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Post by AMD on Jun 10, 2017 13:48:09 GMT
Hello, I am a second time mother and have been diagnosed with PND with both my children only it is worse this time around. My son is 7 weeks old and my daughter is 5.
I would be interested in anyone elses experiences with have PND with a second child and have you have found it juggling both children, especially when the first child is now old enough to be clearly aware of the PND and strong feelings and emotions it brings
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Post by brach24 on Jun 10, 2017 21:20:51 GMT
Hi amd, welcome here - it's my fav safe place for being open and the diary section is great for reflection and charting your recovery.
I had pnd after my second. My first was 6yesrs old when she was born so it was tough hiding bits from her and explaining others in ways she could understand... and deciding which was best when!!
Thankfully she seemed oblivious although how much affected them both will always be in the back of my mind. They seem pretty normal now... 10 and 4.
How are you coping just now? Xx
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Post by frogface on Jun 11, 2017 12:54:17 GMT
I had PND with my second child and my poor first child had as hard a time of things as me. Things were tough for the first couple of years and I struggled with guilt that I had damaged him in some way. These days we have a great relationship, he dotes on his little sister and I do think it has left him more sensitive to people's feelings but I see that as a quality in him. Try not to feel guilty and do the best you can day by day - you WILL get through it and so will your kids.
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Post by monica on Jun 11, 2017 18:50:42 GMT
Welcome ! Congrats on the birth of your baby. I'm sorry you're struggling with PNI.
I got PNI with my second child only. The age gap was very similar . I found the jump from 1 to 2 children extremely difficult - it felt like 5 X the workload. I too when very ill worried about the effects of my illness on my eldest. All I used to do was cry, I was incapable of playing with him nor giving him any quality time.
I've got to say neither he nor the son who was a baby suffered any a result of this. Kids are quite resilient. They had contact with people who could give them some sort of normality / their dad, my family , childminder. I did try to do simple things with them. I think I possibly tried to tell my eldest something of what was going on (I'm not well at the moment but I will get better).
What sort of support are you getting for the PNI? X
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