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Post by monica on Aug 6, 2022 7:32:54 GMT
Hi Turtlelover
Please don't worry about replying to a different thread rather than the one you intended - if you reply I will pick it up!
I'm sorry to hear things have been unsuccessful on the housing front. I'm afraid I don't know the technicalities of it all but that it's a rigid framework of rules and regulations and you have to live somewhere for a particular length of time to qualify for housing in that area etc. Very complicated and absolutely no good if you need to get away from somewhere especially for your mental health.
A thought that popped up in my head was that even though you can't do much about the accommodation, perhaps you could focus on trying to do something for yourself? Whether that's seek some sort of therapy where you can simply offload the many stresses youre faced with or try to start a hobby or interest. I know this isn't easy. So for example, together with your daughter perhaps there is a baby massage class you could attend where you also might meet other parents? Or start the couch to 5k, swim once a week. But something where you can invest time into yourself. It doesn't have to me for long but it's something for you.
Keep talking x
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Post by TurtleLover on Oct 15, 2022 22:20:42 GMT
It’s all got worse Police been involved- mum refused to bring daughter back Then she gave him ilgeal notice to leav and assultes him - partner
Housing aid won’t take us Local council won’t take us I have to live hear until she tells social or housing truth that she makes my life living hell most days Doesn’t understand what it’s like to breast feed thai long, as she never did it. Doesn’t get how hard it is to do it without ppl you wish wee still living n could see your child Now took away my support network and expects me to do all house work n lol after my child, and 86 year old etc… when she not around Where’s my support No it’s well how the hell fonother women do it?? I’m telling you they don’t. They don’t have ocd n have to 20 washes a day like you mother, they are allowe pjs days once in awhile n don’t have to b showered ans dressed at 6 am after getting up 3/4 times since 11pm 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
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Post by monica on Oct 19, 2022 18:47:52 GMT
Oh Turtlelover , you’re having such a tough time! I’m so sorry things have worsened so much. Have you been able to tell your side of the story to the police? It must be so hard and I guess you feel trapped.
I would say go to your gp and speak to them about how you feel and what’s going on. Perhaps you could have some regular therapy or similar? You need a place to offload safely and learn coping strategies and maybe how to deal with your mum. You probably can’t change her but you can learn to control how you react . I’m not diminishing the difficulties you’re facing but learning how to cope in these circumstances can be helpful.
Whilst the situation is awful, my advice would be to try to carve some time for yourself and to do something you enjoy to have a focal point to your life and a distraction. That might be going to a mother and toddler group, signing up for a course etc.
Please keep talking x
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Post by monica on Nov 13, 2022 9:59:34 GMT
Hi
I was just thinking of you and wondering how you were doing. I hope things have settled down x
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