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Post by Calmer on Jun 3, 2004 21:38:40 GMT
Hi - It is a wonderful idea to get PNI into the open.
I remembe when I was pregnant (before I knew about my complications) i went to parentcraft classes at the hospital and they spent all of 5 minutes on PNI.
They said that with PNI you would feel, hopeless, like the future was bleak, and suffer thoughts of suicide.
While all these can be part of PNI these are just some of the more extreme symptoms - I feel that if the early symptoms can be recognised it can be dealt with better and more quickly.
It took me so long to realise I had PNI because of this mis-information and felt completely let down.
I would love to help others and talk about my experience when I am feeling better, because I dont think you can fully explain it unless you have been there!
C x
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TinaC
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I am 43 first time mum with a baby 13 months. I am trying to survive PND
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Post by TinaC on Jun 4, 2004 22:20:53 GMT
Hi
It great to read that I am not the only one that whats to change things and maybe together we can.
I was talking yesterday with some mums who clearly thought that there was major stigma with any form of PNI they had no real idea what PNI was. They thought it was about bonding with your child and/or hurting your child.
What was interesting was listening to one mum describe her expereinces with motherhood. Clearly she had PNI but was told she just was down and to pull herself together. Her child is now three and she has just started to get things together. I carefully suggested that she might have had PNI and her reply was that she had not hurt her child. I backed off.
All these women are involved in childrens services at one level or another. This re-enforced my feelings that PNI is misunderstood, at all levels. We need to educate society. Talking in my group, it was interesting to hear from one mum that she don't think that you would have listened at bumps and babies session. Would mums listen? Other felt they would. I realize that care will need to be taken not to presuggest or the scare mums to be. But just knowing a little bit would have worked for me.
Any suggestion on what format would work?
Take care
Tinax
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Chris
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I am 31 yearsand have a little girl aged 3.5 years and a little boy aged 1 year.
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Post by Chris on Jun 12, 2004 18:51:32 GMT
Hi Tina,
I also had a similar experience, my friend has a tuesday meeting with her friends 'The Perfect Mum Group' I call them!
My friend did have a hard time and although was never treated i suspect that she had PNI. I joined the group just after moving down to Cornwall for an evening in at my friends they started talking about how hard it must of been for her to go back to work part time and how they 'felt for her' during this time. The look of mixed horror and amazement on their faces when i told them it was my saving grace to go back to work part time after my daughter was born mainly due to my PNI was amazing! It soon stopped the discussion topic!
I however have the opposite problem now as I have a boy aged 15months and gave up work to have him then moved and now i no longer have the confidence to return to work!
Take Care
Chris x
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TINA
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Post by TINA on Jun 14, 2004 19:33:30 GMT
Hi
I was forced to say home when I had my son due to ill health and some 17 months later I am still at home. I think if I had to go back to work I would never cope. In the beginning I would use any excuse to leave my son and hide in another room. Now I hate being without him. I left him all day saturday with my mum and I cried when he left! Now thats a change!
I have been having a few hard days during the last week and tonight I feel so much better. I have just realized what the problem has been. On thursday my son had a bad fall and cut both lips and his mouth. SInce then he has not wanted to eat. If I am lucky he has eaten half a joghurt all day. Tonight he has eaten half of his tea. I feel a great weight has been lifted!
I have never thought I would feel like this. I used to say 'I know I love my son but I just can't feel it.' Now I enjoy feeling it even though it can cause such heart ache. For anyone who is having problems bonding with their child it does get better and when it does it really great. I could spend hours regretting what I have missed, but why bother I have it now ;D
Tina
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