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Post by monica on Dec 26, 2016 9:59:29 GMT
How are you Brach? How was your Xmas? Hope you found time to just chill out and recuperate x
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Post by monica on Jan 1, 2017 14:46:53 GMT
Happy New Year Brach! Hope you're keeping wellx
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Post by quantumrose on Jan 6, 2017 7:41:34 GMT
Hi Brach, how's it going? How were the holidays? I miss the kids now they're back at school but things have got a little easier none the less ;-) xxx
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Post by brach24 on Jan 10, 2017 0:15:20 GMT
Thanks for the messages. Happy new year to you monica and qr! It's really affirming to come on here and have messages. I've found the last few weeks difficult. I thought I'd made it clear I wasn't taking annual leave over the Christmas period (I only work tues/thurs) but a week before my mum said something that made me realise she was expecting to not be doing any childcare over the school holidays. I asked her clearly twice to tell me wha she'd like "off" and she never did. It was fine in the end but between that and her emotional ups and downs - her New Years plans fell through and i felt responsible for her being lonely - I couldn't spend it with her. I really feel like a step back to before counselling when I responsible for her emotions and keeping her happy. My sil has decided to come to the wider family reunion (my dad's side) so my mum is now on edge about that. I'd love her to go and get counselling because she says stuff all the time "I'm not thinking about it" and then "I don't know why I'm not sleeping" or "I'll deal with it nearer the time" and then bringing it up every 2 mins! She's clearly stressed and not very insightful. I feel really sad for her and I just hope it doesn't explode in front of the wider family. I've felt very low today in a way I haven't for 2 years. I wondered if it was to do with clearing old clothes out of my littlests wardrobe - nearly out of babygrows and button vests and all grow up outfits replacing them. We have decided she's our last but my heart will always want more!! Sad to see her growing... but can't wait till she stops destroying the house!! She's not been sleeping well - nor the 3 year old so that doesn't help the mood either. Not much else to say - I could whine about how tiring the girls are but I've been enjoying them lots too. My physical health is a whole other story... for next time x
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Post by monica on Jan 16, 2017 19:41:31 GMT
Hey Brach great to hear from you as always.
I'm sorry you had a dip recently although it does appear there was lots going on emotionally in your life never mind lack of sleep due to kids etc.
Have you had your dad's family reunion ? Did sil go? I hope it all worked out. Re your mum could you suggest counselling to her? Maybe try to distance yourself a little. I know it's so hard to do at times. My sister seems to have lots of calamities in her life although over the past few years they're not of her doing. I used to get so stressed and anxious by it all but for my own sanity I try to take a step back nowadays as there's little I can do to control it.
Kids growing up is hard for mums in particular. If you know there are no more bambinos to come, that can be hard too. Try to look at the positives - life does become physically easier the more independent they become which will hopefully open up a little more time for you.
How is your health? I hope things are okx
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Post by monica on Feb 1, 2017 8:32:36 GMT
How are you doing Brach? Hope all is wellx
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Post by brach24 on Feb 5, 2017 12:44:21 GMT
I've been struggling with my physical health this last few weeks. Ended up having 3 migraines this week. The fear of it being the beginning of a downward spiral is real. I even went to the gp (first time in a looong time). They don't know what's happening - it may just be my body overreacting to this horrible cough virus we all have. 2 weeks and it's still not lifting. Horrible seeing the wee ones I'll with it too. We've all been in the house - off work and nursery - so cabin fever is setting in. Had a terrible dream last night that a man was hiding in the living room and strangled me. Can't shake it off today. Friends marriage fell apart a couple of weeks ago. He had been serially unfaithful and got found out after 2 years! It's really shaken me and hubby - it's making our relationship a bit better as we're both reassuring each other more but it's also brought in some fears and I feel very shaken by it. So all in all feeling quite vulnerable and wanting to withdraw. Fighting it for now but I didn't go out this morning to church like normal - was a bit overwhelming to think about seeing lots of people xx
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 5, 2017 14:22:25 GMT
Hey Brach, much love to you hun. It's so horrible when everyones poorly, especially when you're caring for littlies whilst feeling rubbish yourself. I've had same/similar cough for ages and I'm in the middle of a nasty blip so I understand you're not wanting to see lots of people and withdraw. It sucks, that feeling, because I always feel better when seeing friends. I hope everything lifts for you soon, I wish I could give you a big hug, I'll have to settle for a long distance cuddle. You can do this, you're an awesome lady with so much strength xxx
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Post by monica on Feb 5, 2017 18:08:02 GMT
Hi
Big hugs, lots of positive vibes being sent in your direction. Winter is particularly horrible for bugs etc and it's often like a domino effect in the house. Wishing you a speedy recovery. I make a cough syrup of chopped onions, honey, garlic and ginger in a jar - leave for few hours and a syrup forms. It lasts a couple of days and I swear it works .
If you're feeling ill plus family struggling no wonder it's affecting your health. Any chance you can get some help?
I'm sorry to hear about your friends marriage. I always find that shakes me and I guess makes you think ' if it can happen to them can it happen to us'. It great it's pulled you and hubby together even if unsettling.
I hope this week becomes easier and you feel better. The bugs will go! X
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Post by brach24 on Feb 8, 2017 11:51:25 GMT
Thanks for the encouragements. Still feeling fragile emotionally physically mentally and spiritually. On antibiotics now and I think they're kicking in. I'm so weak. More bad dreams last night. I'm really missing not getting out and about and not talking to anyone. My mums been helping tonnes but I needed space from her today. Love her to bits but it's claustrophobic. Seems stupid to be missing human contact and pushing her away at the same time. It's school holidays next week so hoping I'm well enough for going away with the inlaws!
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Post by monica on Feb 9, 2017 13:12:16 GMT
Wishing you a speedy recovery Brach! When you feel low physically it can make you feel more fragile emotionally with different needs which can change rapidly. Look after yourself and hope you get to the inlaws where you can get a bit of rest x
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 11, 2017 13:44:44 GMT
How are you Brach? X
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Post by brach24 on Feb 12, 2017 8:35:10 GMT
Thanks ladies, I'm still not 100% but lots better. On second lot of antibiotics and hopeful it'll be gone soon enough. Energy still low but that'll take a while. I've got thrush (always do on antibiotics!) and having breakthrough bleeding and cramps so feeling very blurgh and wishing I could have sex as me and hubby feel miles apart. Mainly because I'm angry at his lack of help with housework and school runs. I'm not able to raise things like that. I still get very anxious if there's any bad blood between us and need us to be ok. If I feel he's in a mood with me I can't really cope. I feel almost sick thinking about it. I'm feeling quite fragile emotionally about friends just now. Trying really hard not to be huffy that they haven't phoned me back when they said they would ad don't seem to want to keep in touch. I feel all angsty and want to just say "stuff you" and never bother with them again. I hate when I'm so ungracious like this. They're probably just busy haha!! Need to think about some packing today. Xx
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Post by frogface on Feb 16, 2017 9:39:40 GMT
Do your friends know you're feeling low brach? Sometimes they just don't know what's going on and life gets in the way. Are you able to reach out to any of them and give a hint even? My mum drives me crazy too and I need her so badly at the same time. No one ever said family relationships make sense
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Post by monica on Feb 16, 2017 20:56:52 GMT
If you're feeling a bit crappy then it can affect you emotionally too (that's what I've always found). So being a little sensitive to friends who don't return calls is typical - I get like this too. Recognise what it probably is.
It's hard to get hubbys to do what's necessary. I think most women find this. Men just think differently to us. Could you get the kids to ask daddy to collect them from school on a Monday say and take them for a hot chocolate after school? At some point it might be worth asking hubby to do more but if that is going to cause you stress wait until you're feeling stronger.
So pleased you're picking up. Do you take any probiotics for the thrush? X
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