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Post by monica on Jul 4, 2022 22:16:26 GMT
Hey EC
It’s always great to hear from you! This is your place to offload however and whenever you wish!
I’m sorry you’ve hurt your muscle and that it’s not getting better as quickly as you’d like. I do think that sone issues do take longer but maybe this is something to bring up with the physio? I’m guessing you’re exercising less because not having time. Exercise is still hugely important for my mh too. Could you find sone time to do sone walking? I’ve started Pilates and just love it mainly for the relaxation - honestly I go into sone sort of meditative state!
As for the health anxiety, you’ve had a really long period since you were affected by it last time …this is hugely positive. This is probably your weak spot so a lingering ailment will trigger this but I do think that overall you’re doing amazingly so don’t be hard on yourself! Everyone has there foibles!
How are the children? Hubby? Work? What exercise have you been doing (pre muscle issue?)
I’m ok thanks. I’ve got dreadful sleep issues at the moment - I wake early no matter wheni go to sleep. My middle son is having issues again . He just doesn’t look after himself at all. He eats little and badly, sleeps dreadfully, has lost weight. He’s off in hols tomoz but has hardly saved money . Youngest son too has been challenging so I do have stress. On the plus side, mums going much better - thank you for asking. I think her memory has been affected by the sedation she had but otherwise is not too bad. I also have a wonderful guy in my life - he’s really amazing and just so lovely!
Monica
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Post by ec on Jul 23, 2022 20:18:52 GMT
Hi Monica I'm glad to hear you've found a lovely man. I hope you have some nice things planned over the summer together. Sorry to hear about your middle son. It must be so stressful for you. I have know idea how to deal with teenagers and all their issues. You must have so much patience.
My kids are fine thanks. 6 weeks ahead of us for summer, trying to keep them occupied with relatively inexpensive things. Exercise has definitely slipped recently as I'm not great at running in the heat and just couldn't muster up the energy. I think this has probably affected my mood. I've been ok but the moment I have a flare up with my back I plummet. I've seen a physio and been doing exercises recommended for last 3 months but the problem keeps returning and now I feel like I've got trapped nerves in my arm and shoulder. It's so strange as it seems to come and go but I find it quite painful when I have it and then get anxious i will have it forever. I'm sure the anxiety and focusing on it makes it worse. I know if I wasn't so worried about it I probably wouldn't notice it so much and then the frustration starts. I'm then reminded if the pni and it brings up similar feelings of not understanding why I'm not getting better like with all the physical stuff from 4 years ago. Then I feel like I haven't learnt anything, like I can see the jole but keep falling in. When will I learn to sidestep.? I know lots of people of have ailments like back pain etc and they don't seem to get so worked up about it. Just sometimes feel like I can't see the wood for the trees and it's more about anxiety and catastrophisong than anything else now. I saw a chiropractor today briefly and they said to stop doing these stetches I was told to by physio and they are aggravating the trapped nerves. I feel so confused as to what the right course of action is and know I'm getting into similar pattern of trying to fix it. I evrm feel anxious about taking ibuprofen incase it either stops working or I end up having to take up all the time.
Anyway, hope your having a good weekend and enjoying the good weather. X
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Post by monica on Jul 25, 2022 15:07:46 GMT
Hey EC
It seems to me that just like me, the health anxiety is a trigger. I have no doubt your back issues, which I guess may not have been managed correctly and aren't recovering as you'd like, are triggering those 'what if' thoughts. But you really know this though it's hard to bat away at times, isn't it? Overall, you have been doing brilliantly and this health anxiety is your Achilles heel like it is mine. I'm sure the physical issues is annoying and nothing serious - I've noticed from the interpreting I do for musculoskeletal issues often simple, non complex issues can cause awful pain and discomfort. Maybe speak to gp about the conflicting advice youre getting for another opinion? Perhaps if the physio's advice isn't working try that of the chiropractor?
Re the ibuprofen, do as advised and try not get worked up by it - as always easier to dish out the advice than heed it ! You had pni 4 years ago - that's not long and your mind does remember the trauma of it and churns up those scary thoughts once again. I promise you it will get better over time. I'm now about 16 years recovered. My middle son after whom I got pni, turned 18 in June.
Glad your children are doing well and I hope you have a fantastic summer! I do enjoy not having to rush around all the time but the entertainment is tiring and soo very expensive! Are you going away anywhere?
Would you consider getting some professional help for the health anxiety? It's something that does reappear every so often and does seem to overwhelm you. You are no alone with dealing with this - I noticed with me this is something that antidepressants seems to improve hugely for and even though I've been off the meds for years now, fortunately the health anxiety doesn't seem to cause particular issues, but it's still lurking there and rears its head every so often annoyingly. Some work on this identifying the cause with a professional supporting you might really make a difference. Imagine not having this stress to deal with!! How nice would that be!
thank you for your kind words. The man is just so lovely and I'm really enjoying my time with him. We had a few days away in Spain recently which were perfect! Lots of fun, food and frolics! x
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Post by Hopeful on Jul 26, 2022 19:40:58 GMT
Hello from me too and welcome here.
Hopeful x
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Post by ec on Sept 26, 2022 20:52:01 GMT
Hi Monica I hope you had a good summer. I had a pretty torid time. My back gor really bad, I had an awful spasm and after seeing various people a trapped nerve I'm my neck is the problem. I did a lot of carrying my youngest child on that side of my body and I think exercises that I saw given by the first physio I saw made everything worse. It took 5-6 weeks for it to improve and then I spent the last 2 weeks pretty much pain free which was heavenly. I was so pleased as we have an extension which started in August and the builders are now in the house and the whole house is a complete tip. Then a few days ago I started to get pain in my back and neck which has got gradually worse again. I stupidly helped my husband carry a piece of furniture up the stairs which may have set the nerve off again. Nerve pain is awful and paracetamol doesn't touch it. We don't have any hot water at home and no kitchen and we're supposed to be staying with my mother in law however she has come down with covid so we having to rough it out at home. I could put up with all this if I just didn't have the pain. It makes me feel so low. My 3rd pregnancy definitely seems to have messed up my body, I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid last year, trapped nerve from carrying her around and also a potential hernia which I'm waiting for an ultrasound on. So to rant and ramble on. I'm just feeling sorry for myself at the moment. I hope you and your family are well. How are things with your new man? X
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Post by ec on Sept 26, 2022 20:53:12 GMT
Sorry about all the typos. Hope I made sense x
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Post by monica on Sept 30, 2022 19:33:14 GMT
Oh EC you have been through the mill! I’m so sorry things are so hard for you . It’s awful feeling so debilitated when you have so much to do. How is your neck now? Nerve pain is a different kettle of fish….poor you with potential hernia . Is the thyroid under control ? You’ve got a lot on and the health stuff is particularly triggering, I know.
How are you managing in your house? The weather has turned too. How long will the building stuff go on for?
Would you consider getting sone support for the health anxiety - I can see it gets to you? It might make such a huge difference to you. I really do understand being so similar myself. Feeling physically I’ll really gets me down .
I’m not so great. I’ve had a chest infection for over 2 weeks - it’s impossible to get a drs appt though the nurse finally called me yesterday but I was too far away to go. So I hope I improve over the weekend. Re kids I’m still having serious issues with middle son - he’s got drs appt next week - I hope I can get some idea of the help he can get not that he wants it. As for the man, he finished with me when having a bad anxiety episode though we got back together as he saw he was seeing things excessively negatively. Since then, though great mostly, there have been times he says things that makes me fear it’s going to happen again! Watch this space!
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Post by monica on Sept 30, 2022 19:33:16 GMT
Oh EC you have been through the mill! I’m so sorry things are so hard for you . It’s awful feeling so debilitated when you have so much to do. How is your neck now? Nerve pain is a different kettle of fish….poor you with potential hernia . Is the thyroid under control ? You’ve got a lot on and the health stuff is particularly triggering, I know.
How are you managing in your house? The weather has turned too. How long will the building stuff go on for?
Would you consider getting sone support for the health anxiety - I can see it gets to you? It might make such a huge difference to you. I really do understand being so similar myself. Feeling physically I’ll really gets me down .
I’m not so great. I’ve had a chest infection for over 2 weeks - it’s impossible to get a drs appt though the nurse finally called me yesterday but I was too far away to go. So I hope I improve over the weekend. Re kids I’m still having serious issues with middle son - he’s got drs appt next week - I hope I can get some idea of the help he can get not that he wants it. As for the man, he finished with me when having a bad anxiety episode though we got back together as he saw he was seeing things excessively negatively. Since then, though great mostly, there have been times he says things that makes me fear it’s going to happen again! Watch this space!
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Post by EC new thread on Aug 11, 2023 21:13:24 GMT
Hi Monica
how are things? I cant believe its nearly a year since I wrote on this forum! I hope things have improved with your middle son? Are you still with your man? I think everyone I know has some form of anxiety so seems a silly reason to call things off if only temporarily. I hope you're ok.
I think you're right about doing some cbt for the health anxiety. Things that I know wouldn't bother others can wind me up for days. My back is a lot better thanks, after extensive physio although still sometimes niggly. The whole episode was another blow to recovering from the health anxiety though. I will have a few months of feeling ok and then I will find something in my body to get anxious about. Like you said, doctors appointments are so hard to come by that its not really worth trying to get one to check that they thing I'm worried about is nothing serious. Its funny as after my second child, anxiety I used to have shifted to being all health based.
Anyway, hope to hear from you soon. Hopefully we will see some more sun before the end of the summer. Take care xx
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Post by monica on Aug 17, 2023 17:15:44 GMT
Hi EC
Fantastic to hear from you and it sounds like generally life is good? Honestly get some therapy . Don’t let the health anxiety bother you - it’s really awful being dragged down by it. I had cbt a couple of years ago and it was really powerful in changing thoughts I had about myself . How is the family? Kids? Hubby ? Work? Are you going away/been away this summer?
I’m ok thanks though feeling wiped out by menopause . I’m taking hrt which did make a difference though wondering if it needs increasing . Middle son seems ok. He’s due to start a cabin crew job which he got all by himself (flying is his passion). He really doesn’t look after himself - smokes, vapes, every night he smokes week (not at home). He’s 19 so k can’t stop him but it’s no good at all.
I’m with the man from last year and all good. He came away with my eldest and youngest sons to Scotland and I think everyone had a good time together. We even walked up Ben Nevis - I’m still aching 3 days after!!
Keep in touch - it’s always so lovely to hear from you x
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