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Post by yorkslass on Jul 21, 2005 16:24:24 GMT
At last I have my Volunteer sorted she will be visiting me every 2 weeks and will stay for a few hours.
i will keep updating when she has been and let you know how it goes.
Her name is Sue and she has an 8 yr old daughter. Sophie got on really well with Sue and I think I gonna get on ok with her too.
Melx
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Post by amandar on Jul 21, 2005 18:50:20 GMT
Hiya there
After reading posts on here I think the Homestart Scheme is such a good and fantastic support arm. I really wished it had been around years ago.........I was a single parent with my daughter (who is now 12) and there was no support like that, you just had to get on with things. Now I am suffering with PND (and have been diagnosed with it, although probably had it with my daughter) with my son of 16 months I can see the difference in the attitudes people have the PND. I think it is a case of people talking about it more often, we are not mad or insane, we are ill..........ok so we do not have broken limbs that are visible but we are still ill.........hopefully things are changing now......and it is lovely to see all the support networks that are out there now, ok, so they are not perfect, but it seems to be a start.
I hope everything works out for you with the homestart scheme and wish you all the best.
Amandar
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Post by yorkslass on Jul 28, 2005 12:25:50 GMT
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Post by yorkslass on Aug 1, 2005 0:22:36 GMT
HI
I am kind of anxious tonight hence why I am still up. I have my first proper visit with my HomeStart Lady Sue in the morning well in a little while she is coming at 10 am.
She is very nice but what do i say to her what do i ask her.
Why am i feeling guilty at her coming to my house and me taking up her time when someone else worse of than me may need her support. I feel guilty that she has to come via a bus as she dose not drive.
My kitchen is a mess and i have to tidy it up before i go to bed just incase she wants to have a drink or go outside with kids my bathroom is a bugs paradise it needs a good clean.
I will let you know how it goes tomorrow.
Melx
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Post by Veritee on Aug 2, 2005 8:38:57 GMT
Hi Mel
Funny enough at 10am I have my first visit to a new woman I am supporting as a home Start visitor!
And if I am anything to go by - I really would not worry she will be just as nervous as you - I am really nervous.
So just offer her a cup of tea and a biscuit and give her time to settle down.
Tell her about your children if you like - anything you like, when they were born, school or playgroup, how they get on, individual ways and issues , what you find the most difficult
( You could tell her about your PNI - but perhaps you need to leave this till a later date when you have learned to trust her?)
Then perhaps you could ask her what she had in mind to help you ( after all she is there to do what you need not the other way round) It could be simple things ie look after the children while you have a bath or a lie down, or even go on the computer!
As for her gong on the bus
Don't worry - she new this when she agreed to support you and she does not have PNI, so a bus journey should not worry her
She might even find them relaxing ie have time to read a book, look out the window
And you do deserve and need it
Good Luck
and I am wishing my self Good Luck for my visit!!
All the best
Veritee
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Post by newwie on Aug 2, 2005 9:30:35 GMT
HI I hope that your visit has gone ok today and it was everything you expected it to be, and a great help to you. I wish i had the balls to do what you have done well done for excepting help and support a big step i think. Hope you are feeling not so down and anxious now that first visit is over with and hope you start to look forward to the help and support you will recieve. Thinking of you
Also veritee good luck with your first visit and hope that went ok too for you.
Newwie
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Post by yorkslass on Aug 2, 2005 11:13:06 GMT
HI I am kind of anxious tonight hence why I am still up. I have my first proper visit with my HomeStart Lady Sue in the morning well in a little while she is coming at 10 am. She is very nice but what do i say to her what do i ask her. Why am i feeling guilty at her coming to my house and me taking up her time when someone else worse of than me may need her support. I feel guilty that she has to come via a bus as she dose not drive. My kitchen is a mess and i have to tidy it up before i go to bed just incase she wants to have a drink or go outside with kids my bathroom is a bugs paradise it needs a good clean. I will let you know how it goes tomorrow. Melx my Visit was the 1st august the clock on here is a 24hr one so i wrote my concerns early hours of the 1 st at 1.22am but thanks for the comments and advice I will tell you how it went later as kids bugging me at moment Mel
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Post by yorkslass on Oct 6, 2005 22:59:40 GMT
don't know why i deleted this was ment to modify it this part belongs at the begining of this thread.
HI
Some of you may know that I have accepted help from Home start and I had my first Visit which was just a introduction visit with the lady who is going to come to help me. My first proper visit will be on the 13th July at 3pm
I thought I would right this diary to help others decide if home start would help them, as I was weary of letting them in my home at first as I have been offered there help a couple of times by my HV but they seem to work different to what I had imagined.
Please feel free to add to this diary with questions and comments or anything you feel may be relevant to this diary.
Melx
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Post by yorkslass on Oct 6, 2005 23:03:28 GMT
UPDATE
I no longer use homstart as my Daughter has started full time school but I wish I had took it up long ago. It was great even though I just had it for a few months I got so much out of it.
I can go back to homestart if I wish if I feel I need them when Callum is older and they was more than happy to carry on coming to visit me as i still have Callum at home.
I am hoping that when I feel strong enough I will go and be a volenter with them.
Melx
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Post by cheshire on Jan 11, 2006 23:19:11 GMT
Hi Yorklass (Mel),
Just wondered how you were...? We were like ships that passed in the night.
How are your girls and baby boy now?
Hopeful (Wendy)xx
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