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Post by AnoniMouse on Oct 27, 2015 8:15:49 GMT
Thanks Ladies, thought I'd drop back and give an update. Other men may benefit from hearing this if they read it. So now the girls are 17 months old and since the holiday in the middle of the year my relationship with my wife has been up and down but mostly up. There's still times she has spikes, its still a rollercoaster but a gentler ride rather than the death defying ride it was. I guess my learning here is that it still isn't like a broken leg and suddenly fully fixed. It continues. She's still on anti depressive medication and I don't see that coming to an end anytime soon. So if any men are reading this, set your expectations accordingly. It would be easy to quit, to easy. MTFU and take the responsibility. If only for you children but also, I hope, for the woman you loved enough to have children with. Wow, way to serious today. x
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Post by monica on Nov 12, 2015 15:06:33 GMT
Hi
Great to hear from you and that life is going well bar the occasional downs. It sounds as if your wife is progressing - it's a good idea not to rush coming off the meds. I've said this before I really admire you for sticking with the relationship - it would have been easy to walk away and plenty of men would have done that and to be fair no one would have blamed you as you've had an incredibly rough time. I hope it gives other men in similar situations to you the hope they they need.
I hope your life is general is going well and that you're happy. Great to hear the girls are well.
Monica
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Post by AnoniMouse on Dec 15, 2015 9:28:04 GMT
Seriously Monica, I question many times a week if I should stay, its a recurring question, the easy answer is to say yes. But then I see my girls and the question vanishes. I just wish I felt the same way when I see my wifes face. Some days I do and some days I don't. I don't think its all PND in my case, its also personalities and the sheer effort with twins. I only now return here when I've had a down, a tough day... interesting, clearly reaching out for support.
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Post by AnoniMouse on Dec 15, 2015 9:29:54 GMT
oops, read that back and meant to say the 'easy answer is to say, no, don't stay, leave'.
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Post by monica on Dec 21, 2015 10:20:56 GMT
Hi
Great to hear from you - feel free to use this space whenever you want or need to. Are you feeling low atm? You mentioned posting on here when that's the case. Everything you've been through has been so tough - sometimes the full effects on yourself only catch up with you when you have time to stop and life has actually become better and easier. I'm sure looking after twins is really hard work - maybe you and your wife could have a bit of time just for yourselves? A meal out, even a night away?x
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Post by monica on Nov 21, 2016 21:19:33 GMT
Hi
You pop into my thoughts from time to time. I wonder how you, your wife and children are doing. I really hope all is well and life has continued to improve.Drop us a line when you have a minute spare.
Monica
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