Post by Jen on Sept 18, 2003 13:22:47 GMT
I am so nervous my heart is racing …I feel like I cant nbreath….there is nothing wrong here though..both the kids are asleep. I know I should sleep while bailey is asleep but I cant, I feel like if I close m eyes it will make him wake up.
Sometimes I look at him and he is sweet and cute and round …everyone says he is really beautiful..sometimes he looks so ugly to me…like he is giving me dirty looks.when I think about it later I feel so guilty I want to vomit
Its like he hates me for feeling this way about him
I get so angry I could scream I wish I had long nails so I could dig them into my palms. I keep thinking about pulling out my teeth… I remember what it was like when I was little and I lost teeth ,smooth bloody gums, twisting the teeth until they came out, feeling the sharp bits underneath attached by little threads,, I can vividly imagine what it would be like to just push and push on a tooth uhtil it came loose and then start twisting…..sometime I go into the bathroom and look at my teeth and touch them like im daring myself to do it.
when I first held bailey in hospital I looked at him and the forst thing I thought was I just want to sleep please take him away.when Julie gave bailey his first bottle in hospital I watched her and felt nothing..i thought it was just because I was tired..i thought I was a horrible person before he was born, I kept diaries during my pregnancy with jaxon..with bailey I just couldn’t be bothered, I was interested in his movements and how he was growing, I thought it was just harder for me to fall in love with him because I was so busy with jaxon. I felt guilty already because he wouldn’t have them to read when he grows up and jaxon will. Then we got sick and mum looked after him and he did so well, he doesn’t need me, I cant do it properly, mum gave him what he needed and I cant match that he is not secuer with me. He feels tense and stiff.
I feel like I am giving him nothing and doing everything wrong, its my fault he cries all the time..he stops when someone else holds him I shouldn’t ffel like this, my home and my life are great I love john so much and jaxon is so clever and sweet I have two beautiful sons and a precious daughter but I feel so scared and lonely. I don’t want to tell john how I feel , im so scared he will get sick of hearing it and leave me, he is being so wonderful and supportive but im scared that he will stop and I will be alone. Sometimes when baileyu cries and cries I want to run out the door and not come baqck….i hold him and I cry and he cries and then the panic goes and I feel terrible, I tell him that im sorry he was given such a bad mother, im scaredd tha he is going to grow up with emotional problems because I am so horrible to him.
Most of the time I am ok with jaxon but sometimes I don’t want him either,
I just want to be alone with john and have him hold me and cry my eyes out, I want to be taken care of, I feel so stupid.
I just cant stop the tears from flowing, I feel sick writing this but I feel like ill vomit if I don’t get it out. I should be able to do this peoplel will think im just complaing because bailey is a demanding baby, but its not that, I am doing everything, im not getting everyome to do things for me, I can do it……I just hate myself beause I don’t want to be doing it…..i don’t want to hold him…..i should think its sweet when bailey squirms up against my cheek, and sometimes I do, warm and soft and cute, but sometimes it feels like he is pushing me and I clench my teeth together and plaster a smile on my face. If I try really hard I can act like I feel good, I can make my laugh sound real and soften my voice when I speak to the kids… I say the things I think people expect me to say aboutthem. Sometimes I stand in the kitchen leaning over the stiove with the exhaust fan on so I cant hear bailey cry nothing io am doing is like me I don’t know who I am or what ill do, I don’t trust myself
im scared that he will choke and die when he screams ,
maybe he is constipated because I made his formula wrong , could that hurt his digestive system? I don’t know what im doing I cant make a decision about him without asking someone if its ok..i cant even choose his clothes without asking john if hes warm enough, I think that if I choose I will be wrong and hell get sick.
I feel so sick, like the feeling you get when you’ve been caught doing something wrong and are waiting to find out what the consequences wioll be, like being called to the principals office…nervous and sick and scared shakinmg.
That’s what its like, like im doing the worst thing possible and ive been caught ….i feel scared and guilty and ashamed
I cant stop thinking about all the stupid things I have done, I forgot to give jaxon dinner two nights ago..how couild I do that?
It just keeps getting later and I cant make myself go to bed, I don’t want to lie there grinding my teeth.
I really want to see another doctor or midwife or anyone to find out what I should do about this, I know its not right, to feel this way, but I don’t want to tell anyone how out of control I feel, im supposed to be the strong one, im supposed to be emotionally strong, im so physically pathetic that its all ive got. I told one doctor and he didn’t care what would I do if anothert one is like hat. But I doont know what to say, I don’t want to to just blurt out I think I have post natal depression I don’t awant them to think I jsu want attention
im so cold
im trying so hard to push it away but it wont go
how can I be such a bad parent knowing how bad it feels.i don’t want my children to hate me.
Why cant I say these things out loud, why cnt I let myself get help, I cant think straight I need someone to tell me that im ok
Sometimes I look at him and he is sweet and cute and round …everyone says he is really beautiful..sometimes he looks so ugly to me…like he is giving me dirty looks.when I think about it later I feel so guilty I want to vomit
Its like he hates me for feeling this way about him
I get so angry I could scream I wish I had long nails so I could dig them into my palms. I keep thinking about pulling out my teeth… I remember what it was like when I was little and I lost teeth ,smooth bloody gums, twisting the teeth until they came out, feeling the sharp bits underneath attached by little threads,, I can vividly imagine what it would be like to just push and push on a tooth uhtil it came loose and then start twisting…..sometime I go into the bathroom and look at my teeth and touch them like im daring myself to do it.
when I first held bailey in hospital I looked at him and the forst thing I thought was I just want to sleep please take him away.when Julie gave bailey his first bottle in hospital I watched her and felt nothing..i thought it was just because I was tired..i thought I was a horrible person before he was born, I kept diaries during my pregnancy with jaxon..with bailey I just couldn’t be bothered, I was interested in his movements and how he was growing, I thought it was just harder for me to fall in love with him because I was so busy with jaxon. I felt guilty already because he wouldn’t have them to read when he grows up and jaxon will. Then we got sick and mum looked after him and he did so well, he doesn’t need me, I cant do it properly, mum gave him what he needed and I cant match that he is not secuer with me. He feels tense and stiff.
I feel like I am giving him nothing and doing everything wrong, its my fault he cries all the time..he stops when someone else holds him I shouldn’t ffel like this, my home and my life are great I love john so much and jaxon is so clever and sweet I have two beautiful sons and a precious daughter but I feel so scared and lonely. I don’t want to tell john how I feel , im so scared he will get sick of hearing it and leave me, he is being so wonderful and supportive but im scared that he will stop and I will be alone. Sometimes when baileyu cries and cries I want to run out the door and not come baqck….i hold him and I cry and he cries and then the panic goes and I feel terrible, I tell him that im sorry he was given such a bad mother, im scaredd tha he is going to grow up with emotional problems because I am so horrible to him.
Most of the time I am ok with jaxon but sometimes I don’t want him either,
I just want to be alone with john and have him hold me and cry my eyes out, I want to be taken care of, I feel so stupid.
I just cant stop the tears from flowing, I feel sick writing this but I feel like ill vomit if I don’t get it out. I should be able to do this peoplel will think im just complaing because bailey is a demanding baby, but its not that, I am doing everything, im not getting everyome to do things for me, I can do it……I just hate myself beause I don’t want to be doing it…..i don’t want to hold him…..i should think its sweet when bailey squirms up against my cheek, and sometimes I do, warm and soft and cute, but sometimes it feels like he is pushing me and I clench my teeth together and plaster a smile on my face. If I try really hard I can act like I feel good, I can make my laugh sound real and soften my voice when I speak to the kids… I say the things I think people expect me to say aboutthem. Sometimes I stand in the kitchen leaning over the stiove with the exhaust fan on so I cant hear bailey cry nothing io am doing is like me I don’t know who I am or what ill do, I don’t trust myself
im scared that he will choke and die when he screams ,
maybe he is constipated because I made his formula wrong , could that hurt his digestive system? I don’t know what im doing I cant make a decision about him without asking someone if its ok..i cant even choose his clothes without asking john if hes warm enough, I think that if I choose I will be wrong and hell get sick.
I feel so sick, like the feeling you get when you’ve been caught doing something wrong and are waiting to find out what the consequences wioll be, like being called to the principals office…nervous and sick and scared shakinmg.
That’s what its like, like im doing the worst thing possible and ive been caught ….i feel scared and guilty and ashamed
I cant stop thinking about all the stupid things I have done, I forgot to give jaxon dinner two nights ago..how couild I do that?
It just keeps getting later and I cant make myself go to bed, I don’t want to lie there grinding my teeth.
I really want to see another doctor or midwife or anyone to find out what I should do about this, I know its not right, to feel this way, but I don’t want to tell anyone how out of control I feel, im supposed to be the strong one, im supposed to be emotionally strong, im so physically pathetic that its all ive got. I told one doctor and he didn’t care what would I do if anothert one is like hat. But I doont know what to say, I don’t want to to just blurt out I think I have post natal depression I don’t awant them to think I jsu want attention
im so cold
im trying so hard to push it away but it wont go
how can I be such a bad parent knowing how bad it feels.i don’t want my children to hate me.
Why cant I say these things out loud, why cnt I let myself get help, I cant think straight I need someone to tell me that im ok