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Post by justme 31 on Mar 27, 2008 21:57:38 GMT
obssessive thoughts r still bad tonight... its really startin to p me off!! feel better then i did earlier and can manage to distract myself even if it just for half hour.. its really horrid its like i will have ten mins without the thoughts and then they come back.. i just wana b normal!
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Post by winegirl on Mar 27, 2008 22:15:33 GMT
Honestly JM, 10 mins turns to half hour, then half hour turns to an hour, then a day, then a week etc...
Hang in there babes, you are on the right road and we are there with you xx
Love
WG X (())
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Post by cokey on Mar 28, 2008 9:12:43 GMT
10 mins is great. I haven't got to that stage yet but I know in a bout 2 weeks I will. Looking forward to anything - a minute even!!
I looked at that thing Scarlet sent me and it looks amazing and so true. I am going to try it but that may mean I am not on here as much seeking reassurance.
What do you think?
Cokey xxx
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Post by justme31 on Mar 28, 2008 11:20:44 GMT
have heard that the linden method is meant to b good... i think it whatever works for u cokey..id say anything worth a try though! it a shame about the lack of cbt in your area cos this is meant to b the best thing for dealin with the thoughts. i know it is very hard to get on the nhs the waitin lists around here r a year. i am doing the cbt at the moment with a pyschotherapist am havin to pay for it privately but i would say in the past month she has been more help to me then the shrinks, docs etc.
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Post by justme31 on Mar 28, 2008 11:22:42 GMT
cant wait till the ten mins turns into a day wg!! i just want someone to give me a pill and take it all away!
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Post by cokey on Mar 28, 2008 11:54:02 GMT
I said last time jm that I wanted to go into a coma and wake up with it gone ( - if we were celebs with tons of cash we could book into the priory and just sit it out with all the support in the world. CBT is meant to be fab, my mate I met when I had PNI the first time got it again a short while ago with the thoughts, she was so ill and she paid for private CBT. She says it has changed her life. Over about 10 weeks she got better and better and now she says she is better than ever. If I could afford it, I would go private but honestly I just can't because my work has dried up (I work from home running a website business) and we have no spare cash after bills. I am still going to come on here but I am going to try not to do it just to constantly seek reassurance. How are you today? Did you sleep well.? Cokey xxx
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Post by Scarlet on Mar 28, 2008 11:57:32 GMT
Hi JustMe,
10 mins is a start hun, It'll soon turn into a day .... re-training your brain to think differently and lowering your anxiety level takes time, but you will get there
How much is the CBT costing JM? is it expensive? Sounds like it's a real help.
xxx
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Post by justme31 on Mar 28, 2008 14:12:08 GMT
lol cokey i did book into the priory....... thats where i 1st went to c the shrink as my doc wouldnt refer me to one at the time. scarlett the cbt is costin me 50 pound an hour at the moment and we aint really got the money but my other half says we will find the money if its helpin me. i dont know about anyone else but i dont find thats there is much help available on the nhs..... just seems u r told here have a presciption and come back in a month. i dont think doctors have much understandin of how bad pni actually is.
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Post by justme 31 on Mar 28, 2008 14:28:06 GMT
in regards to cbt and seein a pyschotherapist.. i just wanted to ask all your advice on something. the one i am seein at the moment and also my doc is of the opinion that pni is to do with a lot of unresolved issues and stuff relatin to childhood. my personal opinion was that it was just something that happens and sometimes there is no reason. whats you guys views on this?
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Post by Scarlet on Mar 28, 2008 14:46:50 GMT
in regards to cbt and seein a pyschotherapist.. i just wanted to ask all your advice on something. the one i am seein at the moment and also my doc is of the opinion that pni is to do with a lot of unresolved issues and stuff relatin to childhood. my personal opinion was that it was just something that happens and sometimes there is no reason. whats you guys views on this? Hi hun, I don't think this is always the case, it could just be circumstantial, or to do with hormones, or conflicts in present relationship leading to feelings of insecurity. For me I had a lovely childhood, I'm from a large family, loving parents, no issues there really. I didn't get PNI with my first son, but with my second I had complications that required bedrest and I tended to worry a lot, becasue I had extensive bleeding, thought I was dying, or my baby was dying. Also hubby wasn't supportive and I basically was on my own as i live abroad. I know that parental influences affect our personality and we can have a predisposition to worrying (a learned trait perhaps) like our parents, but I don't think PNI is always associated with repressed childhood memories, unresolved issues in childhood or a traumatic experience back then. It's interesting though, and would love to hear what others thought. xxxx
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Post by Scarlet on Mar 28, 2008 14:57:39 GMT
lol cokey i did book into the priory....... thats where i 1st went to c the shrink as my doc wouldnt refer me to one at the time. scarlett the cbt is costin me 50 pound an hour at the moment and we aint really got the money but my other half says we will find the money if its helpin me. i dont know about anyone else but i dont find thats there is much help available on the nhs..... just seems u r told here have a presciption and come back in a month. i dont think doctors have much understandin of how bad pni actually is. I am so sorry you are having to pay for something that should be available for free, but I know what you mean 50 pounds is well worth it if it helps. I wonder if more CBT therapists will be available soon for free as an alternative to ADs, especially in the light of the recent news on ADs. You are right that doctors don't have a real understanding of depression/anxiety. Pity really, because it's so common. xxx
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Post by cokey on Mar 28, 2008 16:45:00 GMT
Hi JM
I think PNI is more to do with personality type than chldhood issues. I am the same personality type (sensitive, always trying to please, easily upset) as most of the people I have met with this illness. Would be interesting to see what star signs are most affected.
However I have had major major trauma just after childbirth (not during childbirth or do to with my health) both times and I wonder if there is a trigger for all of us or if it would have happened anyway.
My mum got it second time because they went bankrupt. Who knows.
Regardless, its rubbish and it pees me off to have it again.
Cokey xxx
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Post by justme31 on Mar 28, 2008 17:27:12 GMT
i tend to believe like u said scarlett that people can have a great upbringin and it still happens. i know what u mean about bein sensitive that deffo what i am like cokey. i asked about what people think causes it cos i feel like shrinks c me and tend to blame my childhood which pisses me off!! my mum suffered from schizophrenia and i spent most of my life in care boardin schools etc... i sometimes feel that the shrink and therapists make more of am issue out of this then the actual pni... just drives me mad!!
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Post by winegirl on Mar 28, 2008 18:36:17 GMT
Hi JM
I found that too, that the therapists were trying to blame an event for what was going on with me as opposed to just excepting it was hormonal! Made me really mad!
How you doing this evening?
WG x
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Post by cokey on Mar 28, 2008 20:09:16 GMT
Yeah how u doing jm?
Cokey xxx
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