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Post by juppster on Feb 24, 2013 8:52:08 GMT
I know that feeling well, it can feel so relentless and eternal but I can promise you it most certainly will not feel this way forever. Could you do something nice for you today? Get a bit of "you" time? X
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Post by monica on Feb 24, 2013 8:55:01 GMT
You are going through a blip and that can feel like you are back to square one with no hope. But there is and it will pass. What things do you enjoy doing? Maybe treat yourself to something nice to lift you.
Hugsx
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Post by jessibella on Feb 24, 2013 11:13:07 GMT
Thanks. I'm just really confused about what's going on. I don't ever seem to get more than 2 OK days in a row, are the rest all blips? Wondering if I should try the Venlafaxine. So fed up of feeling this way. X
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Post by juppster on Feb 25, 2013 9:30:09 GMT
It's totally up to you on the meds honey, its such a hard decision. I remember I was almost going to try the venlafaxine but after a bit more cbt and discussion with my cpn things started to improve. How are you feeling this morning? X
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Post by jessibella on Feb 25, 2013 15:54:25 GMT
Hi Juppster. What meds were you on? Hope you don't mind me asking. I'd like to avoid taking the Venlafaxine if poss but worried things won't improve if I don't. What do you think helped you not to take it?
Today is OK. Bit wobbly at times but all in all not too bad.
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Post by monica on Feb 25, 2013 18:54:55 GMT
What are your worries about the Meds? It's big decision to take them and entirely up to you. Can ur dr advise you? Maybe give urself few more weeks. Possibly the therapy as Jo s case will help enough not to need them.
Xxx
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Post by juppster on Feb 25, 2013 19:25:39 GMT
I was and am still on a maintenance dose of 20mgs fluoxetine and 5mgs buspirone which is for the anxiety. I still have blips but these now on,y tend to happen every three months or so and are hormone related. What are your fears about the venlafaxine? X
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Post by jessibella on Feb 25, 2013 20:41:38 GMT
I'm scared because I had really nasty side effects with Sertraline (felt suicidal) and with Citalopram it seemed to work for a bit then stopped working and started making me sick. I think I'm afraid that if I tried another one that didn't help or made me worse it would cause another setback in my recovery. I'm also afraid it'd then be hard to stop taking Them.
Juppster I think you mentioned hormones? Do you think that they still effect you because of pmt or is it perimenopause? Just wondered as I've heard many women with pnd also experience depression with menopause. Xx
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Post by jessibella on Feb 25, 2013 20:50:56 GMT
C23/24 M52/53
Letting go...
Today and yesterday were similar. Started off feeling a bit low and I decided I would focus on letting go when the negative thoughts popped in. Boy did the crop up A LOT! Think I spent half the day repeating let it go to myself. However it might have helped a bit ask definitely had OK and good parts throughout the day.
I found certain thoughts cropped up frequently. These were thoughts that I don't have pnd I'm just a person who can't cope with motherhood. I also kept thinking perhaps I've always been depressed but I can't ignore it now! Both thoughts seem irrational written down but both represent my big fear that I won't get better or I'm somehow untreatable.
Days like these give me hope that things may improve. I just wish I could have a good day not just manageable then I might actually believe things will get better.
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Post by carolinezoe on Feb 25, 2013 21:37:08 GMT
Hi I hope you don't mind me posting but I just wanted to reassure you regarding venlafaxine. I was prescribed after other meds failed and I had high anxiety along with depression. I didn't read up on it before I took it as I just needed something to help me and I am glad as I probably wouldn't have taken it if I had.
It has really helped me and allowed me to return to work and enjoy life which I had thought would never happen! In fact they have helped me so much I am now reducing my dose as my boy is 3.5 and I have been doing well although I still have blips and get down they do pass I have methods to cope x
I felt like you and can sympathise I didn't believe people when they said I would get better but I did and so will you x
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Post by jessibella on Feb 25, 2013 21:57:48 GMT
Aww thanks so much for that. Perhaps I will give it a try if things don't improve xx
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Post by juppster on Feb 26, 2013 9:25:26 GMT
Hey sweetie, I'm pretty sure my dips are hormonal, I'm only 32 so. Don't think it's anything to do with menopause just yet what I've discovered is that every two to three months my period arrives two days early and bam, I'm in a dip. . When my period behaves and is on time I'm fine? Weird but true, am defo coming back as a man next time
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Post by jessibella on Feb 26, 2013 19:54:09 GMT
Whoops yes far to young for perimenopause sorry.
I do find the hormonal element interesting as it certainly seems to play a big part yet I think you said you had some hormone treatment that didn't help. I really feel hormones have a lot to answer for. How long do your 3 monthly blips last now? Do you find you handle them more easily now you know what's happening. A big fear of mine is that I might recover but then it might return anfpd how I will cope.
Thanks for as answering all my questions. Would love to hear your full story sometime xxxxx
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Post by juppster on Feb 26, 2013 20:11:17 GMT
I did have hormone treatment which unfortunately didnt work for me, but its very much trial and error. I had gotten to the point where I would try anything! I am just coming back out of a blip and generally they seem to last between 5 days to a week. It's hard but I just keep telling myself that its down to my hormones and it will pass again. . It's definitely easier to handle now though and definitely not as severe as it used to be x also I did suffer a bout of depression and anxiety attacks before I had my son so do think I was probably more prone to getting pni x
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Post by jessibella on Feb 26, 2013 21:55:30 GMT
Sorry to hear you've been having a blip but very glad to hear you're coming out of it and that nowadays you find it much easier to deal with.
Thanks so much for all your help. Hope you realise what a big difference it makes having someone who understands to give advice. You really are a star and you are making my life easier by giving me hope. Xx
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