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Post by sianyc on Apr 23, 2008 20:43:25 GMT
Sending you a very hard kick to direct at oh. It's of little consolation but my oh often comes out with thoughtless things like that. I found that organising whole days out for me ALONE and leaving him with both kids soon gave me the opportunity to say similar annoying things.
Kids are just kids and they can be great with things for 10 times and then something pops into their heads and they suddenly think it's great idea to do something like singe the carpet. She could have done that with you right next to her and the result would have been the same.
Should you need any more passive aggressive tips, I'm here for you x
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Post by winegirl on Apr 23, 2008 20:49:27 GMT
Hi Hun
I see exactly why you ar p****d off babes. I would be too! I think you do an ace job babes, i cant cope with looking after one hun and rarely cook in the evenings so you are like superwoman to me!
Your OH was very insensitive to have a go at you after being so nice to yor LO, if it had been me i would have beat my OH with the hairdryer.
I hope tomorrow is better for you hun and having a good swear has helped.
Men - b******s to them.
Love
WG xxx
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Post by larsbars on Apr 28, 2008 15:10:39 GMT
I haven't written for a few days as I have been busy and not really had a good opportunity to come on here. After last Wednesdays episode with the hairdryer, carpet and OH, I was in a real bollocks to it mood on Thursday. I was out and about doing jobs and doing some food shopping. I kept going over and over it in my head and deciding what I was going to say to OH if he metioned anything. I was getting myself all wound up but when I got home he opened the door with a big smirk on his face. He'd obviously got over it so I didn't mention anything and life was back to normal. On Friday I met up with a couple of friends that I met through Facebook and haven't seen for about sixteen years. One of them now does kids clothes parties and was doing one on that day. She said it was all reasonably priced so I was looking forward to it. We had a really nice time although when it came to browsing the clothes I discovered that they were quite pricey. Some of the skirts were £17, t-shirts were £15 and the dresses were £24. It was all beautiful stuff but I felt really awkward because I couldn't really justify spending that much money. I kept looking trying to find something cheap but in the end I settled on a dress. I decided that I could use it for summer or dress it up with leggings and a cardie for cooler days. It was £24 and I was cringing when I wrote the cheque as I knew what OH would say. When I got home OH got back from work and we were chatting. He asked if I had bought anything and I said that I had got a dress for daisy and quickly tried to divert the conversation onto something else. Unfortunately it didn't work and he asked me how much it was. I really sheepishly told him and his jaw hit the floor. He gave me a big lecture as if I were a child. Of course that dragged up Wednesdays antics and I ended up having a right go at him. I told him that I had had a really good day and felt really good but he had spoilt it by coming home and told him that he was always down on me all the time. Basically he got it in the neck but he was right and I had been suckered into buying the dress but I just didn't want him to suss me up! At least it cleared the air from Weds.! On Saturday we decided to listen to the football at 3pm and do a bbq for inlaws and sister in law and kids. I went to the shop at 11 to get bits then spent til 3.30 in the kitchen preparing food and tdying up the house. OH waas in the garden entertaining kids and getting all of th efurniture and toys out so no complaints there. We ate about 3.30 then back in the kitchen for the marathon clean up operation. Everyone wnet by about 7, so bathed LO's and put them in bed. Watched a bit of telly then fell asleep. Had a good day although I did have my moments but not much to complain about. On Sunday we got up and got ready but I had no get up and go and I was in a really funny mood. I was just really moody. I shouted really loud at Daisy twice (she is really pushing the boundries at the moment) and I just kept snapping at everything. I laid on the bed after everyone was ready and really wanted to cry because I didn't want to move. I kept thinking to myself to get up but body wasn't engaging with brain. OH said he felt exactly the same and said we probably wore ourselves out the day before. Anyway we managed to drag our carcasses out of the house. We went to a shop to take something back, popped to his nan's for an hour then dropped some bits off at his parents house. When we got back I had perked up a bit. It felt like the afternoon of a hangovver when you have had a banging head in the morning and it had just gone. You kind of have that really knackered can't move feeling and you just want to sit and veg all day. When we got home we all had something to eat and then put LO's in bed. Daisy was being a right pain and I was going to have the worst ever tantrum with her if I hadn't put her to bed when I did so it was nice to finally get the peace and quiet. I got the ironing board out and stood and did all of my ironing while watching midsomer murders. I then had about 3 loads of clean washing to fold up and put away and so did all of that and then collapsed in bed. At least I felt like I had achieved something by getting the ironing done and the bedroom was tidy again!! Today has been a good day so far. We got up and got ready this morning and I was even running early. Went to toddlers then on to soft play for some lunch and a play. Have just got home and LO's are knackered so though I would take this opportunity to write. I still have no period. Although I stil have greasy hair and am eating like pig my mood seems to have improved as has my skin. I did a couple of pregnancy tests last week just incase but both were negative. I think I might buy another one cos reckon it is about 14 days now since I ovulated so I should get the right result one way or another this week! x
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Post by winegirl on Apr 28, 2008 19:15:04 GMT
Oooh Lara, let us know how the test goes, it is normally pretty accurate at around 14 days after ovulation. Having said that, this is coming from someone who would have 4 periods a year! LOL x
Glad today has been good for you babes, hope its the start of the week to come!
Take Care
WG xx
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Post by larsbars on Apr 28, 2008 19:52:59 GMT
Thanks WG but tonight has seemed to go down hill. After OH got in I started to feel a bit low. I didn't really feel like eating. This is how I felt last night. I made OH and LO's dinner and it made me wanna throw up! It did cross my mind that it could be morning sickness but far too early for that. Anyway I was feeling worse and worse. My mum turned up to have her hair done so enjoyed that for 10 mins. Put LO's to bed and am now having some cheese, crisps and coleslaw. Highly unhealthy I know but it's just what I fancied. I think my blood sugar got a bit low earlier and if I am due on it probably doesn't help. Here's hoping that tomorrow will be a bit better!
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Post by nicola1712 on Apr 29, 2008 12:44:23 GMT
Blimey you have been busy over the past week or so! No wonder you were knackered out.
Let us know how you go with the lack of period thing - have you done any more tests yet?! With my LO I did a test a few days before I was due on and it came up positive.
So hard though cos the moods could be PMT or preggers hormones, as with the food, tiredness, sickness etc - my god they don't make these things easy do they!
Anyways try and have some restful days (!) and will wait to hear...
nicola xx
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Post by winegirl on Apr 29, 2008 20:14:25 GMT
Hi Lara
Yeah i tend to feel pretty bad and sick when my blood sugar drops, it is also my excuse for eating every hour.
Hope today has been better for you babes? Thinking of you x
WG xx
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Post by larsbars on Apr 30, 2008 14:09:51 GMT
Hi All,
Yesterday was another busy day but I had decided to another pregnancy test as it would have been at least 14 days since I ovulated so thought it would be conclusive.
I wet to toddlers, then on to McDonalds for lunch (bad mother) then I went to Asda to do a bit of shopping. Bought the test. Went on to garden centre to buy seeds to plant with Daisy. Stopped at Sainsburys for a couple of bits then dropped a couple of things off at peoples houses. It was a very productive day and I got loads done. Anyway as soon as I got home I did the test and it was negative. I had kind of got used to the fact that I might be pregnant and I was a bit gutted but then LO's started screaming and I was soon happy again!!
I don't know what anyone elses OH's are like but mine always likes to grab a body part at any opportunity. Sometimes it's the tits or if you bend over they like to pretend they doing it from behind. Sometimes this doesn't bother me but just lately it has been driving me mad and I sometimes feel a bit violated. I really snapped at him yesterday and told him to leave me alone. I felt bad but then I know I shouldn't cos it's my body. It's probably the hormones.
Anyway OH watched footie and i went upstairs and watched Gok and embarassing bodies and I couldn't believe it but I have FINALLY come on. Thank god for that because although the test was negative I still had that nagging doubt in my head.
This morning I feel a bit crap. Didn't have to go out today so pulled on my scanky bottoms and old t-shirt and have been doing a few jobs whilst entertaining the LO's. They have both just gone down for a sleep but there is loads of crashing and banging coming from Daisy's room. I think she is having a sort out!
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Post by winegirl on Apr 30, 2008 14:25:02 GMT
Hi Hun
Sorry this test was negative, but glad you came on so at last you dont have to think about it anymore!!
Know what you mean about thr OH grabbing body parts thing. If it isnt that its making suggestive comments, which is anooying when he knows how much I am off sex altogether! Grrr
Well done on getting all those jobs done mate, but dont forget to rest too!!
WG xx
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Post by nicola1712 on Apr 30, 2008 18:03:29 GMT
Yeah DH does that all the time - grabs me from behind or sits/lays next to me and has a 'feel.' Like you say some days I don't mind but others it just annoys me!
Sorry about the test being negative but hve a few slobby days and hope period not too bad.
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Post by larsbars on May 1, 2008 10:46:49 GMT
Well I'm just sat here in tears at the moment.
I just went upstairs to get LO's some clothes and when I came back down Daisy had taken her nappy off and got poo everywhere plus Jamie had got his hands in it. Cleared up and took LO's upstairs for a shower. Popped back downstairs to get the phone so that I could call MIL to have LO's for a couple of hours so that I could clean the lounge carpet properly and when I got back upstairs Jamie had his nappy off and had got poo on the carpet. I can't be sure that Jamie didn't undo it but he doesn't normally and suspect it was Daisy but couldn't really have go. So here I was with all of this anger and no-one to take it out on. Got both LO's in the shower and Daisy soaked the bathroom floor. Ended up proper shouting at her like a bloke. She just laughed which made it worse and short of battering her there was nothing which she would take seriously so more frustrated. Got them out and dressed and dried Daisy's hair. She wouldn't look where I wanted her to and just thought it was all a big joke. I then went to get Jamies clothes and noticed that she had broken a picture frame. It wasn't an expensive one but why? I just burst out crying. The thing that keeps going round in my head is that yesterday when LO's were asleep I was on the computer doing my entry here and sorting a few bits out for toddlers. Jamie woke up so brought him in here on my lap. Daisy then woke up so she came in and was messing up papers. I really wanted to finish up what I was doing so let her get on with it. Now believe me that when I say the study is a mess it much tidyer than a lot of peoples that I kmow but it's all relative. Kids were annoying me so I finished up and shut the dooe and left the 'mess' (not a mess in my eyes). Yesterday I had sorted out a few of Jamie's old clothes, sorted out the shoe cupboard, done 2 loads of washing and washed the bedding. I'd played with the kids and kept them amused and then I cooked dinner for all of us. After LO's had gone to bed I asked OH to crack my back for me (nothing sadistic but my back gets really tense and locks up sometimes and I get him to stand on it lightly and it all cracks). He said that he would if I tidy up the study tomorrow cos it's a bloody mess. Now at the time I was knackered and desperately wanted my back done so just agreed but now I am sitting here thinking 'you bastard'. He has no clue about what it is like. I struggle out of bed in the morning after I have wrangled with my thoughts and tried to get in a positive mood. To get any jobs done in the day is a godsend with kids and he himself has said that he doesn't know how I do it so to then critisize me becuase the study is a 'mess' is just laughable. Our bloody house is very tody compared to a lot of peoples' with kids but believe me that they have got the right idea about not giving a shit. I wish I could.
Anyway I think I have calmed down a bit now. LO's are in Daisy's room playing and I just needed a bit of time out to get this off my chest. I think OH just needs bringing back to earth occassionally so will have it out with him later and remind him that it is not easy. Supposed to be going straight into town tonight to look at some fabric for blinds then get something to eat. Should be a nice evening but don't eant to spoil it.
I'll get back later if I can.
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Post by nicola1712 on May 1, 2008 13:39:22 GMT
What a nightmare! Sounds like you are doing well keeping it together as it is hon. I too have days where I think DH hasn't got a bloody clue - and often tell him that too but he just harps on about working and taking the dog (oh and mows the lawn once a fortnight in the summer) out and how hard all that is. The house gets in such a mess sometimes and I simply refuse to do it because I have a million and one other things to do all day - I tell him if he doesn't like then do it himself. It often still doesn't get done and culminates in me losing it cos I can't stand it anymore and storming round cleaning it all. I thought about the other day and before we had LO we used to share the housework cos we both worked and now it is all me and I look after LO all day and the dog - so how is that fair?! Could you have a day out and leave him with LOs for the day - to show him how hard it is? I have tried withdrawing 'priviliges' until he helps me tidy telling him I am too knackered - that works and cos I am hardly ever in the mood at the moment I am not bothered. Anyways hope your day gets better and you give him what for later! nicola xxx
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Post by larsbars on May 1, 2008 14:41:12 GMT
Hi Nicola,
Thx for your post. OH is really good around the house usually. He usually clears up the kitchen after we have dinner but just sometimes he can be too picky about things. I do usually say to him that if he doesn't like something then he should do it himself. I just hate the fact that he is thinking negative about me. The other day he washed the car and said to ' not that you care or anything but there are loads of dents in the side of the car where people have opened their doors' I told him that I do care but what the bloody hell can I do about it?? He said that I should just be a bit careful where I park. I would like to think that he respects my judgement but obviously not. O usually park in M&T parking anyway but when we are out together he will park at the other end of the car park to keep the car safe. I often joke that he should get the cotton wool out to wrap the car. The thing is that I am not parking miles away when i have 2 kids to lug around so quite frankly if the car gets a few niks in it I'm not really bothered. I have told him that if he doesn't like it he should just buy an old banger. He's so anal sometimes.
I've just got rid of LO's to MIL so am about to attack the carpet.
See you laterx
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Post by cheshire on May 1, 2008 20:09:05 GMT
Hi,
Had to laugh when you said 'he' so anal sometimes', sorry bout that, but I know what you mean!
Hopefulx
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Post by nicola1712 on May 1, 2008 20:09:25 GMT
LOL - we have that same conversation too! DH will park bloody miles away just to protect the car, never mind the fact it takes a week to get to the shops. He often won't park in M&B spaces because he says there are people with buggies near the car !!!!
Actually something funny - he said to me one of the first times we parked in those spaces - 'are you sure we can, do you have a badge/sticker/pass or something?' Yes dear, my pass is sitting in that baby seat snoring her head off....
Oh and he always says that I never care about the state of my car inside or out too - well sorry but I kinda don't have time to dear!!
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