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Post by winegirl on May 10, 2008 19:18:56 GMT
Hi JM
Hows things going hun? Have you been out making the most of the weather at all?
Thinking of you
WG xx
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Post by cokey on May 10, 2008 19:48:46 GMT
Hi C
Yeah have you managed to have a good day with your OH? A good sunny day can really lift spirits all round and it makes men tolerable lol
Cokey xxx
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Post by winegirl on May 15, 2008 7:23:33 GMT
Hi JM
How are things for you hun? Haven't heard from you for a few days and wondering how you were? Thinking of you x
WG x
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Post by cokey on May 15, 2008 19:10:49 GMT
Yeah ditto - hope you are okay - am guessing you are.
Cokey xxx
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Post by justme31 on May 21, 2008 9:42:36 GMT
hi wg and cokey and all hope u all r ok. Dunno what is happenin with me the last week its been terrible the thoughts r 24/7 again........been tryna keep myself busy..managed to decorate 2 rooms in the house over the past week so suppose thats one good things about obssessive thinkin.... even the decoratin is a distraction!! lol. Am back to obssessin about bein mentally ill my anxiety seems to have gone through the roof. I think this is due to my therapist!!! i will explain.... i went to see her last week and she thought it would b helpful to give me a list of the symptoms of pyschosis... she gave me the list to take home and said to read it as reassurance when i get the thoughts.. needless to say it hasnt helped with the thoughts... there were symptoms on the list i didnt even know and now am obssessin about em all lol and there was me thinkin the therapy was meant to help. I keep wakin up in the mornin thinkin will today b a better day and the better days dont seem to b happenin. Keep thinkin what if i am going mad and this is just the start of it all. Also can someone help me with this i feel really confused like i cant think straight and feel so spaced out like as if am walkin round and am not all there...anyone else get this. I get so scared of this feelin and its setttin off the panic attacks again.
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Post by Scarlet on May 21, 2008 11:30:20 GMT
JM,, Know exactly what you mean. Stop reading the psychosis stuff hun, you are not psychotic. If you are worrying that you are crazy/psychotic/schizophhrenic, then you are most definitely not. Those who are, think everyone else are the crazy ones,and not themselves. This is all you need to know about being pscyhotic, don't read any more. To be honest, I don't think it's beneficial to give you a list of psychotic symptoms and say read them for reassurance... You are walking around like you are because your mind is tired from all the obsessing. Get yourself distracted, do some more painting/decorating, put on some music and accept the disconnected feelings, and they will go, they always do hun. This site explains the symptom of unreality very well www.panic-and-anxiety-attacks.com/depersonalization.htmlHugs xxxx
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Post by justme31 on May 21, 2008 12:30:05 GMT
i dont think it was helpful either scarlett and am startin to question at the moment whether i should go find another therapist. i was findin her helpful at 1st because i wanted reassurance that i wasnt schizo and crazy... now i want someone to help me solve the problem of how i deal with the obssessive thinkin and she doesnt seem to come up with any solutions. The last 2 times ive seen her she just keeps askin me questions off of questionaires and sayin well u answersed no to the questions so u aint pyschotic lol tht doesnt help. I could go on the net and get questionaires and answer them for free!!! The thing is and its worryin me( dont read on if u have ocd tendencies) some of the things on the sheet with symptoms she gave me i have like agitation, extreme anxiety and unreality.... when i mentioned this to her she said yeah but to b psychotic u gotta have loadsa the symptoms on the sheet!
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Post by justme31 on May 21, 2008 12:32:24 GMT
oh and another thing that really bothers me about her is that i always pay her monthly and she tells me every time i c her that 2 sessions u owe for etc... she even rang me up about an appointment the other day and told me i owe her for 2 sessions and am startin to think is this women here to help or just interested in gettin paid
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Post by cokey on May 21, 2008 13:01:28 GMT
Hi Clare
My therapist is a young woman and she is great. She deals with then thoughts and knows I am not dangerous/mentally ill or any of the things I have imagined and so she doesn't dwell on them. Instead she gives me homework to face the fears.
However, I told her my last exsperience was altogether different. My counsellor last time did exactly what yours did and performed via questionnaires and talked about me rather than taking the focus off me.
My current counsellor explained that that type of therapy works for some but not for people with anxiety and OCD - which is what we have.
I didnt realise you were paying her. If that is the case I would suggest you ring around other counsellors and ask if they are proficient in dealing with OCD. You need cognitive behavioural therapy. Then try one whilst retaining your current therapist and compare. Or discuss your concerns with your current therapist.
I know that I feel so different towards my therapist this time to last time. I have trust in this one whereas I felt worried about what I could say to the last one. She often looked alarmed.
Don't worry about how you are feeling right now. Its just anxiety and it will ease off again when your anxiety levels ease a bit.
You certainly aren't psychotic or mentally ill. Like Scarlet said, you wouldn't be worrying about it if you were, you would be clueless.
Try Scarlets tapping - it worked for me and shifted my mood.
Cokey xxx
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Post by Scarlet on May 21, 2008 14:48:21 GMT
Awww JM hun,
I think you should find another therapist hun. Sounds to me as if she is a bit inexperienced, and is passing onto you things she has read, which you could find out for yourself anyway. Like Cokey said you need CBT, which is the therapy used to help with obesssive thinking. When I came to England I had a good look in the yellow pages, and there were a lot of therapists who did this privately, or you could be referred to by your doc (prolly will have to wait a while thought). I think this would be more helpful hun, than having someone to just tell your problems to. You need solutions to help work through your thinking, and not a counsellor as such.
Whenever you want reassurance you can come here, we know exactly how your thoughts are spiralling and getting out of control. We are/have lived through what you are going through now. You are not psychotic and it doesn't matter if you have a few of the symptoms on the list. Folks with anxiety get very agitated and unreality/depersonalisation is a common symptoms of anxiety. Worrying that you are psychotic/mad is definitely anxiety hun. Psychotic is when you no longer worry about the daft thoughts.
xxxx
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Post by winegirl on May 21, 2008 19:23:51 GMT
Hi JM
I agree with Scarlet, perhaps look at finding another therapist?
As for the spaced out/ not really here feeling, yes I can relate. I felt that way every day for about a year and it scared the hell out of me. I now get it very rarely but even when I do it doesnt really bother me now.
It does get easier as the anxiety eases off hun. And as the anxiety eases you will also start to believe that you are not psychotic. Like Scarlet says, the fact that you are worrying about it alone proves that you are not!
How have things been this afternoon for you?
WG x
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Post by justme31 on May 22, 2008 8:32:35 GMT
i think am gunna look 4 another therapist deffo.... i was meant to c this one tonight but i cancelled cos am at the stage where i begrudge payin her lol i sound like a right victor meldrew!! Am feelin a bit better this morn.... its strange i feel better and i still torture myself..this morn am worried about the fact that i have had the thougths like i got up this morn and thought how could i have been thinkin some of the things that i have been over the last week or so. Am glad u guys mentioned about the unreality its so scary.. makes me feel better that i aint the only one with it. I know last time with the pni i had it constantly for a year and a half. Its like walkin round not quite all there innit wg!! Mind u dont think i have ever been all there lol. Am gunna try ya tappin scarlet and see how that goes. It seems to b workin for u Cokey am glad u r doing ok. Claire xx
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Post by cokey on May 22, 2008 14:13:39 GMT
Hi C
Glad you are taking action. That unrelaity feeling is awful, its caused my extreme anxiety and its lovely when it lifts. I don't have it now (except on bad days) and if you can get your anxiety levels down a bit, it will go. I often felt like I was frozen with fear and the world was spinning around me.
Its just anxiety, it cannot hurt you - remember that. My therapist said today that the thoughts we havem everyone has - it is proven - its just most people, those not suffering from anxiety, just don't dwell on them and so they don't notice them, even the bizarre ones (like me falling off the world lol).
Cokey xxx
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Post by winegirl on May 22, 2008 18:47:55 GMT
Hi Claire
Glad your day started well this morning babes! How has the rest of it gone for you? I like you used to torture myself when I felt well, we are a strand bunch aren't we?!
Hope you are ok and having a good evening??
WG xx
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Post by justme31 on May 23, 2008 14:05:32 GMT
lol Cokey ive had some bizarre ones too..(The world isnt real and everything is a dream!)!!thats1of many would b2embarrassed to go into some of my thoughts!! Yesterday evenin was ok had ppl round and felt a bit shitty today but am started to feel better this afternoon. How r u WG? Hope things r good with u Claire x
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