supernature
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Post by supernature on Apr 15, 2005 6:30:33 GMT
I will be in Cornwall on hols this summer Vee.
Staying nr Newquay, i hope we get some lovely weather, but if it rains for two weeks, you know i'm around... hee hee , it always rains for me.
Jude
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Post by francoise on Apr 15, 2005 7:50:01 GMT
hi jude
are you staying in a caravan park , i love caravan holidays
i spend alot of my time round newquay in the little shops and polperro , we have leons birthday just before we go so this year will be so different having a one year old with us in the caravan and out in the parks n stuff
im hoping the weather is nice but not to hot eh as i am not sure how leons skin will tolerate the sun yet
fran x
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Post by Veritee on Apr 15, 2005 8:09:14 GMT
I’ll look out for the rain then Jude You are not down here now are you?
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Dear Anna
Yes on reflection what I said was harsh and OTT and I was going to delete it after some thought but did not get round to it.
But I am only human you know and I can get stressed and do really want , for the good of individuals and for the forum for the recent disagreements between people to be dropped at least publicly on the forum
Before people get hurt more and before it affects the forum so new people who are not part of this feel they can not be 'safe' here.
In view of our recent discussions on issues you raised with me -
I am afraid rightly or wrongly I did read what you said Anna, as not really being a general comment but actually a reference to the recent issues between some people who met on the site - outside the forum, including you and Fran.
If in fact what you said was not actually to do with that but a was intended as a general comment and I was wrong about how I read it - I am sorry and apologise, but the similarity of the two issues makes it hard for me to work out what it was about
Posts do often refer indirectly to a specific issues leaving the reader to work out what was meant – as you will know?
Last night I was tired and quite honestly worried about the forum as I have to be at a wedding from late this afternoon till Sunday afternoon.
I am staying in a hotel with internet access so might get on but was worried that I might not and worried in case stuff between people blew up when I was not around to monitor the site and to do anything.
So panicked really.
It is not at all that you have to say what I want on here; but it is my forum and I do ask that people think about the affects on the forum as a support tool for women newly diagnosed or in distress as well as ongoing support for others - that it might have if you are going to say something critical about the forum.
If I feel this has not been taken into consideration I have a right to comment or delete posts, only I prefer to comment than delete something someone else has written
As you know as you have been using the forum some time, criticism of the forum very much does affect its use. I would also rather this sort of debate happened on the 'debates' sections and
I should not have left this thread here.
I was very tired last nigh having been to a stressfull meeting which for my sins I had to chair which pushes my adrenaline right up - sorry
And I suppose on a personal level I know I can not prevent relationships outside the forum if people want to make them and I certainly not really affect what goes on in them!!
But I run the forum only to support women with PNI and if issues between women outside the forum itself, gets in the way, the relationships are not really my business, only the forum - although if it will help to avoid problems I am willing to change things on the forum if it will help - but I think I have a right to ask that they are kept off the forum.
Which is all I am asking here.
So if I did misread what you meant I am sorry but in view of your recent feelings so that you are not misunderstood perhaps you should for the time being avoid issues on the forum that in some way relate to or reflect what happened for you in yur friendships outside the forum.
As it is very hard for me not to assume that you are carrying on this on the forum in a non - explicit way.
And I have asked that as far as the forum is concerned it is dropped and I can ask this.
So accept my apology if your comments bore no relation to your recent issues about, outside relationships, peoples motives, accountability and moderator’s behaviour etc etc.
But as this thread seems to be causing too much misunderstanding and controversyand obvouldy on my part too due to wanting to protect the forum so much.
( I have run it so long - in a way it is a huge part of my life and I do get stressed and panic when I feel its effectiveness could be affected, so I am sorry for this)
But for now I intend to move this thread to the 'Forum debate' section and lock it when I go to the wedding until I get back.
I will leave what I have written for now and your reply as indeed I do believe in free speech, but I do think this thread is going in such a direction it will upset and scare people unnecessarily.
It is right to point out the dangers but it might put people off if too much is said .
have been running forums for a very long time and what you suggest ( a troll) has rarely happened on here and I think it is unlikely to and easily spotted ( hamburger boy we thought was one and we bombarded him with replies that he could not be bothered to carry on and wwe delete a couple of others)
Anyway to avoid any more misunderstandings - including the possibility of me misunderstanding you which I really did not want to do - I will now move this thread and lock it till I get back.
Can we all get back to normal on here?
It is so good and positive for all of us when it is going well and we are all getting on and so negative when anyone on the fourm has a beef with another - we are all then affected.
All the best
Veritee
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supernature
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Post by supernature on Apr 15, 2005 14:21:22 GMT
No Vee, I'm not, must someone else causing the rain this week.... ;D
Last time I was there it blew the high winds and storms, just before the Bocastle disaster actually, we were there a few weeks before that.
When I think of what those people had to go through I get a real perspective of my problems.
Anyway gtg for now. Jude
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