just want to be rid of this anxiety and worry but I guess I wouldn't be me without it. My anxiety is part of me and I just have to continue to learn to cope when things get a little tough.
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