A stressful Christmas

[Becca]

Does any other Mother find Chrsitmas a stessful time or is it just me.
I thought it was supposed to be a time when we all have fun, instead I find meself being ref to a 3 year old and a 40 year old. My wee boy has a cold at the moment and will not take any medicine at all, I have tried everything but to no avail, so as you can imagine he is very grumpy and upset all the time, he sleeps through the day and then I am up with until 2am, I thought my partner would be more helpful, instead he walks about moaning about Kieran moaning, and making me feel more under pressure, I ened up in my bedroom today in tears, no one seems to realise the pressure I am under trying to keep eveyone happy, meanwhile I feel I am falling apart inside and just want to scream!!!!! Becca

[Wendy]

Hi Becca

I'm sorry to hear that you had a stressful Christmas.
Sounds like you've had a lot on your plate (excuse the pun !). Our wee one is only 6 months so my day didn't bring the challenges yours did. Hang in there woman
you're doing a grand job. The silly season is nearly over and hopefully your son will get better soon too. As for your partner well........ a few choices there. I'll leave that one up to your creative imagination !!!
Screaming - ah yes that sounds useful. Bashing trees has been recommended to me too by my mother.
Watch out for nosey neighbours though !!!
Good to get the feelings out in a safe way if you can.

Take care

Wendy

[Catherine]

Hi Becca,
Firstly I would like to inform you that I should think ALL mothers find Christmas stressful to a certain degree! We all have to work even harder than usual and multitask even more. I think that it sounds like you're trying so hard to make everyone happy and when they're not happy you blame yourself. Becca, your son's illness is making him unhappy at the moment and as he gets better so will his temper. As for your husband, you are not responsible for his happiness, he is an adult and is responsible for his own attitude and behaviour so leave him to sort himself out and don't take the slightest inkling of blame for his moaning or unhelpfulness. You have to take responsibility for your child first and formost and not take the blame for your husbands failings. Most men when left alone, gradually come to their senses, and if left long enough they can be known to apologise and start helping more!

[Becca]

Thankyou Wendy & Catherine for taking the time to read my ramblings and reply. I appreciate it very much, Its great to have some support out here. I am so glad that I found this forum, it has help a great deal and I think pointed me in the direction of recovery, here I feel that I can be honest and no one judges me or thinks that I am mad. I feel that I have dealt with PND for too long on my own because I did not want to tell people the things that were going on in my mind, now I realise it is part of the illness and that has given me the determination to beat this horrible horrible illness, I only hope that my experience can help others now, once again thank you for replying, it means a great deal to me. Becca