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Post by monica on Apr 29, 2021 19:34:42 GMT
Hi
I was just thinking that overall you’re feeling better? I really hope so! Are you on the medication? I hope the side effects have lessened.
Glad things are easier with the mother in law. When does she go back?
Yes as baby grows there are new challenges but many are exciting and make life easier. You mentioned breakfast - I used to make stewed prunes and add that to semolina - I loved it too! X
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Post by justmommy on May 4, 2021 11:41:19 GMT
Hi Monica, Overall i am feeling better. Anxiety comes and goes. My sleep was good but again it’s getting hard to sleep and takes time these last days. When i feel anxious or small sleep problems, i am afraid that i would go back to feeling really bad. My mother in law is still with us. I think she is going back next week. How do you make semolina? I make it as a desert for rememberance of my mom, but don’t know how to use it for breakfast.
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Post by monica on May 5, 2021 7:36:14 GMT
Hi
It really is so good to hear you’re doing so much better - you are really on the road to recovery.
The symptoms coming and going as a NORMAL though unpleasant part of recovering for most women. These ‘blips’ can be triggered by pmt, tiredness , sickness and sometimes there doesn’t appear to be a reason. But over time they will lessen both in intensity, duration. You’ll get able to manage them.
I really remember that fear that I was going back to that dark place Everytime I felt rubbish with a blip - that’s normal too.
I hope your mother in laws trip was good overall.
Monica x
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Post by monica on May 10, 2021 9:13:10 GMT
Hi
Just wondering how you are? Is your mother in law still here?
You asked about semolina - I get a few spoonfuls of the dry semolina (you can buy from supermarkets) add milk, formula and mix for a few mins over a low heat. I used to stew a couple of prunes or dried apricots in a little water then blend this and add to cooked semolina. It was tasty!
Monica
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Post by justmommy on May 10, 2021 10:07:43 GMT
Hi It really is so good to hear you’re doing so much better - you are really on the road to recovery. The symptoms coming and going as a NORMAL though unpleasant part of recovering for most women. These ‘blips’ can be triggered by pmt, tiredness , sickness and sometimes there doesn’t appear to be a reason. But over time they will lessen both in intensity, duration. You’ll get able to manage them. I really remember that fear that I was going back to that dark place Everytime I felt rubbish with a blip - that’s normal too. I hope your mother in laws trip was good overall. Monica x Hi Monica, my mother in law is still here. She is going back at the end of this week i think. Not sure how to manage those blips yet. I am also afraid if i am tired this much at her 6th months how it is going to be when she starts to walk etc
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Post by justmommy on May 10, 2021 10:09:01 GMT
Hi Just wondering how you are? Is your mother in law still here? You asked about semolina - I get a few spoonfuls of the dry semolina (you can buy from supermarkets) add milk, formula and mix for a few mins over a low heat. I used to stew a couple of prunes or dried apricots in a little water then blend this and add to cooked semolina. It was tasty! Monica Thanks for the recipe, i will try to make it soon☺️I think she will like it
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Post by monica on May 11, 2021 9:17:27 GMT
Hi
The blips are painful to manage for sure especially at the start of the recovery. I remember feeling so downhearted and scared that I was back in this difficult place and would never recover at all. All of these are normal feelings believe me.
When those symptoms return, my advice would be to distract yourself as much as you can, as dwelling on thoughts won’t make you feel better l. It will take time to improve that skill. This might be a simple thing like clapping and saying STOP aloud or wearing an elastic band and flicking it everytime a thought provoking thought pops into your head.
If you can do a little bit of exercise. So even if walking the baby in pram walk fast so you get a bit breathless . That can get the endorphins buzzing , the feel good chemicals .
Keep talking - you are on the road to recovery! X
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Post by justmommy on May 19, 2021 9:37:11 GMT
Hi Monica, My mother in law went back her home last Saturday. It’s been ok her being here but also challenging. I got my first dose vaccine on Sunday. I am having little hard time with my husband. He has been stressed with work and i think he feels bad not able to spend much time with our baby although he works from home. He thinks i am having an easier time then him working. He think i can relax when our baby takes a nap. But she takes a nap on me. So not much chance for me to relax. Everyday o take her out fir her midday long nap, try to stay outside as much as possible so he can work at home and concentrate. Its hard to explain but i feel like he puts too much pressure on me. He wants to highlight its harder for him to work and wake up 6 am etc when baby wakes up
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Post by monica on May 21, 2021 7:46:29 GMT
Hi
Good news on vaccine! How do you feel after it? Which one did you have?
I think your husband’s views are quite common. His perception of being a mum is a bit short sighted and I think that’s common for parents who don’t look after their babies day in day out all day. I’m sure his job is hard especially trying to work with others around however so is yours!! You take your baby out so he can have quiet, cook, clean all without a break!!
Overall did you mother in laws visit help you, do you think? I hope so. These covid conditions are tough but fingers crossed, life starts to get easier for everyone x
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Post by justmommy on May 21, 2021 13:33:21 GMT
I got Pfizer one, that’s the one that i wanted luckily they weren’t offering any other for the first dose, although I had it in the Science museum, which must be one of the big vaccination centres. Overall my mother in law visit was fine. But my husband went to back being mama’s boy a little. Because he is not able to spend time with her as much as he wants i am guessing he feels guilty and reflecting on me. At night, when she sleeps, he watches her videos several times-same one. It’s quite strange. And asks me don’t i love her when i ask him why is he watching over and over. Of course i love her but i am with her all day so when she sleeps i don’t wAnt to hear her videoes/ crying sometimes/ over and over. I want to relax. I am not sure His questioning ; trying to make guilty. My anxiety level increased this week a little because of pressure and questioning🤦🏻♀️
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Post by monica on May 23, 2021 21:13:23 GMT
Hi Justmommy
I’m sorry you feel more stressed recently. Could you tell your hubby that his questioning is stressing you. Everything you say makes sense! I guess he doesn’t have the same time with your daughter due to work whereas as you are with her 24/7 you want a break! Perhaps he could spent more time alone with her in the evenings? And you use that time for a break?
Glad you had the vaccine. Did you feel ok afterwards? I had the Oxford one amd felt unwell for a couple of days after the first jab. I had the second yesterday and have felt normal which I believe is common after that jab. X
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Post by justmommy on May 26, 2021 16:16:45 GMT
Hi, i told him watching her videos over and over at night is not normal and ask me isn’t she cute etc i feel like he tries to make me feel guilty not looking her photos at night or he wants to normalize his watching the videos several times. I feel like he’s becoming obssesive And when i ask him to do something ohh i have work. For everything he uses “work” reasoning and that doesnt stop him questioning me. I feel really tired and exhausted. I don’t know how long i can tolerate his questioning and sometimes not wanting to listen the answer.
Pfizer’s first those was ok for me some people had reactions too. Oxford one caused more reactions on women i guess. At this point nobody knows which one is good
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Post by monica on May 27, 2021 13:45:14 GMT
Sorry it’s a bit rubbish at hime. Maybe your husband is also finding life difficult for different reasons and the video watching and commenting is his way of coping?
Could you suggest you both do something together instead of the video watching? Even playing cards or a game can ge fun and a distraction. After you have a baby probably many of not most couples find they forget about their own relationship as life revolves around the baby. It’s worth trying to reconnect a bit.could you have a night out?
Glad you’re ok post vaccine. I had my second Astra Zeneca one on Saturday and felt fine!! X
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Post by monica on May 27, 2021 13:46:14 GMT
Forgot to say I understand how hard it is for you too if you feel you’re constantly bring questioned by your husband. Do try to do something together x
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Post by justmommy on Jun 1, 2021 11:46:07 GMT
Forgot to say I understand how hard it is for you too if you feel you’re constantly bring questioned by your husband. Do try to do something together x I feel like because of the stress in his work and not able to do work stuff as he used to (because of the baby) and he wants to be more involved in her life but that not possible at this time He would be to tired to do something. He is causing me extra stress and kind of questioning my motherhood by asking if i fed her enough etc I don’t know at this moment about our rship
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