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Post by monica on Mar 12, 2009 21:36:45 GMT
Hi
Thinking of you. Firstly, so sorry tohear about you and oh - glad it's civilised and you and oh are getting on. Sometims when the pressure of keeping the realtionship together has gone, things can improve and you can be good friends. I'm sure it's gong to be tough at first, but you will get through this. Here for you....
I'm so sorry about yoru sil. What a tragic thing to happen. I lost a baby at 19 weeks year before last and it's awful. The circumstances are different in that I found out my baby had died, but also had to give birth. We had the whole afternoon with our baby, named him, held him and loved him and it was wonderful to have those hours with him in spite of all that pain. We took loads of photos an have footprints of him and he is always in our thoughts. The funeral was lovely too. Obviously extremely painful. But I have found comfort inthe knowledge that we did the best for our baby. Will be thinking of you all.
Love
monica
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Post by winegirl on Mar 13, 2009 11:20:41 GMT
Hi LL Sorry to hear about your sister I hope that things on Sunday go as smoothly as can be expected for her. I think a funeral might be a good idea if it helps her get through it x Huge hugs to you mate, with everything that is going on being on your perios must be magnifying everything too! Sending you all my love and thoughts mate xxx WG x
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Post by littlelotty on Mar 13, 2009 19:24:56 GMT
Thanks monica and WG
I just dont know what to say to SIL sometimes and she is so distraught and petrified about the birth etc and i just dont know what to say as i dont know what it must be like or how small the baby is going to be. I know that having a funeral is going to help her in the long term - i am just not good with funerals at the best of times after losing my dad when i was 19 and been having my therapy about his loss and the abuse etc. I was crying today thinking about what she is going to have to go through, just cant even begin to imagine.
On another note - changed my hair colour today and it is brown with just a few blonde bits in so very different from all blonde! It was a case of having to as i cant afford to keep having my roots done so when i have to make the choice of having food on the table or hair done there isnt any choice!!! I do like it though which has surprised me. One down point was that i got a parking ticket today - buggers they are! £50 but half price if i pay it in 14 days so i will def do that! Always something isnt there!
Got a busy weekend ahead which will be good to keep my mind off everything that is going on.
LL XX
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Post by bean on Mar 13, 2009 22:00:04 GMT
Oh LL, ive just caught up with your posts and just wanted to say im so sorry for all you are going through at the moment (is this what the countdown was for?). It must be so hard, i cant imagine, (((((massive hugs))))))) Please take care of yourself, your LO needs you (and so do we!). Lots love bean xx
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Post by littlelotty on Mar 13, 2009 22:14:35 GMT
Hi Bean
Yeh it is - the countdown is for when i finally move out and we are then totally over - i will put on facebook then but dont want to put it on before - most people close all know though so wont be too much of a surprise! Been strange living in the same house with someone when you are not together! Emotions are all over the place though - go from thinking i can do it to then thinking no way can i manage on my own! Will get through it though as i have to - as you say i have my LO to keep going for and she needs me so much.
There are worse things going on in this world and close to home than what i am going through and all i can say i am lucky to have my health and job and a home and as long as i have that then i can get through everything!
LL XX
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Post by winegirl on Mar 14, 2009 9:15:22 GMT
Hi LL
Its lovely that despite everything that is going on in your life at the moment your posts are containing some positive thoughts. That is great and will get you through this more smoothly.
Hope you enjoy your busy weekend babes xx
WG x
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Post by cokey on Mar 14, 2009 10:29:42 GMT
Hey LL Yeah you do sound upbeat considering. Thats good to see and you know you will be great in whatever you do and will cope. If you can cope with raging PNI, everything else is a doddle (not literally but you know what I mean)! Cokey xx
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Post by beckah on Mar 15, 2009 17:38:16 GMT
Hey LL
Just wanted to reiterate what the rest are saying. You're doing so well, another amazing woman!
xxxx
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Post by littlelotty on Mar 15, 2009 18:24:43 GMT
Thanks ladies - you are all so wonderful and got some lovely comments!
I do feel up beat - certainly today i have felt really good and thank god time of the month is nearly over for another month yeh yeh! I think i coped with this one quite well for a change! We did a car boot this morning - with a load of rubbish really but made £60 so i was really pleased and we agreed to go halfs so £30 towards the hire of the van for my move!
And been to my best friends son's 3rd birthday party and had a great time - always good around her house so chilled out although very very tired! Got to crack on with a big pile of ironing still but then will def put feet up tonight!
SIL in today having her baby and waiting for the news but nothing yet and she went in at 9am so getting worried now! Heres hoping she is ok.
Hope everyone is ok
Take care
LL XX
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Post by winegirl on Mar 15, 2009 20:01:16 GMT
Hi LL
Hope everything is ok with SIL?
You have just inspied me to do a car boot!! Gonna get all my stuff together that I cant be bothered to sell on ebay and deal with it!
Hope you are putting your feet up now hun xx
WG x
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Post by beckah on Mar 17, 2009 11:37:02 GMT
Hi LL
How are you? xxxx
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Post by nicola1712 on Mar 17, 2009 13:42:30 GMT
Hi LL
Just caught up with your diary and news cos not been on for a while and BIG HUGS for you all - hope your SIL is doing ok - and you too.
How was the boot sale? I love doing them, hard work and ealry mornings but good fun.
xx
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Post by littlelotty on Mar 17, 2009 20:47:40 GMT
Hi All
I am doing ok, seem upbeat and managing which is good. Havent really done loads of packing yet - doing everything else but packing as i hate it!!! Had better get on with it really as i am moving on monday!!!!
SIL is not doing well, she gave birth on sunday and baby was born dead. She came out of hosp on monday and is in a right state! Trying to do what i can but feel helpless.
Got work 4 two days so that will keep me busy and then that is friday and then the weekend, time going so fast!! Looking forward to moving on monday as i hate living out of boxes etc but anxios about the move!!!
LL XX
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Post by monica on Mar 17, 2009 21:54:27 GMT
Hi
Good luck with move - it'll be an exciting new start. Glad you feeling well - you sound well. You poor sil - thinking of you all. It's hard to know what to say but you're there for her and that's important.
Take care
monica
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Post by larsbars on Mar 18, 2009 15:51:27 GMT
Hi LL,
Just caught up with your diary...I have been following and have been meaning to write....
Sorry about your relationship and all that you have been going through but it is fantastic that things are amicable between you and your OH. Your LO will benefit so much from this without loads of resentment flying around. You sound like you did so much between you to stay together so give yourself praise for that.
How are you getting on with your periods now...I know they were a bad time for you. Are you still off you AD's....I know you were looking at alternative therapies....how have you got on with that?
I hope you get your packing done quickly...I told my OH that I am never moving again unless we have to...it's such a bloody pain but having your own place and being able to decorate it how you want will be exciting and I hope you and LO will be really happy there.
Good Luck for Monday xx
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