Bobyn
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Post by Bobyn on Nov 16, 2007 17:44:00 GMT
Arghh, hubby came home in bad mood and snapped door off broken washing machine, joy. Also was late home even though I'd told him how awful the day was going with Robyn being ill. And he hasn't been given a pay rise again -4 years in a row. So more hours for me to do again this year to keep things going. Days like these I could really kick him out again. Why is it always left to me to fix everything and keep the house going and the family together? Why can't he take responsibility for anything?
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Post by sianyc on Nov 16, 2007 17:48:29 GMT
My other post crossed with yours
The answer (very sexist answer) is that he's a man. They all seem to think that their job ends with going to work and earning some cash. Anything else has to be practically beaten into them.
Have you bought rescue remedy yet? You need about 10 squirts of that, some sort of sugary snack and make a plan to get the hell away from him for at least 3 hours tomorrow.
thinking of you lovely x
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Post by Bobyn on Nov 17, 2007 10:48:39 GMT
I feel very low today. I think I've been worrying about little Bobs more than I thought and I really don't know how people cope with very ill babies. It's bad enough having to change my diet and give her medicine every day and try to comfort her when she's in pain but to spend nights in hospital must be awful. The washing machine man is coming to fix the machine on Thursday and I've had friends offer to be my laundry maids til then. I've really learnt this time that people like to help if you let them!
Poor Bobs is having a poorly painful day so far but it's only 11am so there's plenty of day left for her to get better. Any tips on good recipes without diary would be appreciated, or hints on the best 'milk' for cereal. I tried So Good this morning and it's horrible, yuk. Surprisingly my husband is still alive, but probably only because I spent an hour with a friend making her shoulder very wet and then came home and did the same thing to my Mum before speaking to him. I know Bobs being ill and other things aren't all his fault but it just feels like I'm the only person who cares about it all and tried to fix it.
Will try the rescue remedy when I go to town later thank you Siany. x
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Post by cheshire on Nov 17, 2007 18:22:43 GMT
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Post by Bobyn on Nov 18, 2007 18:50:52 GMT
Thank you for the recipes link Hopeful. This afternoon my eldest and I made dairy free cakes and they're not too bad. I miss cheese already and I don't think there's much alternative but it's all worth it if Robyn thrives. The weekend went ok. It's now Sunday night though which always feel awful as it's the start of another week. I'm trying hard not to dread the time with the girls and to try to find some positive things to do rather than be scared of them crying. I feel alot less 'scared' of Robyn than I did with Freya and when things are bad I just remind myself that she will grow up and it won't always be this difficult.
I'm wrapping christmas presents tonight, trying to get ahead on these things so that I don't leave things til the last minutes and end up stressed. One day at a time is definitely my mantra right now.
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Post by winegirl on Nov 18, 2007 21:04:32 GMT
Oooh you are organised! I still have to get round to buying some xmas presents! Now i feel the shame!
Hope this week goes ok for you hun x
WG xx
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Post by Bobyn on Nov 19, 2007 9:47:57 GMT
Yuk, This is a horrible day. I've woken up with a huge grey cloud over my head and haven't stopped weaping yet this morning. My OH has taken off the day as holiday as I asked him not to leave me. So glad he listened as I'm not sure how else I'd have got through the day... maybe I'll feel better after an hour's sleep. Does everyone else get this tired?
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Post by nishka on Nov 19, 2007 10:01:00 GMT
Hiya
Sorry you are so down today, hope you don't mind me popping into your diary. I have been having a read and it seems like you have so much on your plate right now. Sending you hugs xxxx
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Post by sianyc on Nov 19, 2007 17:25:05 GMT
Hey sweetie Sorry for your pants day and I hope it improved a bit for you. Not that it's much help but the stress of money worries has probably kicked off a bad day. God that's a awful term for it. Bad day. It's so much worse than that, perhaps we should rename them......soul destroying, exhausting p***er of a day or something along those lines. Much closer to the truth Here for you x
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Post by Bobyn on Nov 19, 2007 18:54:54 GMT
The day improved alot after I wrote this morning, well alot is probably a strong term but it was definitely better than bad days have been before. My OH was pretty wonderful today and it was so good to have some time with just him and the second one who is much quieter and easier to amused than the 31/2 year old! He has definitely redeemed himself after Friday and I feel much closer to him now. Fingers crossed for a good rest of the week. Siany - Rescue remedy is pretty helpful in bad times isn't it?! Thank you. x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 19, 2007 20:33:50 GMT
Hi Bobyn
Glad things picked up and you had a nice time. And yes the rescue remedy is fab! (i find the pastilles the best help).
WG xx
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Post by sianyc on Nov 20, 2007 12:49:30 GMT
I bought the pastilles the other day and they were fab
Glad he redeemed himself - his survival instinct obviously kicked in :-))
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Post by Bobyn on Nov 21, 2007 16:12:45 GMT
Yesterday was a much better day than Monday and today has been ok as well. I think this time round I'm more accepting of the bad days and willing to accept them, knowing that they won't last forever. Having said that 2 children is a real juggle so the PND is different anyway. One is upstairs whining and refusing to have a nap even though I know that if she doesn't she'll be horrible during number one's teatime. The eldest is having half an hour quiet time in front of CBeebies with her milk while I check emails and consider making tea for her. It's the whining that drives me crazy. Just sitting here now listening to her I feel like going upstairs and shouting at her to shut up. If it was just the 2 of us I could put the music on loudly for 10 minutes but then Number one would moan that she can't hear the TV. Times like these I really wish I still smoked just to have ten minutes outside where I'm away from them both.
I think breast feeding really intensifies that feeling of never being able to have time to myself. Especially now that the baby can't have formula due to the possible milk allergy and horrible reflux. Finally this week she's put on weight which is great but means that the new medication and lack of dairy in my diet is working, therefore I need to keep it up, so not even a slice of chocolate orange for me this christmas! It feels like my whole life is dominated by caring for her at the moment and I love her dearly but it's starting to become a real burden some days, just clearing up sick, feeding and taking her to yet another medical checkup. I guess life would be too easy otherwise! Right, moan over. I feel really awful even thinking badly of her for being poorly and very selfish but if I can't say it hear then where can I say it. I need to count my blessings, at least she's now gaining weight and we've found the root of the problem and hopefully over time she'll grow out of it. And I know they grow out of the whining!!
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Post by nishka on Nov 22, 2007 16:54:24 GMT
Ahhhhhhhh ! I soooooooooo sympathise! The whining!! The breast feeding!! Gosh it never ends... sometimes you feel like you are doing nothing but being a mum!! AGHHHH!! Scream with me! lol
However you know as well as I do that this will pass. Some days are worse than others .... and I think everyone would agree that however much you worship the ground they walk on - kids are HARD work and no one likes mopping up sick all day long. You are doing really well, hold on to the fact you are a great mum and you are trying really really hard to make sure everything is okay for your little ones.
You are doing really well and we all know PNI is such a struggle at the best of times yet alone if you have a sick kid to contend with.
Hugs xxx
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Post by sianyc on Nov 24, 2007 13:16:59 GMT
I gave up breatsfeeding cos of thise exact reasons - it felt like I was tied to the baby and was not ever free from her.
They do grow out of the whining, especially once they start eating then crawling and can entertain themselves a bit. Hang in there lovely, soon she'll be that little bit older and more pleasant to be with :-)
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