kl77
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Post by kl77 on Nov 22, 2006 8:08:15 GMT
Hi La
Glad your last few days have been better ones, long may they continue.
You sound like me with the purees although we're on full blown meals now - such satisfaction!
Take care
KL X
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Post by beverley on Nov 22, 2006 8:57:30 GMT
I had to walk out on EJ again yesterday (only to the hallway!). I had got his lunch ready and all he wanted to do was blow raspberries as soon as a mouthful was put in. I'd spent ages making fresh purees for him and I was running late for an appointment. Whilst raspeberries are generally amusing, they're not when you're getting splattered in butternut squash (which stains!) and you're desperately trying to hurry up. I could feel my temper rising (this is a new thing for me, never really had a temper before), so I just walked away to calm myself down.
Then of course I felt horrendously guilty for getting so cross with him for merely blowing raspberries.
xxx
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Post by yoyo on Nov 22, 2006 9:25:41 GMT
Hi La - sorry to crash your diary ... just that you said about not really having a temper before PNI and now struggling with it a bit - I too was JUST like this. My temper got really bad and it was so hard to control it - but this was a sign I was beginning to recover - I'd gone from feeling nothing to feeling something - ok it was anger but it was something. Hope you can see this as a positive thing even though it's a scary time and tough to cope with x x Thinking of you x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 22, 2006 12:38:23 GMT
Hi La
I had exactly the same problem with my little one blowing raspberries yesterday. As you said, it is normally quite funny but not when you are trying to shovel food into their mouths. I too got really cross with her and then felt really bad about it as she is only 6 months and doesn't know she is doing wrong. It is just so frustrating when none of the damn food is going in and just getting spat out everywhere. In the end I gave up trying to give her the food and she continued blowing raspberries for the next half hour happy as larry! I think alot of the reason we get cross is because we love them and know they need to it. It is just so frustrating when there is nothing you can do to just get them to eat the food! Hope you have a calmer day today x Winegirl x
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Post by beverley on Nov 22, 2006 15:27:21 GMT
AAAARRRRRRGGGGGH! I've never felt so close to just walking out the door.
He won't stop screaming / shouting / grizzling. Had to resort to putting him in the car and going for a drive to get him to sleep. Then sat in a car park for an eternity whilst he slept. He woke up after an hour and grizzled some more. He was such an easy baby until recently. What's changed? When I tried to feed him his lunch he went completely mental until it got to the pear, which is his favourite and currently about the only thing he'll eat. I don't want to give in to his whims about food but at the same time he needs some nourishment so then I let him have the pear.
I just want to escape this noise but at the same time feel guilty for wanting to get away from him.
I dread him one day finding out about how I feel about being a mum and blaming himself for it.
xxx
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Post by beverley on Nov 23, 2006 9:41:32 GMT
I went out last night to a gig in London. The crowd I went with don't have children and it was quite refreshing to talk about other things. I had a panic moment coming up the escalator on the way there and was dreading going back down it later on. When I had to go back, the escalator had broken and we had to walk down it. It made me really nervous.
I didn't used to get nervous about stuff. I've always known my limits and my weaknesses, but I've also known my strengths and was comfortable with them. Nowadays, things that I know I can do seem to freak me out. How on earth am I going to manage when I go back to work? I work for the NHS and can make people very ill if I mess up or don't act quickly enough. I used to thrive on that, now it scares me senseless.
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kl77
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Post by kl77 on Nov 23, 2006 14:41:34 GMT
Hi LA
I'm glad you had an ok evening yesterday and managed to get out for some 'me' time.
Re the weaning issue I know you've probably tried these but just incase - have you tried mixing pear with something else? Even a vegetable? If EJ takes the mix then slowly reduce the amount of pear you add until he is eating the vegetable on it's own? Or try alternating mouthfuls until it's a few savoury's to one pear. Just a couple of ideas which can introduce more taste without a complete shock.
I can imagine how dificult it must be when you're making your own purees so that they get the best and they will only eat one thing.
Don't feel guilty about wanting to get away, I don't think any mum out there doesn't feel this in situations where baby is grizzling for what seems like all day.
Hope today has been better, sorry if I'm stating obvious things xx Take care KL X
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Post by winegirl on Nov 23, 2006 21:56:04 GMT
Hi LA
You have just said something in your last post that I have been saying for weeks: `how am I going to manage when I go back to work?'. I am due back in 5 weeks after postponing it once already and I cant stop thinkin g the same thing. Although loads of people have said to me that it will actually probably be a really good thing in going back and will snap my mind back in to shape.
No advice on the weaning, as you know it is a nightmare for me too.
Hope you are ok today?
Take it easy Winegirl x
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Post by sianyc on Nov 24, 2006 21:00:01 GMT
Hi Just read your posts and it was like reading about me 8 months ago. I can always tell it's a bad day by how easily I feel myself losing my temper. My two had a thing about pear!! My first ate everything that was spooned into her mouth. The little one (now 13 months) has always been more fussy. She refused loads of stuff and I just kept trying her on the new flavours until she started taking some. I found mixing the veg with milk and baby rice helped. I like KL's idea of putting pear in with everything thoug. I never thought of that! Don't you just hate throwing away food that's taken ages to cook puree and freeze into ice cubes. It feels like you time has been wasted Good luck
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Post by beverley on Nov 27, 2006 9:14:05 GMT
Thanks to all who have posted in my diary. It really helps to know that others have had similar experiences.
We've all got colds at the moment. EJ has been really poorly and it breaks my heart. He's not sleeping so we're all really tired. He just looks so sad, with his little bottom lip sticking out. Whenever he tries to cry no sound comes out as he's so congested. Poor little poppet.
I've had a good few days, although everything is in chaos I seem to be coping with it better. He's even started to eat something other than pear which is a good start.
xx
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Post by beverley on Nov 28, 2006 9:23:19 GMT
Feeling under the weather today with a cold and was up in the night a lot with EJ who is still suffering. Hubby offered to take the day off to take care of EJ and I really wanted him to, yet I absolutely insisted he went to work. Why can't I just accept the help?
I haven't been outside for 4 days now and am starting to go a bit stir crazy. Unlike many, I hate being indoors and cope better being out and about, but EJ is too poorly to go out in the cold.
Oh, KL, I tried your pear trick and it worked! Yesterday he happily had 3 spoons of pear, followed by one of savoury, so that was an achievement for him.
xxx
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Post by winegirl on Nov 28, 2006 15:06:37 GMT
Hi LA
Sorry you aren't feeling very well at the mo. I would definately have taken that offer of help of hubby. Hell, I would have taken the offer even if I was feeling fine! Glad the weaning is looking better. My little one still won't eat anything but at least she doesn't cry now, just clamps her mouth shut and turns the other way. Little monkey.
Hoe you feel better soon x Winegirl x
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kl77
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Post by kl77 on Nov 29, 2006 8:20:29 GMT
Hi LA
We sound quite similar - I too don't like being stuck inside and have been for a couple of days so I'm sat desperately thinking of where to go that doesn't cost much (I'm no longer getting paid now)
Glad the alternating trick is helping at the moment, keep up the good work.
Hope you all feel better soon. I too would struggle with an offer of help but try and accept it, especially at the mo!
Take care
KL X
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Post by chica on Nov 29, 2006 9:56:39 GMT
Hi La, Just wanted to say hello, so sorry you all have colds at the moment, there is nothing worse, and I dont know about your house but in ours, they seem to pass from one person back to the other and then to the full round again. At the moment my two are all bunged up with snotty noses etc., so I just know that in a couple of days it will be my turn. I too am just like you, and cannot accept help if it is offered, I have to be bullied into it, someone just has to takeover, where I have no choice, for instance instead of someone offering to hoover up I would always say no, but if they just got the hoover out and did it I couldn't argue with them. (Hope that makes sense). Sending Love and Hugs Chica
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Post by beverley on Nov 29, 2006 10:30:54 GMT
Got really stressed again yesterday when poor EJ couldn't get himself to sleep and was screaming and going rigid. He was sobbing and then I was sobbing whilst trying to sing to him. We had another bad night with a horrible cough and I'm exhausted. However, hubby didn't give me a chance to refuse and rang his office and told them he wasn't coming in today. I'm very relieved to have him at home today and glad he just took the initiative rather than asking me first - just like you Chica!
Today I'm going out for the first time in 5 days. It's only to a weaning class but at least it's out of the house. (If I get any good tips Winegirl, I'll pass them on!)
xxx
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