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Post by monica on Jun 9, 2016 13:55:38 GMT
Try and use distraction techniques like clapping and saying no aloud everytime a thought pops into your head or wear an elastic band and flick it.
Or do 10 sit ups everytime you have one of these thoughts !
It will pass. You are a wonderful mum - this is a symptom of an illness. You're doing amazingly - keep congratulating yourself in your progress as you've come so far!
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 10, 2016 8:46:36 GMT
Yeah I will try Monica thank you! All I want is to be a great mum with none of this crap and just enjoy a life with her. It's so upsetting xxx
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Post by monica on Jun 13, 2016 8:16:12 GMT
How are you? I'm hoping things have eased off and you're feeling better. It's unbelievable how hormones can govern your thoughts and feelings ....but they can. It will get better though x
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 13, 2016 17:47:38 GMT
I'm still not good Monica. I just feel like there is no hope for me. CBT isn't working for me and I feel I'm Not giving it my all but I just don't know how too! How are you? xx
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Post by monica on Jun 13, 2016 19:04:33 GMT
Hi
You're feeling his way as you're in a blip. It feels as if you're stuck in this rut will never get better and are the exception to the rule...other women will recover and you'll not. I think most of us have felt this way.
This is the nature of blips and especially as you start to recover they can be really intense and it does feel as if you're back to square one. If you feel the cbt techniques aren't working maybe just let go... don't fight it for a day or so just accept you're feeling crap but at the same time be really nice to yourself. Have a treat every day...that might be doing a face mask, setting aside 20 mins a day to read etc. I actually find that I'm kindest to myself when I'm at my lowest. I somehow accept life is rubbish atm and I feel really low and treat myself with kid gloves and let myself cry and generally don't put pressure on myself.
Monica
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 14, 2016 17:26:53 GMT
I just don't know how to do that. Why is it so hard to be kind to yourself? I don't deserve any happiness that's how I feel! How can I when I'm this sort of person!!
I'm sorry life is crap atm for you Monica! Your such a great support to us ladies on here
Xx
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Post by monica on Jun 15, 2016 10:03:31 GMT
You're not a bad person though - it will take time to believe that. The thoughts - and that's all they are - are a symptom of PNI. Pencil in one nice thing for yourself . What do you like doing ?
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 15, 2016 12:34:17 GMT
Having a long bath, doing my nails, seeing friends, walking my dogs, I used to like going to the gym or doing excersise classes.
Will the thoughts disappear when the PNI starts to lift?? Shouldn't it be going somewhere by now? Iv been on fluoxotine for 11 weeks now and have just upped my side to 40mg I feel slightly better but not at the same time! I feel there is no change!
How do I know I don't want to do these things I think about or why do they come into my head?
Have things improved for you Monica or is it still rough age moment? Xx
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 15, 2016 12:34:55 GMT
Rough at the moment**
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Post by monica on Jun 16, 2016 8:06:01 GMT
My experience was that for first month or so I improved daily - I was on cloud 9 - I stopped crying started driving seeing friends and enjoying life. Then after an argument I had an almighty blip which lasted a long time and going to an exercise class brought me out of it . After that I had the typical up down pattern triggered by pmt (which is never had before), tiredness, illness etc. I was on meds as well.
The blips at first were bloody tough - I would despair thinking I was back to square one and that is be the exception to the rule then over time the blips got less intense and I learned to manage them better.
I know I keep saying this and you're probably dick of hearing it but it all takes time. I have been recovered now for over 9 years and it hasn't returned . My life has changed so at times I have low patches but I know myself better and try not to be too hard on myself . You will recover x
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 16, 2016 10:38:02 GMT
I'm not sick of hearing it Monica I appreciate your support. It's so hard when no one around you knows what it's like. They all tell me the same things but I just can't believe it sometimes. I'll have a moment of yes I can do this and I'll beat it but then the next minute I'll think wow this is me for the rest of my life and I feel so low again. I'm up and down all day everyday and dread being at home, I used to love my own company at home laying on the sofa watching tv now I hate it and then on the other hand I hate going out sometimes because it all just feels like an effort. I'm thinking of restarting my gym membership where I can do unlimited swimming, gym and classes. I wasn't very good with it before but feel I should force myself into it and hopefully it will help me out of this and also get me fit where i have put on weight since being on the meds. I lost 2 stone after having Sophia as I wasn't eating, I was so pleased and now I'm heavier then ever Blips are horrid and I feel this one is lasting a long time. Plus CBT is bloody hard I'm having to do exposure which is so so frightening and it's a black cloud on everyday but I know I have to do it otherwise I can't beat the thoughts. It's all a load of shit!!!! (Excuse my launguage) I'm glad you have learnt lots about yourself and you haven't had it back since. That gives me hope for the future Thanks Monica and sorry for always being doom And gloom when talking to you xx
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Post by monica on Jun 18, 2016 20:36:10 GMT
Hi how are you? The roller coaster ride that is pni - it can be horribly draining being up and down and not quite knowing when the next blip is going to appear . Doing nice things for yourself can take that edge off it also it can help build up that self worth and self esteem that usually plummets with PNI because you are worth it.
You mentioned joining the gym - do it if you can as after meds exercise was the second most effective treatment for PNI. I remember having a really long painful first blip and going into a step class very depressed and walked out feeling normal. The release of endorphins will give you a boost , you'll get fitter and tone up and it's something you're doing for yourself - all positive things. You will win!
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 19, 2016 8:48:55 GMT
Hi Monica, doing ok thank you. Still not quite there but hopefully soon this blip will end. How are you?
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Post by monica on Jun 19, 2016 10:00:03 GMT
Great news Kirsty. Enjoy the sunshine! All good - it's my middle sons 12th birthday (I got PNI after having him) - PNI is now and has been for years a distant memory - that's exactly what it will be like for you toox
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Post by Kirsty on Jun 19, 2016 10:56:48 GMT
I hope so Monica. Thank you. Have a lovely day xx happy birthday to you son xx
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