Post by stevensmummy on Jan 21, 2008 11:42:36 GMT
I'm not sure if this is the right section for this but I wasnt sure of anywhere else.
My problem - My parents.
They had taken it upon themselves to basically take over. They know my problems. I was at that stage afraid to go to doc etc and didnt admit. They were there pretty much there 24-7. Then they didnt want to and I was left to it. I suddenly paniced and needed them after never being alone for such a long time. (I have a 2yr old and a baby who was ill with an op at 5wks and in which time I also developed epilepsy) They then took it as a chore to have to be here for me and complained all the time and made me feel guilty about it.
Since then I have had a row with them which was quite severe and I basically closed the door. It was very very had I am now on antid's and they have helped emensly. For about a week we nvr spoke. I was adamant that i wasnt calling them. I wanted to see how long it took them to come to me. I had the support of my inlaws and they said I was doing the right thing. They then called my OH and asked was all ok. It started from there and since then its gradually been coming round. Mum has now been over 3 times in the last 2 weeks and this will be dads first time for 3 weeks.
Here lies my prob. They now seem taken aback by my independance and the fact that I have made friends and started playgroups with the kids and walk to everything (no car due to epilepsy) rather than get lifts from them. Its like I have offended them by being independant. I do things without constantly consulting them and I have always involved them in the kids lives and my own. Now they seem annoyed that i dont. Yet they were annoyed I had them over all the time. They ask other ppl inlaws esp about us and what we are doing so not to ask me.
Am I wrong to exclude them?
Should I start telling them things?
Do I now let them back in freely?
I feel ofended by their actions but am I just being arrogant now by being too far the other way?
Plz help
(sorry for the long post I had alot to explan, lol)
Sarah xx
My problem - My parents.
They had taken it upon themselves to basically take over. They know my problems. I was at that stage afraid to go to doc etc and didnt admit. They were there pretty much there 24-7. Then they didnt want to and I was left to it. I suddenly paniced and needed them after never being alone for such a long time. (I have a 2yr old and a baby who was ill with an op at 5wks and in which time I also developed epilepsy) They then took it as a chore to have to be here for me and complained all the time and made me feel guilty about it.
Since then I have had a row with them which was quite severe and I basically closed the door. It was very very had I am now on antid's and they have helped emensly. For about a week we nvr spoke. I was adamant that i wasnt calling them. I wanted to see how long it took them to come to me. I had the support of my inlaws and they said I was doing the right thing. They then called my OH and asked was all ok. It started from there and since then its gradually been coming round. Mum has now been over 3 times in the last 2 weeks and this will be dads first time for 3 weeks.
Here lies my prob. They now seem taken aback by my independance and the fact that I have made friends and started playgroups with the kids and walk to everything (no car due to epilepsy) rather than get lifts from them. Its like I have offended them by being independant. I do things without constantly consulting them and I have always involved them in the kids lives and my own. Now they seem annoyed that i dont. Yet they were annoyed I had them over all the time. They ask other ppl inlaws esp about us and what we are doing so not to ask me.
Am I wrong to exclude them?
Should I start telling them things?
Do I now let them back in freely?
I feel ofended by their actions but am I just being arrogant now by being too far the other way?
Plz help
(sorry for the long post I had alot to explan, lol)
Sarah xx