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Post by winegirl on Jun 29, 2008 19:13:37 GMT
Hi TM
I decided against having a breathing monitor as it would have just been another thing for me to panic and get stressed about it! I am sorry you have been missing out on the sleep hun and hope you feel better for last nights 7 hours??
Your day today sounds lovely! I like the idea of staying in together doing nothing...
Hope you enjoyed your buscuits hun too!
I still get panicky sometimes when out and about, I have actualy been suffering alot for some reason this week, which i try to see as a good thig as it remineds me of how hard work PNI is! I was getting far to lapse at being well! LOL x I hope this week you can have a bit of a break from it and have a bot more rest time for you too...
Always here and thinking of you x
WG xx
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Post by tabbysmum on Jun 30, 2008 14:35:07 GMT
Dear all just a quick hello as I'm supposed to be working (doing nothing but eat chocolate - don't know what's wrong with me I'll be the size of a house soon ) Got to go to my first team meeting on Thursday and I've got a twenty minute slot to give an overview of my work area, in a right old panic, I don't think I can fill more than about 2 minutes, I hate these things, I'm crap at it. Been brooding over my relationship with hubby, triggered by the SIL from hell and there are a few things I feel I need to say to him and get off my chest, but it's old stuff and I know he'll get all stroppy if I bring it up, what do you girlies think? For example, when we were getting married the SIL went on and on about how his mum sent a letter into the local radio station about her saying how wonderful she was and the daughter she'd never had etc etc, the radio station phoned her up when she was at the hairdressers to read it out on air and she was well chuffed - which you would be, but of course she has to rub it in because I didn't get the same treatment. Ed knew how upset I was at the time but did nothing about it and it still bothers me that he never spoke to his mum about it, that's just one example, there are loads. He bought me a ring for my 40th birthday but it was too small and they didn't do the next size up so he had a refund, he's never bothered getting me another one or taking me to choose one, even though I've mentioned it to him. Feels like there's an endless list of stuff that as far as he concerned are closed, but for me they're not and I still brood on them so don't really know what to do - any advice appreciated! Thanks girls TM x
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Post by Scarlet on Jun 30, 2008 14:54:59 GMT
Hi TM, Oooo I love choccie, but you as size 8, what was it Cokey said "Don't have to worry about your weight LOLOLOLOL" Eat away girly, is it Belgian choccie you are eating?? No worries about your team meeting, I used to do them as well at one time. Worried just like you, then when I got talking, couldn't stop.. 20 mins was never enough ;D Sorry about your SIL situation, she sounds like a right witch, I hate folks like that...I would have to say something to her. Also with my hubby, there's no holds barred,and I always mention to him what's on my mind (although I do pick my moments). I always think to myself better be open rather than let an issue fester...so if I were you I would mention about the ring, and ask him why he didn't replace it, and also the SIL issue with his mum and the radio station. I don't think you'll be able to live with peace of mind until you've discussed it with him. How are you feeling overall, glad to hear your thoughts have subsided a wee bit (in Cokeys diary). I had a few of those back-door spikes as well These are the final stages. xx
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Post by tabbysmum on Jun 30, 2008 15:03:10 GMT
Hi Scarlet,
I think that's the problem, I don't want to drag up what's long gone, but it's festering and will grow and grow until I get it all off my chest, I know I'll have to choose my moment carefully so will probably warn him there are things I need to speak with him about when the time's right, I just don't feel he's fought my corner, suppose that's what it boils down to half the time - oh and the fact that he never puts me first!
Crikey, we could go on and on couldn't we!
TM x
P.S Not belgium, polished them off the other day, 2 Hershey bars - yummy!
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Post by cokey on Jun 30, 2008 15:14:50 GMT
Hi TM
I can't say what is best really, I let rip as you know yesterday with everything and it got me nowhere but then again like Scarlet said it needed saying.
As for Ed and his mum, its a well known fact and I don't know any mum who says boo to their mums. Good for us as we have sons but not so good as daughter-in-laws. If pauls mum says anything directly to him he will tell her but if she does it to me or says something behind my back, he doesn't. Paul's parents once said something about me to my parents, inferring I was a naff mum and my parents fell out with them but he never broached it with his parents. I am guessing Ed knows his mumj is out of order but just can't be arsed to bring it to a head. besides your sis-in-law would love that.
Regarding the ring, oh my word, all men must do that. paul bought me an eternity ring at xmas (off ebay albeit) but they cannot resize it so we are selling it again on ebay, doubt I will get another though!!! It hasnt been mentioned. I will probably have to get my own.....sigh
If you could, I would take Ed out to the pub or for dinner, dress up sexy and then he is putty in your hands. Then bring it all up.
Good luck.
As for your team meetings, you'll love it once you get going. I used to enjoy talking too Scarlet once I got started!! That reminds me - I have something to tell you all....see u back in my diary in 10!
Cokey xxx
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Post by Scarlet on Jun 30, 2008 16:23:38 GMT
I think you gotta tell him what's on your mind, doesn't matter if it was a long time ago. Mine never puts me first either, this is what many of my issues are with him, he always seems to put his own family first. I have a list as long as my arm, and have mentioned each and every one to him. But like Cokey said, it doesn't always resolve things, but at least he knows my position, and might not make the same mistake again (pigs might fly). Choose your moment and speak to him about the things that are bothering you hun I should.
xx
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Post by winegirl on Jun 30, 2008 19:06:35 GMT
Hi TM
Yes, I would definately talk to Ed, otherwise things will just escalate inside you and will get blown way off the radar!
But its definately all about the way you talk to him. Play the sad, hard done by wee thing whos feeling all down. Dont go off on one or sounds like you are attacking him, men cant deal with that! And perhaps point out that you really loved the gesture of that ring and have always felt sad that you couldnt keep it (he could have had it resized for you..)
Hows things been this afernoon? Did you manage to get any work done??
WG xx
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Post by tabbysmum on Jun 30, 2008 19:28:34 GMT
Bollocks - Ed's just found my secret stash of chocolate!
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Post by winegirl on Jun 30, 2008 19:29:55 GMT
LOL LOL! I have tears in my eyes from laughing! Have you not tried hiding them in your knicker draw??
WG x
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Post by tabbysmum on Jun 30, 2008 19:35:24 GMT
Hi WG,
Yes I'll definately play it the way you said, I've learnt the hard way that attacking him doesn't work (as it doesn't for any man as you pointed out!) Just feeling a pissed off with him at the minute and know i've got to careful because once I start on him it might open the floodgates! I know sometimes I enjoy him letting me down so I can play on it, isn't that terrible - he forgot my birthday once and was absolutely horrified - and I didn't raise my voice or have a go, just looked sad and sighed a lot, what a horrible person I am!
Got some work done today, but more importantly managed to do my ironing and make a shepherds pie for tea, this working from home thing has it's advantages!
How you doing today H?
Love TM x
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Post by winegirl on Jun 30, 2008 19:38:41 GMT
Im fine thanks hun - glad to be sat on my bum with a goass of vino in my hand! Sounds like you know just how to handle Ed! (even if you havent found the best place to hide the chocolate from him yet ) I often do the sad wounded face with OH so he feels bad about his actions as getting mad with him just sends him really cross back. It is difficult though as I am by nature a tempremental bitch who flys off the handle easily - so I am still learning to reign myself in! I think you will get your point across very well. I would probably leave the ernest jones website on view on the pc too.... WG xx
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Post by tabbysmum on Jun 30, 2008 20:36:04 GMT
This lot was hidden in the salad drawer in the fridge under a load of veg, didn't think there was any chance in hell of him going in there!
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Post by winegirl on Jun 30, 2008 20:51:49 GMT
Only one place to put it then babes... in the ironing pile. x
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Post by cokey on Jul 1, 2008 9:42:04 GMT
nice thinking wg - may put future clothes purchases firectly there because Paul is allergic to our ironing pile....and the dishwasher, and the washing machine, and the mop...could go on...
Hope u okay today TM
xxx
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Post by winegirl on Jul 2, 2008 13:07:41 GMT
Hi TM
How how are you doing hun?? Still here and thinking of you x
WG xx
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