My wife needs my help...

[svoto]

Hi,
My Wife has suffered from PND recently but i am convinced it has not become any better for her. to add to this, i didnt understand how to help her.she soon started a long distance affair and almost left with my daughter to the other side of the world, i think hoping to just escape,. gratefully that did not happen but i am sure she wants a different life.we are also in some financial strife and so that has also added to her stress. We argue a lot and she cant stop feeling a complete failure with regards to giving birth to our daughter via c-section. She was also unable to breastfeed which i know picks away at her. How can i support her and reassure her. We men always try solve things i am told, as opposed to just be there to lean on as a open ear.i dont know enough about pnd to give her the help she needs. i feel as if i am i going so wrong, she constantly puts me down for not being there for her in the way she needs. My wife is changing, into who i don't know but its not good.right now, she is at a stage where she simply does not care about anything, at all.
ANY help would be most welcome.I want to understand this.
Adam

[winegirl]

Hi Adam

I have replied to your other thread under `Introduce Yourself' as i saw that one before this.

Feel free to post in this section or any section you feel suitable though xx

WG

[littlelotty]

Hi Adam

Like WG i replied to your other thread - would you like me to speak to my husband as he may be able to offer his own support as I have been through some similar experiences as your wife although everyone is different.

Take Care

LittleLotty
xx

[cheshire]

Hi Adam,

I have just spotted this and don't think we have spoken before.

I'm sorry to hear that your family is going through this. My husband has said the same - he's eager to 'fix it' but finds the emotional support more difficult - which is why I have found it useful to use a forum such as this.

I remember my husband commenting that he felt 'he could do nothing right' - but actually, that's how I felt about myself, I think - and sort of projected it onto him?

Give her time, be reassuring and unconditionally supportive. I know it's difficult when you get negative feedback, but she's ill and it's what she really needs right nowx

Hopefulx

[sianyc]

Hi

Would you be able to show you wife this site and see if she can get any help from here? Also has she been to the GP or talked to your HV about how she's feeling?