Oh hun
What you’re going through sounds so familiar.
I’m not qualified to say if you have PNI or not, but you may just be feeling what most of us do at first (which is utter desperation and shock and sleep deprivation) and not necessarily PNI. I think the fact you are asking for help now and going to your GP is great and you should definitely do that, but you may just need some extra support for a while and someone to talk to so try not to worry you have PNI just yet.
I’m sure that your beautiful little boy is getting enough on the breast, if he needs more you will sense it... plus they wouldn’t make a random ‘acceptable’ comment if they thought he wasn’t getting enough, they would tell you as they so (at times in a very condescending way) very often do!
And hey, if you find YOU feel he needs something a bit more, then don’t feel bad expressing some extra for a top up, or putting him on the odd formula bottle either as there is nothing wrong with that.
After 3 weeks of just breastfeeding my Son, I started expressing to give myself the odd break which was great... then I felt he wasn’t getting enough so at around 6 weeks I gave him a formula bottle. Then I would sometimes give him a formula bottle for his 10pm feed (when I was shattered) cause he’d then sleep through til 6am, yippee!
For me, just having the option if a) I couldn’t express any and b) he wouldn’t take any (easily) one day, to just give him a formula bottle made life a bit easier and less stressful.
After 3 months of breast/ bottle feeding I decided to give it up completely, as it made me very depressed whenever he latched on and I think he sensed it ...and I went through all the guilt feelings again trying to stop ...but alot of it is your hormones and honestly, once I stopped, so did those emotions.
All I’m trying to say is that whatever you choose to do, it will be the right thing for you both so try to fight those (hormonal) guilt feelings. Don’t feel so pressured that if you don’t give him loads of breast milk or he’ll not be happy. They take what they need and you have options if you feel he needs more. He IS happy because he’s got you for a Mum that loves him so so so so much and he will be just fine I promise
Oh and for the record, I didn’t do ANYTHING for at least 6 weeks, my partner was used and abused like you wouldn’t believe the poor thing, but you know what, we went through sooo much to have our babies, we deserve a bl00dy break!!
You guys will get back on track, it’s a massive shock to the system and relationship having a baby. We went from being so helpful to one another for the first 2 weeks (cause he actually respected and appreciated me when he saw what I went through in labour!) ...then the sleep deprivation kicked in and the bitchy comments started. It’s normal for there to be a strain on you both for a while but just try to do the little things to show one another you appreciate each other and you’ll grow strong again, it does take time as you don’t have any alone time anymore... but try to get yourselves out away from baby too as it makes a big difference
I promise you that as the baby gets older it does get easier. I remember people telling me that at the time and me thinking ‘surely it must get harder’ but it doesn’t as they don’t need that constant 24/7 mind attention i.e. they will happily crawl about playing with you monitoring them, rather than you sitting over them googoo gaaing all day like you do now.
Plus when they laugh more and more and give you more feedback it feels less stressful with the mundane day to day routine because you’re seeing the rewards a bit more.
Lotsalove
N xxx