Old-er Friends - Advice

[stardelight]

Does anyone else have friends the same age-group as your mum?

I have a very close and good friend who is older than my mum. She has helped me through some really rough times, PNI included. She is the type I can call at 4am and she listens without judgment. We are so close she is Hope's (my little explorer)godmother.

The problem I seem to have is not with her but with my own mum and her jealously toward our friendship. Mum has called me arguing about the time I spend with my dear friend and how she interacts with Hope. Things have got so bad with Mum that she is refusing to look after her while I'm at work, which 2 weeks ago was a done thing.

My Mum has me pinned down, to what she wants me to do. I can't explain how much I need this friendship and my mum. I feel overwhelmed with the PNI without deciding to lose the type of friend who is carrying me through this and is listening. I have no idea what to do at my age I thought I would.

[susanneb1984]

Hiya hunni,

Ok, so it's not the same situation but I'm 22 and my best friend, Adrian, is almost 41, just a year younger than my mum, but like your friend, I can phone him anytime and he understands, he's suffered with depression in his past, so he can relate to at least some of what I'm saying!
I love him and can't imagine my life without him!

why is your mum so jealous!?

[cheshire]

Hi Stardelight

Two of my best friends are nearly 20 years older than me. Neither have children or are married but both have supported me hugely. My mum has too, she is an angel. But I would not do without my friends either. I love the fact that I have these friends and that we chose each other - we are SO diffferent and that is what I like most about my friendships.

I found friends invaluable at this time - it was if they were one step removed. Family worry about the babe sometimes, but friends are there for you.

I don't know if this helps. I had no idea what to do about much at all in the depths of PNI - I'm 35 and should know better...but decision making was hard.

Anyway, take care of yourself
Hopefulx

[emilyalwaysblue]

I havnt really confidded in my mum the I have PNI, nor do any of my friends know really either, though I have mentioned that I am taking prozac, not just told them what for exactly.
I am one of the youngest in my social circle of friends. My mum is just 41 and I have friends who are 35+ etc and very few who are my age.
All the women on my estate are married (as u need to be to get a house) and many have babies. I cant commebt really on the thing about talking ot ur friends as I only confide in my hubby but I think having a friend older or younger to talk to is great!