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[samb]

Hi all. Am new on here and dont know where to start.
Baby number 3 & first time PND....been on medication for nearly 9 weeks.
Finding PND tough
Just guess needing some support and encouragement
Cheers

[Kirsty]

Hello Pnd is extreamly tough and I'm sorry you are suffering. I'm still in recovery and am nearly a year into it however I have turned a huge corner and things are definitely starting to look brighter for me. You will get there and you will recover. A couple of months ago I would never have said that and I still get days like it now however they are few and far between. My bond with my daughter is growing everyday and I'm so in love. Iv been waiting so long to feel this towards her. Keep asking you will definitely get there and we are here to fully support you. X

[Kirsty]

Keep talking not keep asking :/

[samb]

Thanks Kirsty.
I have just found it all overwheelmly & am exhausted. I was so ill in my pregnancy & spent nearly 8 months bed / sofa bound which was a tough battle now im battling thru this and am shattered and all my children so want there mummy back. My wee girl is 6 months.
I know i will get thru this but i guess im just trying to understand it & myself at the moment.
Im guessing that it just takes time for the depression to lift & all the affects of depression also, like concerntration, forgetfulness, dreams, high anxitiy,sleep issues etc...... its never ending eh!!
I have seen a difference in 9 weeks. My husband goes back to work this week so will need to learn how to juggle all the children and pnd.
Thanks for replying. X

[Kirsty]

One of the worst things about this illness is how gradual the recovery is. It's painfully slow. I get counselled by a counsellor who specialises in pnd as she had it twice. I can send you her email if you want it? She has and still is my absolute rock x

[monica]

Hi Samb and welcome

I'm so sorry you're struggling with this horrible illness. Are you getting any sort of help/support? That can make a huge difference, especially with 3 los to bring up. Do consider seeing your dr if you're not already.

What kind of symptoms do you have? When did the pni start. I'm sure being bed bound must have been extremely tough. Do you think it brought on the pni?

Recovery can be very slow at times. Also a typical recovery pattern is up down up down a bit of a rollercoaster ride for sure. A low can feel doubly painful after a good spell but as horrid as it is it is usually a sign of recovery.


do keep talking. You'll get lots of support and understanding here as the ladies do understand what you're going through.

[samb]

Thanks guys.

My wee lass is nearly 7months old & got digonised with PND about 10 weeks ago but had been question marked for awhile.

I had hyperemisis graviduarm during the pregnancy which yes believe may have not helped PND & maybe been a wee trigger.

After birth had infections and issues from stitches again!! So put the anxitiy & pain down to that..... looking back now can seeit was PND .... had a few tears but not many.... was loving my new lease of life after being bedbound for so long and also enjoying my 2 sons and now my wee baby. GP kept a good eye on me, phoning every week in the begining. Was struggling with memory, concerntration & tiredness but again put it down to being a mum with 3 children. It all came to a head as a friend died, another 2 friends became seriously ill all in 4 weeks plus my friends very emotionally funeral. Woke up one morning and was numb, very empty... could hardly open my eyes my husband said he thought i had had a stroke as had no muscle expression on my face and was vacant! Was very frightening.
GP started me on anti depressions which was horrid for the first week or so....
They seem to be working, having good days and bad days.
Still struggle with lots in my head and anxitiy but has calmed down.
Bright lights i still find very hard and alot going on i find hard but guess that just takes time to improve.
Anyone got any handy tips with dealing with PND?
And also coping with limited support with childcare with PND?
Cheers

[monica]

Hi

The ups and downs are a normal part of PNI - they are very hard. It can take several months for meds to kick in its positive they are working.

Re tips - I found exercise hugely helpful. When I started improving I did general stuff like yoga then I found anything that got my heart beat up hugely beneficial and would help the anxiety /depression hugely . I know this might b v hard to fit in with kids.

Again if you can get someone to look after kids have some me time - anything you do just for yourself will have huge benefits.

And talk talk talk if you feel rubbish X

[monica]

Re bright lights I found that I had sensitivity to light and wore sunglasses a lot!

[samb]

Yep wearing my sunglasses alot.. its shops
Like asda i find hard with the bright lights...but def better than it was in the begining....

I survived day one on my own yesterday with all the children and over night.... so im pleased but am just shattered.

[monica]

Well done on managing the children alone. That is a huge achievement and hopefully has given you a confidence boost! X

[Kirsty]

Well done on getting through having the kids. Massive achievement you should be very proud of yourself xx

[samb]

Thanks guys.