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Post by winegirl on Feb 9, 2009 21:50:50 GMT
How do i find out where to do crochet? If its easier than knitting I want to have a go!
Hope you enjoy your bath mate (and get to have it on your own!). Try to get yourself off to bed. Get the DS Lite out mate - works for me!!
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 10, 2009 19:26:39 GMT
So i'm not a granny then lol. Glad to hear it. Well I'll tell you what I did but no laughing!!! I am friends with a older lady who works in a craft shop in the village, shes great at everything like that but cant crochet. Said what I wanted to do, make a blanket etc and we looked at patterns but it was complicated. I said I'd look online. But she then laughed and said well, there is this and handed me a book. 'Kids learn to Crochet!' Its £7.99. This pattern is £3 and you dont understand it yet, and will prob take you ages to find online a video of how to do it. So I relented for the kids book. Shows you basic crochet, double, treble, inc, dec, fastening off and circles. And of course how to make lovely little cats and bags and flowers etc etc. But hey, easy to follow, really idiot proof and simple to do. Basically its a case of pulling loops thro a slip knot. Not hard at all, and much easier than knitting (I can actually knit but takes me ages and I'm a very tight knitter, once knitted a jumper for steven while preg, suposed to be size 0-6m, turned out like prem size, only fitted for like 2 weeks, lol). If I had a scanner I'd have scanned the pages for you, but I'm afraid to say I dont. Good luck!
Went to toddlers today as Stuart work up bright as a button and I thought oh god, I'm not spending all morning trying to occupy him, I'll haul myself to toddlers, which I've not been to in about 4 wk. Was actually ok, I kind of sat there half switched on, briefly taking in what was going on and being said. They laughed at me. But stuart had a ball and it tired him out. Steven got picked up from playgroup by his homestart lady so they played for a bit with stuart when they came back and she even made them lunch. She had twins and suffered pre-eclampsia so was very understanding and spoke about her experience of it and what to watch for. She also works as a nurses assistant, has some nurses training so is helpful with things like that. She says like the MW that anaemia when its quite severe can produce all of those symptoms too, so not to worry and try to rest. Apparently stressing out will make it all the worse.
But otherwise an ok day, tempted to have a bath again coz I'm aching and its restful, but i dont know if I can be bothered either. Might just have a quick one. Mike says I'll shrivell up if I keep having a bath every night for an hour!
xxx
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 11, 2009 19:28:18 GMT
I think I need shot lol. If I was an animal I'd have been putdown by now!
LAst night I went to bed with a sore leg. Its been numb-ish for a day or two but last night there were really sharp pains in the inside of my hip area. I was in agony all night. Could have cried with the pain. It was like a stabbing pain. I woke this morning with it slightly better but a dull ache down to my knee and numbness. i thought that baby was just lying bad. I was getting rather sore and it was obviously me moving about made it diff for the baby as it moved rather alot early this am. I decided to call the nurse as It seemed to be getting worse. Nurse called back saying it could be siatica, but considering I was so far gone etc and there were odd pains she wanted me checked. Had the doc lunchtime and it turns out I've slipped a disc in my lower back. God knows how I've managed it but he reckons its slipped to the side enough to trap a nerve hence the sore leg. He was almost sure where too, said he could feel it. I laughed and said I can hardly go about so why the hell could I manage to slip a disc. He said it was really easy in preg esp with SPD as you protect you pelvis and hence hurt yourself.
Doc also checked my BP and pluse which were up a bit agian but not too might. Have had a bit of swelling again, hard to tell when my leg is dead and freezing cold all day. Also noticed this am that my urine was a really brownish red colour. Should have thought and caught it for a sample but you know how poorly your brain functions in the morning, lol.
What with being so sore and exhausted today the kids were driving me insane. I was on the verge of going mad just b4 their dad came in. They were both exhausted tho. Both now asleep. Thank god.
A friend upset me slightly today. We were discussing a creche and its issues. Its run by a surestart funded scheme. I know the lady in charge up here and basically we were talking about it. I mentioned to a friend who has been going to the meetings, its having a few real probs mainly costs and booking places. But the lady and I had said stuff, in confidence to me, and when I discussed it with my friend, who I trusted completely she wasnt happy. She said she was going to ask her at the next meeting. I pointed out that this was a private conversation between the lady and i and I only mentioned to her as I thought she could be trusted and didnt think she'd be 2-faced like that. She kind of hmmed it off but said oh I'm not being 2-faced about it. But its not her business to discuss it and she didnt like the lady anyway. I again said it was a private convo and was only between the two of us not for the committee meeting. She passed the convo off quickly but its still bothering me a little. I dont know if I should mention it again to ensure she doesnt say anything in the meeting as the lady would be rather annoyed and hence fall on me. I really thought I could trust her but she disappointed me. I might mention it again 2moro.
All the confusion and stress of talking with my mate has left me feeling a bit down to be honest. That and being so sore. Going to have a nice rest in the bath and an early night
xx
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 12, 2009 8:24:05 GMT
Had a terrible night last night. My mum called to tell me how my grandfather was hes in hosp again, and asked how I was. I got the usual response, like I was making it up. Dads reply, which I heard in the background, 'she cant really have slipped a disc, thats just her being stupid'. Mum said oh have you properly slipped a disc like. Surely not. I said well I didnt know anything just what the doc said and he seemed to think so. Why is it so hard to understand. Why cant they just take for granted I'm having a bad preg and I'm ill. Ok I know myself I keep thinking, what next. But I cant help this and I dont understand why they cant see that. Its really upsetting.
I spent alot of last night in tears, in my bed. With everything thats going on I dont feel I need them to be like this. I felt off after what happened with my mate and now them. I expect it from dad but mum was just as bad. I dont know what else to do. I think i have to go back to the doc today, I'm not going to tell them I've been, I dont need the stress of a lecture. I'm going to a good friend this afternoon, she'll help me feel better
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 12, 2009 21:13:25 GMT
Did have to go to the doc again, they did want to see me afterall. I tried to do it on the phone but he wanted to see me. Basically its the SPD which has induced the slipped disc. My leg is in agony as is my hips and pelvis. They are swelling up with it too. Doc wants me to go to hosp for bed rest. I said no. I didnt want to. Its an inconvenience to others. When really i thought I darent even mention I was told I needed to go in, i couldnt bear the uproar and stress. I cant cope with being that upset.
Didnt tell mum and dad I was back at doc today. Have MW 2moro am, she will know what the doc wants so will need to convince her too that I cant go in yet. The kids are on hols with the mid-term nxt wk so would be impossible to go in. In reality I am so so sore that I would welcome the rest and the possible benefit from it. My thinking being if I can hold it off for another week them go in for maybe a week. They might induce me at 37wks, it was mentioned b4. I'm near enough 35 now so hold off a week, a week in hosp then possible induction. The doc said just coz I go in it doesnt mean I have to stay indefinetely until baby is born. A week may be enough of a rest to get home again for a week with the thought of inducing a little later. I'll talk to the MW 2moro and see what she says. I still dont think I can bear telling mum and dad. See how it transpires 2moro I guess.
I feel confused and upset by all this. Makes me want to cry
xx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 13, 2009 11:37:14 GMT
Grrr just wrote a long post and lost it However I think I covered most of what I wanted to say to you in your other thread. I too suffered with SPD and can appreciate how painful it is at the best of times, so really feel for you having a slipped disc with it! Ret rest rest mate. Seriously now, you have got to get some support and get some time layed up. I will end up bothering you every 5 mins of the day to check you are. I am sorry that everything is so tough at the moment, it is really important that you now focus on what you need, and if there is anything we can do to help, please just ask. How did the appt with the MW go today?? WG xx
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Post by monica on Feb 13, 2009 11:42:21 GMT
Hi
Just a thought could you get oh to tell your parents you need to go into hospital - soemtimes from a third person they might believe it more (sad as that is). Do try and take it easy however, I do knwo with two other ones to chase that is hard. A hopsital stay for a bit would enforce the bed rest bit.
Love
Monica
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 14, 2009 18:14:23 GMT
Hi WG and Monica, thanks for the input as always much appreciated.
Its a bummer isnt in hum when you write heaps and it goes lol. Thanks tho got the messages in the other post too and I get the point. I know I need to rest.
Monica, yes you are right a third party is often only the other way but I have now told them so thankyou for the advice. I had his support and my MIL so it was sort of thro them too.
MW said as doc said. I need to be in and nothin is going to get any better until I go in, only worse. Babys heartbeat was a bit jumpy but they said it was due to my stress and anxiety. MY BP and pulse were up but they checked them b4 I left and they were both down. Said that I am slowly developing pre-elcampsia, but its late enough for it not to be a real issue. Bed rest in hosp in inevietable, its not going to be an option. its going to come to the stage that its distressing the baby with my stress and exhaustion and I will be forced to go in for the babys sake.
What we discussed and half planned was that I dont go in this nxt week as its the schoold midterm hols and would be difficult for anyone to help out. If I can get one more week at home. I will rest up as much as poss, MIL is going to come up a few afternoons so i can have a lie down and a break. That will take me on to week 36. If I can go in for week 36 and get home for the weekend. They said providing baby is well enought there is no reason why i cant come home after a week. With the view of going in the next week for induction. I said as long as if i go in it doesnt mean I need to stay there until the baby comes out I will go in. I dont want to have to get induced and then stay there. I want to come home and rather labour at home. But if needs must then obviously I will stay.
I was too afaraid to tell my parents what had been going on but after a talk with my MIL and Mike they said i had to. MIL suggested getting mum on her own today when we collected the kids. I was in tears most of the afternoon after talking to her on the phone that i decided i couldnt cope with not telling them anymore and I had to. I got her on her own, explained the whole episode and the baby being a bit distressed etc and that i was really needing to go in but i had said no. Then what i had planned and thats it really. I left the ball in her court and we went home. I said initially that I was telling her on her own as i didnt want to tell dad. I didnt want an arguement and couldnt cope with the extra stress, me or the baby. She asked why I thought he would be angry and I just said is reaction so far, i didnt want to discuss it with him and i was leaving that to her. I didnt need the stress. She seemed to take it as it was and not mention anything else.
I feel better of telling her although still aprehensive about what will be said from dad. i'm half expecting a phone call from him 2nite. He does that kind of think, although if mum had taken on board that its my anxiety and stress that is distressing the baby she will discourage that and may not let him call me. They are however both off on mon so there is a chance they may be over and I do expect him to say something in that case. In reality I'd rather they didnt come over but if they come over or ask to on their own free will i wont stop them.
Otherwise I'm real sore today. I had to go with mike to collect stuff for his work and them over for the kids so have spent a large proportion of the day in the car sitting and I'm sore from it. Have terrible heartburn too lol.
Got a bunch of roses for valentines today, he even promised a massage as I'm so sore from todays travels. He works on a farm so has strong hands and does a good massage. Complains about be asking every night tho lol
I'm off to get some nice roasted veg for my tea. I've been really queazy lately and veg seems to be the only thing I can keep down. I could be vegetarian actually i love vegetables
Hope you guys had a nice valentines
xxx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 15, 2009 20:05:42 GMT
I love my veggies too.... unfortunately my hubby hates ALL veggies so its a bit of a predicament...
I think you have had some good advice and am glad you have taken it all on board. But seriously, if this is something your dad reacts badly too, then I would be really cross. Surely as your dad he would want you to rest up and look after you and your baby? I just dont understand his logic.
I hope you manage to get plenty of rest this week before going in to hospital and wish you loads and loads of love babes xxx
WG x
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 16, 2009 7:59:00 GMT
Well there was no phone call from him! I have to say I was a little surprised. Mike did call mum as the boys wanted to talk to her and she had asked what i was doing, resting hopefully she had said. It turned later that i needed to call her again as I wanted her to take down a flight bag for packing the babys things in a separate bag now that i have to go in. I'm not trailing it all in for a week then back again if i get out. So when I called she was a little confused by what I meant but then understood and said yeah that was a good idea and that if i actually behaved I might not need to go in. I said again that I wouldnt get induced unless i'd been in and I didnt want to go thro 5 weeks of this. She didnt seem to understand the principal of that and it took a bit of telling over and over but she seems to get the point. Mike reckons she doesnt want it induced, she appears to fear it wont be ready. Good point I guess, I did initially until they explained it. Dad was in the background and there want anything said to my ear shot, other than I wasn't getting his flight bag lol, he might need it (he flies alot with work) he seemed to think there was only one. Mum was in hysterics trying to explain that the attic had about 6 of them!
Now that they know i do feel a little less stressed about it. I was getting quite concerned and I feel like a weight has been lifted so thats going to benefit both me and the baby. It was very restless yest evening and was making me really uncomfortable, so I'm tender today. God knows what it was doing lol, trying to escape thro my belly!
Off to sort out these kids, running about in pj's still
Thanks for the input as always xx
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 17, 2009 7:56:52 GMT
Yesterday went almost without a hitch. The kids were a complete nightmare. I must have explained about 20x why playgroup isnt on today and that it will be back on again and no its not coz he was bad. As a result of the lack of group steven was so full of energy. Stuart was Mr Grumpy and spent almost all day either screaming or sulking. The only time lately he is quiet is when hes eating!
I eventually gave in and decided that Stu was going to bed for a nap am whether or not he wanted one, I would have hung him otherwise. Steven and I settled on the sofa and had a rest while watching some kids rubbish on tv. It kept him quiet. My mum called about lunch time to say there were coming over to a shop in the village and would be in past.
My task for the day was to get a little step closer to being organised. I sorted out my clothes in my wardrobe and shelves and made a space to hang up the canvas shelves inside. Perfect little hanging box things with shelves. I thought that suitable enought to store the baby clothes until i get well enought to go get a unit for it. About half way thro the process, looked like a clothes bomb had hit, mum and dad arrived. It turned into a mad house! The kids burnt off some energy so it had the desired effect.
My Dad was rather quiet. Mum has obviouslt told him what I had said about not wanting to talk to him as he was quite obviously different to normal. Hardly spoke at all to be honest. He didnt ignore me tho. They compained about the heat in the house, I had been cold, my leg is freezing and hence makes me cold. When dad came back from taking the dog out he comented on the place being like an oven, I said, without thinking, well my leg had practically no sensation and is freezing, feels like a lump of ice, its making me cold. He laughed and sort of didnt know what to say, he just said is it cold all over and I said yes. He laughed again and said well no amount of heating is going to fix that, you should try a hot water bottle. So I can safely say he knows, as that was not at all him. But on a positive note he must know not to say anything or I'd have gotten spoken to yesterday.
Been drinking raspberry leaf tea, Apparently speeds up the second stage of labour. All for that one. Its actually nice stuff I used to drink it b4, so not a prob to me. Prob better than the caffiene from tea anyway.
Toddler group is on this am and older kids are welcome so a good chance to run off some energy. I welcome break too. Not too bad a group either, will be quite busy today tho with the kids off school. MIL is maybe coming down this afternoon to give me a hand and a rest. I really need to take at least an hour thro the day to lie down or it gets unbearable. I thought I'd nip in past the MW today after toddlers and get a prescription saves the hassle of the doc surgey. I'm struggling with the large amounts of iron and its giving me bad heartburn too.
Thats all the days plans. My idea being that if I get one thing everyday without knackering myself i might actually be organised b4 next monday. Well I doubt it, I know exactly what I'm like lol.
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Post by monica on Feb 17, 2009 9:50:55 GMT
Hi
Hey you're doing amazingly! I can compeltely relate to the sorting clothes stuff and house consequently being a bombsite of clothing. I'm sorting out stuff for my 4 yr old and after 4 days of carrier bags full of clothes being strewn around house have managed to finish it. I do sympathise!
Glad your dad appears to have got the message. It obviously means less stress for you so that's great.
Anyway, tkae it easy (you must be sick of hearing that daily).
Love
monica
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Post by winegirl on Feb 17, 2009 13:01:38 GMT
Have you eaten fresh pineapple too?? That helps speed labour up. And my midwife had me but raspberry leaf in the bath to help me avoid induction...
Of course there is also always the old one about having a curry and ...erm.... sex (not necessarily both together or in any particular order..)
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 18, 2009 8:37:05 GMT
Cheers guys,
U crack me up WG, both together! Yuck lol
Pineapple is something I've heard b4 too, but apparently you have to eat about 7 or 8 to have effect. I dont relish the idea of 2, nevermind 7! The tea is to speed up the second stage, not to bring on labour from what I have heard. Evening primrose oil too. This sounds yuck so be warned. You apparently eat them as norm but put a pin hole in a capsule and stick it up there when you go to bed. Do this for a few nights and it will ripen your cervix. From what I have read it can bring unripe to ripe in 6 days. But what worries me is what if the baby is born alongside these capsules, wont they look at you really oddly! Can you just imagine me to michael, now make sure you give it a good scrape out, i cant have an capsules in there!
This clary sage tho sounds like it is good. I've had a good scroll online and it seems quite potent but also works well. Can speed up your contractions very quicky and have it all done in no time, but its wether or not you want that too. I think if I use it to start it then if need be a little later to speed it up if need be.
I was on the phone to mum last night and I'm thinking back along the lines of saying I dont want to go in. I know b4 you go oh for gods sake. It seems like its going to be such a hassle. Mum made it sound like a whole drama just for me to go in for a week. I really need the rest i am in agony. I cant sleep for the pain so am exhausted. By the end of the day I could cry with it. getting up and down the stairs is hard work, getting up with stuart in my arms at bed and nap time is agony. I feel so exhausted from it that I could sit down. But you cant, when you have 2 kids on your own its not that simple.
I reckon I must have caught mum in a grumpy mood lastnite too maybe. She was ok initially then started going on about how she didnt think i should be induced, just wait it out. When I said oh my god not, i couldnt bear it much longer, to 38 max I would litterally pass out much longer than that. Thats she couldnt possibly understand how painful it is. She said yes I know but for one more week of pain wont it be better for the baby. I said surely if it wasnt ready they wouldnt induce me. They may even make me wait till nearer 38 rather than beg of wk 37. She started saying things like what if it lands in neo-natal, you wont be able to stay as we cant keep the kids that long, it means you wont get to breast feed and them it will have to be on a bottle and you will hardly get to see it as you cant go in to it when you have the kids. That upset me.
One positive from yes was that the physio phoned with some tips as I cant get to see her nxt wk due to prob being in hosp. I've got ways to lie in bed or try, didnt seem to work last night. Also to sit with my legs open. My father in law laughed hysterically when I said that, he reckoned if I'd kept my legs closed in the first place I'd not be in this mess! Charming
Off to get them ready for group. They are starting to get agitated
xxx
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 19, 2009 8:55:21 GMT
Had MIL round yest afternoon so am a little more on the way to being ready for the baby. She helped me get the cot organised and its clothes. I now only need to pack my back for next week and get a separate bag packed for the baby.
I have nothin on today, but feel really run down. My leg is quite bad and feel light headed again today. I was very sore driving OH to work this am. I am going to put Stuart down for a morning nap very soon and steven and I can lie up on the sofa. He is very good and likes the idea of taking care of mummy. makes him feel like a big boy, and he says daddy will be proud of him for it. He will quite happily lie down with me watching kids programmes. We are going to visit a friend this afternoon and will most likely get the kids tea there and often us too.
Mum was on the phone yest about next week. She has been able to get an extra morning off so means MIl will only have 2 full days with the boys. She is older ans struggles for a whole day alone. My MIl is going to stay over night on the days she is required first thing for Oh to get to work. The other days the boys will stay with mum and dad. Hopefully it will only be a week I am in. With help taking steven playground from my friend it should run smoothly enough. I'm glad to hear as I really could be done with the rest. A week sounds a long time but I really am so exhausted and realy sore that I am about to break. By the end of last night i was practically in tears with the pain. This morning I awoke with the same hip in agony. I got up to pee thro the night and could put no weight on my leg without sharp pains. Its starting to get me down as I feel so incapable.
I'm about to try stuart to nap, he ws up at 6, and late to bed so should sleep for at least an hour and a half. After that i should be rested enought to survive the rest of the day. After today plans should be finalised for going to the hospital next week, ready to see the MW 2moro. i just hope its only a week day stay and I get home for the weekend!
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