cazba
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Post by cazba on Dec 20, 2013 13:09:49 GMT
Hi
I had bad thoughts about my wee girl who is now three and all is well and we have a great relationship. I went on to have a wee boy who is now 13 months and I loved him now bad thoughts are back again about him. I don't feel the love I did etc and other bad thoughts. I am on medication at the moment. Is there a good chance these would come back again after having it first time round. Any help and advice would be great!!!
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Post by Weeble on Dec 21, 2013 15:26:27 GMT
Hi and welcome back. The bad thoughts are just that bad thoughts and nothing else. They make sense to me as punishment thoughts, pni makes us feel pants about ourselves . Everyone's brains pop these thoughts out all the time, but when we are well we ignore them. When we are ill, our brains hear them and then start ruminating on them.
Please don't worry, perhaps have a chat with your health visitor or gp about them.
Hope today has been ok
Kat
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Post by caz1 on Dec 22, 2013 11:16:31 GMT
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yes they put me on anti-dep. I loved my wee boy for over a year then this happened and I don't have same overwhelming love for him at all. I have these thoughts on and off. My wee girl is 3 and all is great with her. Will I have my normal way of thinking back again. please advise. I am not even looking forward to Christmas and I always loved these times. Thanks
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Post by cazba on Dec 22, 2013 11:31:56 GMT
Hi yes they put me on anti-dep. I loved my wee boy for over a year then this happened and I don't have same overwhelming love for him at all. I have these thoughts on and off. My wee girl is 3 and all is great with her. Will I have my normal way of thinking back again. please advise.  I am not even looking forward to Christmas and I always loved these times. Thanks |
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Post by Weeble on Dec 23, 2013 18:08:38 GMT
Yes you will. I was like this had no feelings for my second son, it devastated me too. Now my heart melts when he walks in the room !!
It will be ok
Kat
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Post by cazba on Dec 23, 2013 22:39:54 GMT
Kat
And do you find that Post natal can happen after 13 months like me. I had the feeling for little one and all was great and wonderful and then don't have now those feeling like yourself?Does this make sense? Thanks for all your help
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Post by monica on Dec 25, 2013 7:51:53 GMT
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Congrats on the birth of your son. Statistically you are at higher risk of having pni with subsequent births and I watched a programme on pni which stated you can get it up to 5 years following the birth. Whatever label is put on it it's good youare receiving help and support . You will beat this I promise !
The thoughts are very distressing but they are just that as Jo said. They are not a reflection of you as a person ; they are a symptom and a common one of pni. You mentioned you have lost feelings for your son.. That too is a symptom of pni or could even be a side effect of Meds as they can emotionally numb you. How long have you been on them?
Have you thught about being referred for cognitive behaviour techniques (cbt). This is very good at combatting the thoughts although waiting lists on nhs can be long.
Monica
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Post by Weeble on Dec 26, 2013 21:41:16 GMT
yes it makes sense losing emotions is a common feature of depression. its not that you don't love them its just your emotions are dulled by the illness. how has xmas been.
kat
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Post by cazcaz on Jan 7, 2014 23:25:04 GMT
Hi Girls :)
I haven't been on here since before Christmas as feeling much better. Thank you all for the advice and support!! It has been so reassuring. I am so so grateful :) ;D
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Post by monica on Jan 8, 2014 19:39:08 GMT
That's wonderful news and gives hope to others who are suffering . Thx for letting us knowx
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Post by Weeble on Jan 18, 2014 23:13:59 GMT
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I am not even looking forward to Christmas and I always loved these times. Thanks 
