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Post by Mum2Jack not logged on on Jan 6, 2005 9:31:48 GMT
Morning all,
I have thought about posting this for a while, but have hesitated because it makes me think I have a problem. I feel quite reliant on having alcohol to relax evey evening. I dont get drunk I just have to have a couple of glasses to chill out otherwise I cant sleep. If there is no drink in the house I go out of my way to get some.
In some ways since Jacks been born its because its my one vice. Its the only part of me I feel I get, which is daft really. That has been my licence to go ahead and have those glasses of wine. So in that way i dont feel concerned. My OH doesnt see it as a problem, but he often chooses not to have a glass of wine whereas I feel I need it.
Does anyone else feel like this? Do I have a problem>? I went to Dads over the Xmas break and didnt have any though, and because I was in the company of family it really didnt bother me. I just wonder what it is I am trying to escape from or numb with booze. Like I say I dont get drunk I just use it to relax and unwind but it really isnt a healthy way to go on. I dont want Jack growing up looking at mummy and tutting either. Or thinhinking that its normal behaviour.
My mum was not a good mum to me, and she never drank, so what does that make me? She had a bottle of Martini in for special occasions and that was it. My dad doesnt drink either so i dont know where I get this from. Perhaps I am blowing this up out of all proportion, but having had a baby I really think I need to check some areas of my life in order to aid my recovery. But the thought of not having that crutch is panicking me.
Sorry to ramble but its good therapy. And please be honest with your responses...I think I can take it.
Jigsy
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Post by annag on Jan 6, 2005 9:53:46 GMT
Jigsy Me too I drink A couple of glasses of wine every night and exactly like you I feel like this is not how life should be. However it does take the edge off how stressed I feel but I also think will I always know where to draw the line. I have told my doctor about this he dosent see it as a problem but I would like not to be reliant for at least 3 nights a week. Like you if I am placed in a situation where I can't get access I will accept the situation but if I am home and it is there I'll have it. I am using the NHS down your drink programme on line (god that sounds terrible) and it is helping to keep a diary and stops you taking another drink cause youv'e got to put it on the record. Also an awareness of units I didn't know there where 4.5 units in half a bottle of wine more in stronger ones. Did you see on my New Year Resolutions post how near we are to one another. You don't work for a call centre that sells chritmas gifts etc do you, I know they have a base in Oldham I used to work for them for 6 years. That would be really freaky.
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Post by Mum2Jack2 on Jan 6, 2005 10:04:02 GMT
Hiya
No its a new call centre at Stakehill its only been there about 3 months. Perhaps private message me and tell me whereabouts you are as I remember posting about us being in Lancs but cant remember which one it was so never checked the reply.
Mum2Jack
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jennie
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Post by jennie on Jan 6, 2005 11:53:04 GMT
hi jigsy,
I'm the worst sort of drinker....I binge drink...about twice a week....I know it's too much and very unhealthy.
I have lovely memories of the mood in the house when my parents used to make home brew...
if I open a bottle of wine I drink every drop!
My alcohol intake I do need to keep a check on...unlike jigsy I don't want any reasponses!I can't take take it!
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Post by Mum2Jack on Jan 6, 2005 11:59:21 GMT
Poor Jennie You sound how I feel today. Panicky tearful and stuff. Perhaps we should do something to cheer ourselves up? What say you? Any ideas ladies? A bottle of wine and a warm bubble bath sound fab but defeats the object of this thread. Instead I am subjected to Pingu on Cbeebies and runny bottoms lol. M2J
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Post by annag on Jan 6, 2005 12:10:21 GMT
We have Garfield .
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jennie
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Post by jennie on Jan 6, 2005 12:15:06 GMT
hey my two are in school ,I'm getting my life back after neally 9 yrs of Tellytubbies,Tweenies and Fimbles so no way Pingu will be on here(though he is very good...very sharp) No I'm much better today,been making wire fish the last few days.....
Did have 2 cans of lager last night....Wierd and IO feel stronger today...
It's moderation isn't it....problem is I'm not good with moderation....
I'm a fast or famine type of girl....
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Post by annag on Jan 6, 2005 12:36:24 GMT
Go on Jenny put it on you know you want to. I know what you meam about moderation if I'm going out it's either drive and leave it alone completly or get rat arsed. I just wouldn't have the odd sip of wine over a civilised dinner. I think that maybe left over from student life moderation wasn't an integral part of an evening down the SU.
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Post by jennie on Jan 6, 2005 12:45:55 GMT
I know,though I know I drank for confidence....
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Post by Mum2Jack on Jan 6, 2005 12:46:44 GMT
Well how many glasses of wine in a bottle? No point leaving that farty little bit in there is there? If we are talking Jiggle's measures a bottle of wine is a couple of glasses!! Back to feeling like I have a problem.... I tried dropping to Shandys once instead of cans of beer and ended up drinking more. And if I have a drink I smoke more...now theres another topic. I now go outside to smoke, but as its so cold end up pulling harder on the ciggie which is worse for you. I am so weak. Need to give it all up and live life running through fields of flowers breathing fresh air and drinking lashings of ginger beer!! J
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Post by jennie on Jan 6, 2005 12:49:04 GMT
and No ,No more kids programmmes!No more Balamory... I thought I'd miss toddlers groups ,but no,though I did gate crash their xmas party.....
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Post by annag on Jan 6, 2005 12:50:04 GMT
Thats what we need famous five books by way of inspiration. Do you know I actually wanted to be Anne when I was a child. Quite far removed from that little fantasy now though.
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Post by Mum2Jack on Jan 6, 2005 12:52:37 GMT
Lol Anne looked after Timmy the dog though so you would have been poop scooping again!!! Still as you mentioned in your PM thats what people should do!! And I wholeheartedly agree.
Some old crone walks her two little rats on our road and they always squat right outside my house and she never clears it up. We have had words about this and she now crosses the road if she sees me!!
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Post by francoise on Jan 6, 2005 13:07:54 GMT
my doctor told me to drink every night as it relaxes us ..just thought i would add that...
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Post by annag on Jan 6, 2005 13:10:04 GMT
Thats probably what your doctor does and wants to feel ok about it so suggests everbody else does it.
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