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Post by winegirl on Jul 5, 2008 8:17:43 GMT
Hi Sam
I am just posting at this point to let you know that I am reading your story babes. I have got as far as you have written, and will post at the end. I just really wanted you to know that someone is hear and listening xx
WG x
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Post by winegirl on Jul 5, 2008 10:24:47 GMT
Hi Sam
I have been reading what you have posted and am amazed as to how strong you are. A lesser person would not be where you are today.
I know the feeling of all these awful things happening at once, and it is a huge trigger for PNI. You clearly have so much on your plate, and are doing great to raise three very youn children through this.
Your story brought tears to my eyes, it's hard to believe sometimes how life can deal us, and you have really been through the mill. But it is because of that that I know you will get through your current problems.
Your past has made you stron and you have been through far worse than this. You need to get all the support you can, and I hope we will be a part of that.
What is the situation these days with your parents and step parents? What is the contact like now?
And how is your relationship with Lee? YOu mentioned that it had been violent at one point?
I am so glad you have decided to let all this out here, I hope writing it down has proved a bit theraputic for you??
Love
WG xx
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Post by winegirl on Jul 5, 2008 12:32:49 GMT
Hi Hun
What is hapening. What is Lee on the phone to the police for babes? You ok?
As for your friend - well clearly you dont need her in your life so nothing to lose by reporting her and takig her to court! There should be no reason for you to loase out financially in anyway! Friends dont treat you like that.
How you doing??
WG xx
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Post by winegirl on Jul 5, 2008 12:40:53 GMT
Dont feel bad about it hun. It is good that the police are sending someone out s it means they are taking it seriously! This was it can get sorted once and for all and then you can put your so called friend in the past and start concentrating on you, your family and any other friends...
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Post by winegirl on Jul 5, 2008 12:53:40 GMT
Not at all hun! But you souldnt feel bad. We are all here for mutual support. I am glad you have shared your storu with us, I really hope we can help you through!
How come you have never met your friend? Did you meet over the net??
Dont worry about them not believing you, you only have to show them your ebay history for them to see what has been going on. I hope they get it sorted and quickly for you!!
Are the police coming round this week?
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Post by winegirl on Jul 5, 2008 15:47:57 GMT
Hi Sam
I imagine how hard it is for you trust anyone after all you have been through, but not everyone in the world is bad. Its just about trying to judge who are the good ones. I still havent figured it!!!
Have the police been round yet this afternoon??
You ok?
WG xx
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Post by winegirl on Jul 6, 2008 9:41:13 GMT
Hi Sam
I am glad you are feeling better today babes x I think your hubby is right, whatever happens you will just have to put it behind you and take it as experience.
Hope the rest of your day goes ok hun xxx
Take Care
WG x
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Post by molliesmummy on Jul 7, 2008 11:20:48 GMT
hi sambear finally finished reading on here, and like i said, you'll get the best support on here. im here just remember that x
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Post by molliesmummy on Jul 7, 2008 14:20:17 GMT
sam what happened to you will defo make you feel paranoid about everyone, whether you can trust anyone n all that- but you will find who your real friends are believe me. what your going through will bring us all together and ill be up to see you as soon as i can- im not doing that festival anymore the group we were dancing with has been dropped so if we have enough we could come see you sooner!!!! and a real hug will be there for you!!! no silly *hugs* things haha me with my arms around you being the best friend i want to be for you xxxx im always online remember that and when im not you have my number.
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Post by winegirl on Jul 7, 2008 19:48:48 GMT
Hi Sam
When I got with my hubby 8 years ago I learnt exactly who my friends were. Most of them who I had trusted my life with disappeared with disapproval of our relationship (their is a 15 year age gap), and these were people I thought I could tell anything.
To this day I no longer 100% tryst anyone. But I have learned to trust again to a degree and know I have met some fab people since having PNI.
The same will be for you too hun, you kust need to give it time xx
WG x
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Post by winegirl on Jul 8, 2008 20:54:54 GMT
Hi Sam
You are sounding much more upbeat hun! I think planning Connor's party is exactly what you need to get yourslef up and going again! And once you get yourself involved in the kids party games there will be no stopping you!.....
WG xx
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Post by molliesmummy on Jul 9, 2008 8:59:06 GMT
im waiting for you to come online today so we can chat hun. lee is just probably in mourning like you say its the anniversary of his dads death, but he could also be thinking of you in all this craziness thats gone on- he knows you've taken a step in speaking to the police about dani, just remember that its a big step. you know id love to just come over n babysit for you, your lil ones are the coolest, and you and lee deserve a break from reality for a bit. i dont know im probably not making any sense here lol and rambling... and thanks to you- mollie is actually going down for a sleep- and its ten!!! a normal sleep time!!! i love you sambear, and im online waiting for you hunnie xxx
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Post by winegirl on Jul 9, 2008 19:36:01 GMT
Hi Sam
No, it doesnt sound daft at all! I think how our parents are with us shapes us when we become parents ourselves, we learn from it and it is when we have kids ourselves that we start to analyse these things...
Sounds to me like you are gonna be nothing like your mum hun. You know what you need to do to be the person you want to be.
Hows things going for you this evening babes? Do you and Rachel live close then?
WG xx
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Post by Scarlet on Jul 10, 2008 7:26:39 GMT
Hiya Sam,
It can run in families because it's a 'learned behaviour' to a stressful situation, rather than being genetic...but the good news is, that you can get rid of it and it may never come back, so please don't worry if your parents were depressed, you are not them hun.
Good luck with the counsellor today Sam, let us know how you get on. You are far froma fraud my lovely.
Huge hug
xx
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Post by winegirl on Jul 10, 2008 7:45:15 GMT
Hi Sam
Hows things?
Depression affects around 40% of people in the UK, so more people suffer than we think. Family history can affect it, but it is fully recoverable from.
Glad you managed to get a couple of hours to yourself last night! Bath and book.. sounds like heaven...
WG x
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