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Oct 10, 2017 21:31:16 GMT
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Post by Mom2three on Oct 10, 2017 21:31:16 GMT
Today is my daughters 1st birthday- by now I hoped I'd have my head together. I got the baby blues tears 2-3 days after her birth last year and they're just never gone away. Don't get me wrong I don't sit there and sob like I did when she was first born- but I'm just not me, unless I've gone out for a drink with friends. I'm just so tired and can't be bothered. I just feel sad- so sad. Myself and my partner have been arguing. Not even serious, just constant bickering over stupid things like, who's changed the most nappies, who's turn to make the bottles, who's washed up more, who woke in the night more, who's turn to get up with the kids etc. It's so stupid but it's really dragging me down further. I have never been to the doctors, I'm too ashamed. I have a great bond with my daughter in fact I feel it's better than my two older kids, which leaves me with more guilt. They say about that rush of love, I never knew what that was until I had her. Which is sad as I have 2 older children. I'm back at work, which I hate. I just hate life in general. When will things get better?
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Oct 11, 2017 8:27:16 GMT
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Post by monica on Oct 11, 2017 8:27:16 GMT
Welcome momto3
I'm sorry you've been struggling with this awful and cruel illness. Anniversaries like birthdays can be extremely painful - a reminder of how long you've been struggling for, how you expect you should feel but don't.
It does sound like life is better but clearly far from how you'd want it to be. Please consider going to speak to your dr. He will ha e heard your story a thousand time before, after all up to 20% of women who have babies feel similarily. You don't have to feel this way but with support your recovery will be quicker for sure.
Your dr can offer you talking therapy which can be really great at offloading, recognising triggers and learning coping techniques .
Another option can be antidepressants . They turned things around for me. There are pros and cons to this but can make a huge difference.
You can also do things for yourself. Could you do a little exercise? Even a brisk walk can go a long way. The endorphins can give you a huge boost. Maybe take up an interest - it can give you that much needed boost. Also perhaps sit down with your partner and discuss the bickering. I think this type of thing goes on with most couple with kids but can be very draining. Having kids is exhausting for both parties but pulling together makes life far more harmonious .
Please do keep talking - we really do understand here x
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