Post by susanneb1984 on Feb 1, 2006 17:17:02 GMT
Ok, I need some honest opinions now! lol
Ok, so I met Mark in Feb 2002, and I fell pregnant in the March, Thea was born in Dec 02, and we were a happy family. Or at least I thought we were! We moved to Spain in June 2003, to make a new life, and in October 2003, Mark asked us to leave, he said he didn't love me anymore, so on 16th Oct 03, we left Spain!
Ok, I last had real contact with Mark Xmas day 2003, when we were planning to get back together, he told me what a mistake he'd made and I still loved him. That was the last time I spoke to him, I tried to contact him in Feb 04, and was told he'd gone travelling for 3 years! I was gutted!
Ok, so in May 2004, I found out he was living back in the UK, with his new fiance who was pregnant. I spoke to him briefly via MSN, and he told me Thea wasn't his and he wanted no contact.
In August 2004, I contacted the CSA, who started to gather information for the claim. He denied paternity, he refused to speak to CSA, he ignored the letters, he sent me nasty emails, and still I continued.
Ok, so in Dec, I got a letter saying I'd cancelled the claim on 31st Aug at 4pm, erm I was in labour with GJ then! lol So I called them and explained, and the case was reopened. 3 days after I'd called them, I got a letter saying Mark had been traced. He gave them consent to give me his address, and now I have a payment plan for the money he's paying towards Thea. I've had no contact with him, and don't know much about his life now!
It's just this all seems very strange to me, he's not denying her, he's not threatening me, he's just paying. I know I should be grateful with that, but something just doesn't feel right! How can someone go to such measures to deny a child, to then accept with no problems just a few months later!?
I still have some feelings for Mark (as I'm sure you can guess) although nothing close to how I feel for Alan, but wondered what you all thought? Am I reading too much into this? Should I expect contact with him now wanting to see Thea? I've got no problems with him seeing Thea, it's not my choice if he's part of her life, it's hers. It's not a decision I can make for her! I've got his address, but everyone has said to leave it, but I wanted to send some pics to him, what do you think??? Or am I just seeing what I want to see?
Ok, so I met Mark in Feb 2002, and I fell pregnant in the March, Thea was born in Dec 02, and we were a happy family. Or at least I thought we were! We moved to Spain in June 2003, to make a new life, and in October 2003, Mark asked us to leave, he said he didn't love me anymore, so on 16th Oct 03, we left Spain!
Ok, I last had real contact with Mark Xmas day 2003, when we were planning to get back together, he told me what a mistake he'd made and I still loved him. That was the last time I spoke to him, I tried to contact him in Feb 04, and was told he'd gone travelling for 3 years! I was gutted!
Ok, so in May 2004, I found out he was living back in the UK, with his new fiance who was pregnant. I spoke to him briefly via MSN, and he told me Thea wasn't his and he wanted no contact.
In August 2004, I contacted the CSA, who started to gather information for the claim. He denied paternity, he refused to speak to CSA, he ignored the letters, he sent me nasty emails, and still I continued.
Ok, so in Dec, I got a letter saying I'd cancelled the claim on 31st Aug at 4pm, erm I was in labour with GJ then! lol So I called them and explained, and the case was reopened. 3 days after I'd called them, I got a letter saying Mark had been traced. He gave them consent to give me his address, and now I have a payment plan for the money he's paying towards Thea. I've had no contact with him, and don't know much about his life now!
It's just this all seems very strange to me, he's not denying her, he's not threatening me, he's just paying. I know I should be grateful with that, but something just doesn't feel right! How can someone go to such measures to deny a child, to then accept with no problems just a few months later!?
I still have some feelings for Mark (as I'm sure you can guess) although nothing close to how I feel for Alan, but wondered what you all thought? Am I reading too much into this? Should I expect contact with him now wanting to see Thea? I've got no problems with him seeing Thea, it's not my choice if he's part of her life, it's hers. It's not a decision I can make for her! I've got his address, but everyone has said to leave it, but I wanted to send some pics to him, what do you think??? Or am I just seeing what I want to see?