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Post by monica on Mar 9, 2018 14:34:57 GMT
Hi there
It sounds as if things are moving forward even if there's some delay to the separation agreement. What's your wife unhappy with/ or wants changing?
It's important to have things to look forward to and your holidays sound perfect. Really hope you get chance to relax .
I have no doubt when you move out it'll give you a sense of relief from possibly the uncomfortable situation of living with your wife - possibly for her too. I lived with my ex for 9 months after deciding to split until he moved out and bar one almighty argument it was ok but nonetheless awkward and a bit stifling for both of us. Once in your new home you can have a routine and normality.
I'm sorry you're under the weather atm. What sort of symptoms are you experiencing. It's an extremely difficult time for you . Can you offload to friends and/or family? Feel free to talk on here if you wish. I don't wish to stereotype but often telling it how it is can be particularly hard for men. Perhaps investing in counselling or the like might help?
I have no doubt that life will improve for you - take one step at a time x
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Post by monica on Apr 26, 2018 17:26:53 GMT
Hi
I was just wondering how life is for you and your family? I hope you're in your new house and have found comfort in a new routine with your children.
Monica
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Post by Ben_C137 on Oct 8, 2018 11:56:59 GMT
Hi,
It has been a while. Well life is moving on for me. I have found a new routine and have moments when my life feels good again. My ex has decided that I wanted the separation and all the hurt and pain she is going through is all my fault. Her family believe I got what I wanted and ex is suffering because of it. I left our family home and all our joint possessions behind. All I took was a a partially built home that I am still finishing and furnishing.
I have dealt with verbal abuse and text messages that are abusive regularly. This was a development that came as a surprise to me.
I have tried dating again but it is a bit mixed emotionally. So maybe I am not ready for that yet.
The children seem to have adjusted pretty good and I love spending time with them. I miss them a lot when they are not with me. I am doing a half marathon next week which I have been training for in my down time.
As a whole I am better today then I was 6 months ago. But it is a big adjustment
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Post by monica on Oct 11, 2018 8:20:37 GMT
Hi
Great to hear from you. It sounds like life is going well - whilst not what you wantred you’ve carved out a life of your own with lots of positives . In another 6 months I hope it’ll feel better still. Good luck with hm - very impressive! I’ve started running again after various injuries . Although slow I do feel a sense of achievement in just running 5 k non stop even at a very slow pace.
Re dating , well everyone is different. Maybe you’re not quite ready but aside from romance I found it’s quite nice getting to know other people and actually a distraction - who knows what’s round the corner!
I’m sorry your wife is blaming you for the split - it’s sad and I guess very annoying/frustrating if she’s twisting things however no real surprise. I guess that might continue for some time yet. How is she otherwise? With the kids?
Great to hear the children are adjusting well - kids are resilient and from my own experience as long as they feel they have two parents who love them and not subjected to too much confusion they’ll come out of it relatively unscathed .
All the best!
Monica
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Post by monica on Feb 26, 2019 17:14:22 GMT
Hi
I was just wondering how you were doing. Hope life is going well for you and your children .
Monica
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