Post by FirstTimeMam on Jul 17, 2017 10:13:12 GMT
Hi
I have a 7 week old baby boy who I love so so much but I find myself really struggling to adapt to motherhood 😢
I am 35 and it has always just been myself and my husband. We discussed having children and both agreed it was what we wanted. I am ashamed to admit i envisaged a well behaved baby who would fit seamlessly into our lives and we could carry on as before. This of course has not been the case our son has colic and a touch of reflux so I find myself exhausted and feeling so out of my depth like I don't know what is right for my son. It is just so so hard.
I had the usual baby blues but now I am plagued by thoughts of omg is this my life now? I miss my independence, I can't imagine ever feeling normal again and I get jealous when I see people enjoying their life. I dread mornings (I have no idea why) I think I just feel overwhelmed for the day ahead, I'm scared to go places incase the baby cries and I can't settle him. We end up spending the day in doors which makes me feel guilty as I should be getting out and about for my babies development. I cant seem to get anything done (he doesn't expect it but I want to have my husbands tea ready etc) I just end up sitting and holding my baby because he cries if I put him down (which I find hard and frustrating that I don't know how to settle him)
I know I sound so selfish and it makes me ashamed but I am scared that I will never adapt and I will never feel like my old self. Have other people felt like this does it lift in time?? Is it because my baby is not as settled as some due to colic etc that I am finding it hard? does it just get easier as baby gets older. I find myself wishing his life away until he can talk so I can ask him what's making him upset!! This makes me feel so inadequate as a mother I feel like I shouldn't have made the decision as it is my son who is suffering from not having a happy mother.
Sorry just wanted to get it out as I darent admit that I'm struggling to friends and family I am normally so in control
I have a 7 week old baby boy who I love so so much but I find myself really struggling to adapt to motherhood 😢
I am 35 and it has always just been myself and my husband. We discussed having children and both agreed it was what we wanted. I am ashamed to admit i envisaged a well behaved baby who would fit seamlessly into our lives and we could carry on as before. This of course has not been the case our son has colic and a touch of reflux so I find myself exhausted and feeling so out of my depth like I don't know what is right for my son. It is just so so hard.
I had the usual baby blues but now I am plagued by thoughts of omg is this my life now? I miss my independence, I can't imagine ever feeling normal again and I get jealous when I see people enjoying their life. I dread mornings (I have no idea why) I think I just feel overwhelmed for the day ahead, I'm scared to go places incase the baby cries and I can't settle him. We end up spending the day in doors which makes me feel guilty as I should be getting out and about for my babies development. I cant seem to get anything done (he doesn't expect it but I want to have my husbands tea ready etc) I just end up sitting and holding my baby because he cries if I put him down (which I find hard and frustrating that I don't know how to settle him)
I know I sound so selfish and it makes me ashamed but I am scared that I will never adapt and I will never feel like my old self. Have other people felt like this does it lift in time?? Is it because my baby is not as settled as some due to colic etc that I am finding it hard? does it just get easier as baby gets older. I find myself wishing his life away until he can talk so I can ask him what's making him upset!! This makes me feel so inadequate as a mother I feel like I shouldn't have made the decision as it is my son who is suffering from not having a happy mother.
Sorry just wanted to get it out as I darent admit that I'm struggling to friends and family I am normally so in control