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Post by justmommy on Mar 4, 2021 18:49:35 GMT
Hi How has this morning been? How did you manage this mornings tablet? Yes it’s common to feel worse before you feel better - I think I felt worse for about two weeks. Obviously if you struggle, do contact your dr. My gp prescribed me diazepam (muscle relaxant ) to help relax. This was only for short term use but helps to get through that initial period. Saying that I know of others who wrre t troubled by side effects. If you don’t mind me asking are you often sick in the mornings . You mention stomach issues. Aghh the weather - it can be horrible with the rain and dampness. And so changeable. I love the warmth and sun! How are the boobs? Cabbage leaves can be a bit smelly . Maybe massage and warm compresses. I hope it settles down but again, call dr if it doesn’t. Hey life is tricky atm - but it will improve ! Your baby sounds amazing and clearly happy - you’re doing a great job! X This morning was a little better, but her first nap is on me,while i am awake. I think her weight is pressing on my stomach which also maybe causing problems. I have nausea, when i worry/anxious etc, then it causes nause and coughing and then want to throw up I feel dizzy little but also couldn’t sleep much sleep although my baby slept and i had taken a version of diazem. I know anti dep cause sleep problems, that’s why i take in the mornings I stop using cabbage leaves cos of the smell. My boob is little sore but milk is reduced very much. Pepperminf tea might be helping and putting cold press. Today was sooo cold but i was outside agajn with pram So she can sleep longer I will try to tolerate side effects few more days then contacf dr if it contiues i guess. I am ok with even with a little improvement which there isnt. Day by day🤲🏻
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Post by monica on Mar 4, 2021 22:44:39 GMT
Hi
You are really doing so well in this difficult times. I really feel positive that things will improve though I do understand how hard it is when it isn’t at the moment. Is your dr checking in on you? Sometimes with anti depressants playing around with the time you take your meds or disease can make a difference. Which one do you take? I took citalopram but this was 16 yrs ago!
I hope the breast discomfort eases off quickly. That will be a huge positive for sure.
Try not to think too far in advance. Looking too far forward atm can be very daunting - focus on the here and now. Maybe you can break down each day into chunks and focus on the one you’re in, currently.
Yes today was cold and damp. I took my nephew for a walk in pram and wore gloves!
Monica x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 5, 2021 13:31:33 GMT
Hi Monica, I am taking Stratline, i have also sleep problems so i take it in the mornings. But i guess that i have to make more proper breakfast in order so it doesn’t cause nausea/vomitting. I knew the side effecfs but dizziness and nausea came little strong; its just a moment of getting used to it o guess. Also have still sleeping problem causing extra fatigue. I wrote about the side effects to my dr today. I and my husband try to patient with me but it is very hard Today i am again outside, i couldn’t even get my daily coffee and cake because of the nausea This shall past i hope
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Post by monica on Mar 5, 2021 19:14:54 GMT
Hi
I’ve heard that sertraline is supposed to have fewer side effects that others. I’m sorry you’ve got nausea - I think this a common side effect so should subside. Perhaps try drinking ginger tea , a few ginger biscuits. You can buy travel bands from boots and other shops - they can help nausea. It’s a very unpleasant feeling but hang on in there. You’re coping really well believe me!
Hopefully, in a week or so you’ll start sleeping better. This was one of the problems I had too amd the antidepressants helped me hugely. Also once I slept better , I felt better x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 7, 2021 16:11:17 GMT
Hi Monica, It’s been 5 days and still the same. I am trying ginger peppermint tea. I have been waking 5 am🤦🏻♀️ It’s very tiring, i can’t sleep when baby is sleeping. I am also no more pumping so it should help i guess, but not yet. I hope side effects go away. Weekend is ok becausw my husband is not working but weekdays are hard even though he works from home.
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Post by monica on Mar 7, 2021 19:51:36 GMT
Have hope justmummy - it takes time for the meds to kick in and you can feel rubbish. Could you touch base with your dr for support and reassurance? Or health visitor? A bit of extra support to get you through this tough time can help hugely.
I'm sure weekdays are harder for you as due to husband working youre essentially left alone. Hooray - lockdown is going to be easing soon and the weather should improve to. Is there any chance your mother in law might come over in a couple of months? Fingers crossed from mid May foreign travel should improve!x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 8, 2021 14:52:20 GMT
Hi Monica, My dr just told me it should be ok in a week. Taking care of her and struggling with side effects have been really hard and for some reason my sleep is also got worse. Weather is getting little that’s a plus. Not sure if my mother in law will be available to travel. Maybe we can go , but today they have a new rule-u need to have a emergency /business reasons to travel outside of the UK. It looks like when talking people with kids, it looks like it doesn’t get easier as they grow😕 Although my husband is very helpful, he expects me to be able to take of our baby; but i am afraid i am not, i don’t have that much energy-Maybe side effected anti dep mother talking. My husband can’t concentrate his work when she cries of course. His work is also important financially. From time to time, i am questionning my motherhood-although i am doing my best as my energy allows. I feel like i need a guideline/checklist if i am doing ok as a mother; i need assurance i guess. Thanks for your messages and support as always
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Post by monica on Mar 8, 2021 19:19:28 GMT
Hi
Glad your dr is giving you advice. Yes, it can take a little while for meds to kick in and you can feel worse before you feel better. It must be particularly difficult to look after your baby whilst suffering from side effects of medication. I do understand how important it is for your husband to work. I found that often my partner at the time struggled to give me emotional support but was better with practical tasks as I felt very tired alot of the time (sounds like you are struggling with tiredness, too). Could you ask him to take a few days leave here and there?
I think one of the worst things about PNI is that it knocks your confidence in your ability to being a good mum - it's so cruel. I think you're doing an amazing job - your baby is thriving and at a time when you don't feel your best at all. We all learn about parenthood through our experiences. I remember with my eldest child, I always felt I didn't know what I was doing and for the first 5 or 6 months would feel quite scared at times of being alone with him. Confidence came with time.
Children change so much so it's a constant flow of challenges. I have no doubt as you start to feel better (you will) the thought of these challenges won't seem scary and you may find you're looking forward to each new thing your child does.
Hang on in there - it'll get better x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 9, 2021 13:03:50 GMT
I hope it gets better. My sleep is also got worse. Baby is sleeping, but i am not😕 His schedule is always uncertain. Sonetimes he thinks he can be free then it changes. My husband is already supporting me but also gets frustrated sometines naturally. Still I need more support from him emotionally too. I will talk with my dr about the sleep on friday maybe so i hope i can solve it
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Post by monica on Mar 9, 2021 22:07:22 GMT
Lack of sleep is torture! I can give you some sleep tips if you like. I had dreadful insomnia (perimenopause in my case) and was referred to sleep clinic. Hopefully once the medication gets into your system you’ll sleep better.
You are an amazing woman! It’s so hard for you! Are you still talking to the pregnant mum you met? A distraction would be good x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 11, 2021 13:31:30 GMT
Lack of sleep is torture! I can give you some sleep tips if you like. I had dreadful insomnia (perimenopause in my case) and was referred to sleep clinic. Hopefully once the medication gets into your system you’ll sleep better. You are an amazing woman! It’s so hard for you! Are you still talking to the pregnant mum you met? A distraction would be good x Hi Monica, My days get more complicated i think. I would love sleeping techniques, please share. Last night again i slept less than 3 hours. Usually my baby sleeps; but she didn’t last night, wake up on an off. My husband and I took turns. before we go to sleep My husband and i had a little argument about my situatuon, he’s really fed up and what me to be good asap. I told him its not possible asap etc etc. You know ii started antidep as soon as my breastmilk finished/i dried up. So, i wonder that’s also effecting my situation. Today i also feel i might be getting my period (first time) but that’s just a feeling down there Yesterday at my cbt therapy i understood that i associate out bed with my baby as well and makes me harder to back to sleep. The reason is while my husband works from living room, i am with the baby at our room on bed🤦🏻♀️ Her own room is small so we can’t be there. When i am sleeping i am taling lorazepam but that also doesn’t work anymore i guess. I will talk with the dr tomorrow. Not able to go back to sleep; sweating, heart racing, want to vomit it’s really hard at night. I still trying to be patient with myself but it’s really tough
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Post by monica on Mar 11, 2021 20:15:44 GMT
Hi
A tricky day for you! I’m sorry about the argument with your husband. It’s hard for everyone - lockdown, Pni , challenges of a baby, exhaustion ....if you’re about to get your period too.
My sleep improved once Antids started to work so hoping it’s same for you.
What you mentioned about staying in your room a lot, that’s hard in terms of sleep. At the insomnia clinic, I was told to keep the bedroom for sleep (and sex) only so that’s all you associate it with. Very difficult to do. Could your husband work from the bedroom? Could you move furniture to accommodate that?
Also no caffeine after 2pm as it stays in your system for up to 9 hrs.
Work out how much sleep you get on average then reduce that by an hour. Set alarm so that’s all you get for a week .
Another tip is if you wake up and can’t get back to sleep, then get up. Leave the bedroom and do something- read, crossword, washing up but no screens as they’re stimulating . Stay up for up to 90 mins or if you feel tired before that , go to sleep. Try to fall asleep for up to 15 mins. If you can’t then get up and repeat.
Minimise alcohol as that can affect sleep.
Xx
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Post by justmommy on Mar 12, 2021 13:35:16 GMT
Hello, I spoke with my husband. He thinks we can spend time also in the living room but he won’t able yo concentrate so it won’t work i am afraid. The silly things i am able to find out some of my problems’ reason but can’t solve it because of the covid or other reasons. I guess we are both kind of burned out. In Easter we might able to breath a little. It’s been 10 days, hopefully at least side effects go away. I will talk this afternoon with my dr about the sleep and ask for something. Thanks for sleeping tips, the problem is that because baby sleeps i can’t make any sounds. I go to the living room try to look at twitter-which i know is a blue screen. But when my heart racing i don’t feel like reading a book etc. I might listen a meditation with headphones maybe? So my aim is to solve my sleep problem and hoping at that time antidep starts in a good way for me. Not sure how long i can go with few hours sleep. At home my baby gets bored of course in one room and taking her out to sleep is not enough for her. In argument with my husband he basically said enough of my mood but i can’t help it. I can’t snap out of it in a day. I am trying my best although my husband-and maybe myself cant see it. Someone told me although i dried up my breastmilk, ibody might take 2 weeks to balance it effects I did everything at the same week i guess which i shouldnt have done; but i didn’t have choice Only thing i can do is hoping for fhe best
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Post by monica on Mar 12, 2021 22:22:47 GMT
Hi
It’s not as simple as just snapping out of it!! Unfortunately lack of understanding is common and the fact you probably look well! I had the same comments - you need to pull yourself together, in my day we just had to get on with it etc. The reality is you don’t chose to feel the way you do and it’s an illness. At the same time it can be hard for the other person .
With the sleep it is difficult especially when your go to distraction at night is a blue screen . I’ve found listening to audio books really soothing ..you tube have them as well as lots of other websites. Give it a go! What did dr say today?
The covid situation is tough .I was talking to a friend today with two young children and she said she’s finding it hard - normally she would go to baby groups which would help her get through the day and that doesn’t exist now.,Hang in in there - hopefully another month and it’ll ease up amd some normality will start again x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 15, 2021 15:41:51 GMT
Hi, Dr gave me a sleep pill; i have been taking for 2 nights, it doesn’t help. I still get awake in 2 hours or so. Last night maybe was also crying etc although my husband took care of it. I also asked today again why i cant sleep even with the pills, waiting for a reply The lorezapem i have been taking to make sleep for 2 months, causing withdrawal-that’s what de said. So i am trying to quit it lowering the dose. I am hoping it will get easier this week. Its causing heart racing and hot flashes. He also increased the dose of antidep 5 days early My shoulders are very tense. Since we started to talk here i got much worse 😒 My husband is bored from all of my stuff about this. I just need to catch a break, which seems i can’t When my baby is getting a nap on me. I close my eyes that’s thr best i can do
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