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Post by Jay on May 13, 2007 19:36:25 GMT
Just wanted to say Hi. Will be thinking about you tomorrow with hv. Good luck Jay xx
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Post by Rose on May 14, 2007 10:48:53 GMT
My health visitor has just been, and my head feels like mush now, I cried all the time, and felt so stupid, but told her everything I had to get out, and she has made an app for me to see my gp today at 2.40pm to get some tablets. She has set me some things to do before she comes over again next week on friday. 1. I have to tell my husband (just gonna stress about that all day now) 2. I have to tell my parents (not close to them so wont do that) 3. Have to keep writing a Journal 4. She is going to register me with a children's centre or something like that were I can go to meet other mums. She said I had to write down all the things I wanted to change and all the things that would make me happy. So here is my list. To have friends where I live To laugh and feel excited about things Not feel guilty all the time Get sleep at night Play with Milly more Get time to my self Go out for dinner with my husband Lose weight Buy clothes that fit Be able to go shopping with out being stressed Open up more to people and tell them how I feel Feel relaxed Thats it for now, can't think of any more. Milly has just fallen asleep on me, so putting her to bed and going to get a coffee and work out how to tell my husband. In fact think I will just go to bed as I am really tired and wrecked now... It feels like its 11.48pm not 11.48am.... Write soon X
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Post by marion on May 14, 2007 11:04:04 GMT
Hi Rose A big well done you for telling your health visitor everything. I am glad she has made you an app so soon to see the dr - once the tablets kick in (normally takes a couple of weeks) you will start to notice the difference and feel so much better. About the things she says you have to do: 1. Dont worry about telling your husband - I'm sure he will want to support you as much as he can and will be proud of you for getting the help you need. Please dont worry about telling him 2. You're right - dont tell your parents if you dont want too although they may surprise you and offer more help like taking Milly off your hands for a couple of hours here and there so you can rest 3. She's right about writing the journal - it does help - I've looked back through mine on here and cant believe how I used to be - now I can see the progress I've made and the same will happen for you 4. That's great about the children's centre - you may meet other mums who are going through similar things to you and it will help with one of your goals of making new friends in the area you live. I can identify strongly with the things you want to change to make you happy, especially the losing weight and buying clothes that fit. I still havent lost my baby weight (20 mths on) but whilst you're not well mentally dont let this be a major factor for you. Get yourself mentally strong first (the tablets the dr gives you this afternoon should help with that) before you worry too much about your weight. As you get better mentally the other goals you have, like playing with Milly more/going shopping without feeling stressed/feeling relaxed should follow. And you've already achieved one of your goals this morning by talking openly to the HV about how you feel. Opening up to people if you're not used to doing it is very hard but you did so well this morning to be honest with the HV you should be very proud of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back - you deserve it - you've taken the first step to getting well. Good luck withthe dr this afternoon. Let us know how it goes. Love Marion.
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Post by claire99991 on May 14, 2007 11:55:42 GMT
Well done for today it sounds like it was hard for you to do. Do you feel better now for telling her? Your so brave for making this 1st step to getting better i still carnt 15 months on! well done, let us know how u get on at docs tomorow (all the things she suggested sound good she sounds really nice) hope you managed to get some sleep.
Lots of love and hugz claire xx
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Post by Jay on May 14, 2007 11:57:33 GMT
Hi Rose
Well done. I should think after all that you are knackered!!
I think you will probably feel a bit relieved, when you have had time to think a bit.
Just take things a step at a time when telling oH. I know you will be upset when you tell him, but once he knows, I am sure he will help you all he can.
This will be your worse day- then you can move on, to trying to get better.
we are all always here, so whenever you need to talk, then get on line, and someone will be around, or you will get the lot of us by evening anyway. we will be looking out for you.
I sent you love and HUGS to keep you going today, Jay xx
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Post by claire99991 on May 14, 2007 11:58:00 GMT
Sorry thought docs was tomorow, just re read it let us know how u get on xxx
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Post by joannem on May 14, 2007 13:54:49 GMT
Well done Rose! As I write you are prob at Dr's so I hope it goes ok. Im sure your hubby will be ok, you could start the conversation by saying your Health Visitor came today and..... He can always post on her if he wants any support/info. How do you feel about medication? Big hugs to you xx Jo xx
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Post by Rose on May 14, 2007 15:20:08 GMT
Just back from the doc, she has put me on Citalopram once a day, and I have to go back and see her in a month, and she is getting me to see a councillor not sure when yet, she said she would send a letter. Not sure about the tablets, I have taken one for today, but it says in the notes that came with them that you may feel worse before you get better, so not really looking to that, I feel bad enough anyway, so hopefully it doesn't get any worse than I am. She said they should help me sleep and to concentrate better during the day, then once they start to work I can hopefully go out to mother and baby groups and meet other mums, which I am not really wanting to do at the moment.. I feel really tired now, well have felt tired all day after lots of crying again this morning.. Oh and I sent my husband a text message saying I was going to the doc and that the health visitor had been to talk about PND and he said good. Not sure if he will say anything else when he gets home.. Well better go, Milly is messing about with her chest of draws in her room, pulling all her clothes out,... More mess... Thank you for all your support and nice messages over the last few days, it has been a great help, and even if it is only for a few minuets has made me feel better. X
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Post by marion on May 14, 2007 19:38:45 GMT
Hi Rose Citalopram is supposed to be very good for pnd. Give it a go. I know you are worried about what it says on the leaflet about feeling worse before you feel better but dont let that put you off. They are probably just being cautious - it will take a couple of weeks to feel any benefits but it will be worth it in the long run. And if they arent right for you there are loads and loads of different anti d's you can try instead.
Well done for today. Sounds like you've had a really challenging day but you've got through it and now have tablets which, in time, should help you to get better.
Love Marion.
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Post by Rose on May 15, 2007 7:25:43 GMT
Just taken Milly to nursery, feel very tired today, so going back to bed after I have written this. The tablets have made my mouth go really dried, I got some sleep last night but kept waking up as my throat was dry and I kept coughing... Feel a bit light headed too, actually it feels like a big hang over. ( from what I came remember about drinking before Milly was born!!!) I got very wet taking Milly to nursery, as its still raining here, which made me grumpy and angry, but going to snuggle up in a nice duvet now and get all warm. X
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Post by marion on May 15, 2007 7:54:38 GMT
Hope you have a better day. Try and get some rest. Love Marion
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Post by caterina on May 15, 2007 9:48:35 GMT
Hi Rose HUGE WELL DONE to you!! You've done the hard bit hon, asking for help. Hope you have a good day and enjoy that duvet! xx
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Post by sianyc on May 15, 2007 16:10:59 GMT
You really have done the hard bit. My meds (escitalopram) wiped me out for the first few weeks and I still have to take them at night as they make me drowsy. Once the initial couple of weeks pass, the side effects should settle down and by the time you go back to the doctor they should be working
Hang in there lovely. You're doing really well
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Post by Rose on May 15, 2007 16:25:31 GMT
Picked Milly up from nursery at 1pm, spent all morning on the sofa wrapped up in my duvet watching tv. Something I have done quite a lot recently but this time I did not feel so bad about doing it, perhaps thats the tablets, but I thought they only started working after 1-2 weeks, so might just be having a good day. Feel ok now, Milly is just sat on the floor next to me flicking through all of my books looking at pictures. The health visitor rang me today too, to see how I was and what the doc said yesterday, she said she is going to contact some agencies called home start and children's centre. Children's centre I think is just a place where you can go to do different things with your kids, kind of a mother and toddler group, but not sure what home start is, she did not say. Got to do dinner soon, but going to wait till my hubby gets in as its always bit stressful trying to cook with Milly hanging off my ankles and throwing the dog ball around the kitchen.. Got a bit of a head ache at the mo, and felt sick after my sleep earlier. Not got any plans for tomorrow, did a bit of house work just now, so probably won't do any tomorrow, there are so many things that need to be done in the house that I have not felt like doing for ages now, but hopefully over next week or so I will feel more energetic and want to do things. My mouth is still really dry, but read on a web site that if you are taking citalopram and you get a dry mouth to chew sugar free gum, so tried that and now my jaw hurts from all the chewing, so think I will just put up with the dry mouth for now!!! Milly is now on to reading "Indoor bonsai trees" she does not look that interested, but then it is a bit of a boring book... she did not seem to like "Tunisia, pocket guide" or "The thirty nine steps"!!!!! Well going to do dinner now. Thank you so much for all your help and support over the last few days, all the nice messages have really helped me to understand what's wrong and that I am not mad and I will get better, I have been putting up with how I have been feeling for far too long now, and now I have got over the telling people part I hope I can feel a little bit better every day. X
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Post by Rose on May 16, 2007 13:05:53 GMT
Not having such a good day today, its day 3 of taking the tablets and I feel really sick today... My throat is still dry and feel like poo, wanted to stay on the sofa all day again today, but feel to guilty about it as I did that all morning yesterday. Milly is having her afternoon nap now, and I just don't have any energy, the house is a tip and its not fair that my husband has to come home and do the clearing up too, so having a guilty feeling day today... I used to be so energetic and always wanting to go out before I had Milly, now I am just a hermit who hates the thought of getting dressed and going out.. Not sure what I will do for the rest of the day as I feel like a zombie with a hangover.. Trying to think positive as my HV said, but its not that easy... X
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