Post by Bumblebee on Jun 21, 2007 19:00:03 GMT
Hi there,
I am really hoping somebody out there in a similar situation to me can offer me some advice.
My best friend suffers terribly from PND, and has done since the birth of her 2nd daughter 15 months ago. She also has a 23 month old daughter, and lives with her partner and his 5 year old son.
My friend suffers from the usual symptoms of PND, she is very insecure, very unsociable, she rarely leaves the house. she is constantly tired, irritable, terribly bad tempered with the children, her partners, and at times, myself. She has no energy to keep up with the housework, and whilst her partner tries his upmost to help her, he works a 50 hour week. She has gotten herself into terrible debt, and buries her head in the sand. Her partner is left to deal with the baliffs, and to try and pay them off.
She was prescribed Fluoxetine last year, but refuses to take them. Her excuse is normally that she 'forgets', but even when myself or her partner take the tablet to her, she will refuse to take them. I think she thinks that she doesn't need to take them.
A few months ago, things took a turn for the worse. She began to self harm, not with the intention of ending her life, but as a release I think. Her partner was mortified, and after much persuasion escorted her back to the doctor. He refered her to a mental health nurse, and they discussed things over and agreed to regularly meet. She hasn't been back since.
She no longer self harms, but her symptoms are just as bad. she doesn't seem to want to get better. She has began to say things to her partner such as 'You should leave me and take the kids with you they would be better off with you'. They wouldn't of course, they all love their mummy. But having said that, they are all terrified of her temper too, particularly her stepson. Her punishment methods are a little harsh too, and unfortunately I have found marks on them on occasion. Please don't get me wrong, she isn't out to purposely harm her children, she just loses her rag very easily and this is part of her problem.
My friend is so very poorly and me and her partner, also my very good friend, is in despair. We always try to be there for her, help out as much as possible with the children and housework. I regularly try to take her out and just simply be there with her.
But her symptoms are getting worse and we are very worried that one day she will 'snap'.
We can't force her to take the tablets. Neither can we force her to the doctors again. But what can we do ? What more can we do to help?
Please, any suggestions are very welcome xx
I am really hoping somebody out there in a similar situation to me can offer me some advice.
My best friend suffers terribly from PND, and has done since the birth of her 2nd daughter 15 months ago. She also has a 23 month old daughter, and lives with her partner and his 5 year old son.
My friend suffers from the usual symptoms of PND, she is very insecure, very unsociable, she rarely leaves the house. she is constantly tired, irritable, terribly bad tempered with the children, her partners, and at times, myself. She has no energy to keep up with the housework, and whilst her partner tries his upmost to help her, he works a 50 hour week. She has gotten herself into terrible debt, and buries her head in the sand. Her partner is left to deal with the baliffs, and to try and pay them off.
She was prescribed Fluoxetine last year, but refuses to take them. Her excuse is normally that she 'forgets', but even when myself or her partner take the tablet to her, she will refuse to take them. I think she thinks that she doesn't need to take them.
A few months ago, things took a turn for the worse. She began to self harm, not with the intention of ending her life, but as a release I think. Her partner was mortified, and after much persuasion escorted her back to the doctor. He refered her to a mental health nurse, and they discussed things over and agreed to regularly meet. She hasn't been back since.
She no longer self harms, but her symptoms are just as bad. she doesn't seem to want to get better. She has began to say things to her partner such as 'You should leave me and take the kids with you they would be better off with you'. They wouldn't of course, they all love their mummy. But having said that, they are all terrified of her temper too, particularly her stepson. Her punishment methods are a little harsh too, and unfortunately I have found marks on them on occasion. Please don't get me wrong, she isn't out to purposely harm her children, she just loses her rag very easily and this is part of her problem.
My friend is so very poorly and me and her partner, also my very good friend, is in despair. We always try to be there for her, help out as much as possible with the children and housework. I regularly try to take her out and just simply be there with her.
But her symptoms are getting worse and we are very worried that one day she will 'snap'.
We can't force her to take the tablets. Neither can we force her to the doctors again. But what can we do ? What more can we do to help?
Please, any suggestions are very welcome xx
