Post by spamalagee on Feb 23, 2022 21:22:04 GMT
Hi there.
I'm not really sure what I'm doing or how to word things. I have a 3yr old and a 5wk old - both boys. I struggle with various mental health issues, including something called premenstrual dysphoric disorder (basically a severe PMS) and cyclothymia, which is a less extreme bipolar disorder.
With my eldest, I felt fine after I had him but this time, it's so different and there is literally no support there. I told my Health Visitor and Midwife almost immediately that something wasn't right and they just said, basically, see how you get on and contact your GP. I don't know what more my GP can do for me - I am heavily medicated with anti-depressants, with no wiggle room to increase the dosage. I've tried talking therapies previously but I have never found them to be of huge benefit.
I have totally isolated myself from most people. I can't stand how judgmental some other mothers can be. I am just not coping well and I am used to having 40 children in my care every day, so it's not like I shouldn't be able to cope. My family and my partner are great - I try to be honest with them but I just don't feel anything and naturally, they try to help but it doesn't take away the emptiness. I feel like I have entirely lost who I am - I feel unattractive, lost all confidence in myself and my abilities. I have cut ties with a lot of good friends and I rarely leave the house. I sit at home, all day, letting the television babysit while I eat my feelings. I feel guilty because I know my oldest is missing out on so much because I don't take him anywhere.
My pregnancy and labour were awful with my youngest. He then ended up in NICU with collapsing lungs so that hasn't helped feelings and my anxiety is through the roof, particularly with Covid still being around.
I just feel nothing. There are days when I sit and cry for hours, literally and I honestly, can't see any way to make it better. I don't know how long I've felt like this. I don't know if it was there with my 1st born because I have spent so many years just carrying on.
I was hoping that maybe I could find some advice and support here because I don't know where else to go.
I'm not really sure what I'm doing or how to word things. I have a 3yr old and a 5wk old - both boys. I struggle with various mental health issues, including something called premenstrual dysphoric disorder (basically a severe PMS) and cyclothymia, which is a less extreme bipolar disorder.
With my eldest, I felt fine after I had him but this time, it's so different and there is literally no support there. I told my Health Visitor and Midwife almost immediately that something wasn't right and they just said, basically, see how you get on and contact your GP. I don't know what more my GP can do for me - I am heavily medicated with anti-depressants, with no wiggle room to increase the dosage. I've tried talking therapies previously but I have never found them to be of huge benefit.
I have totally isolated myself from most people. I can't stand how judgmental some other mothers can be. I am just not coping well and I am used to having 40 children in my care every day, so it's not like I shouldn't be able to cope. My family and my partner are great - I try to be honest with them but I just don't feel anything and naturally, they try to help but it doesn't take away the emptiness. I feel like I have entirely lost who I am - I feel unattractive, lost all confidence in myself and my abilities. I have cut ties with a lot of good friends and I rarely leave the house. I sit at home, all day, letting the television babysit while I eat my feelings. I feel guilty because I know my oldest is missing out on so much because I don't take him anywhere.
My pregnancy and labour were awful with my youngest. He then ended up in NICU with collapsing lungs so that hasn't helped feelings and my anxiety is through the roof, particularly with Covid still being around.
I just feel nothing. There are days when I sit and cry for hours, literally and I honestly, can't see any way to make it better. I don't know how long I've felt like this. I don't know if it was there with my 1st born because I have spent so many years just carrying on.
I was hoping that maybe I could find some advice and support here because I don't know where else to go.