Just found out i am pregnant

[doodles]

Hi all, i have just found out that i am expecting baby number two and am feeling really scared and anxious about it. Things have only just started to improve after number one and he is three now. My partner and i have had a really heart felt weekend of discussion about whether or not to go ahead with it and we have decided after looking at the alternatives very closely that we want to go ahead and have this baby. We already know it is going to be a struggle for us as we are financially stretched with the family we have and we are also both concerned about how we will cope with two children. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Doodles
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[Scarlet]

Doodles,

A huge Congratulations to you

I know you are anxious hun, but this time around you know what to expect. Get yourself to your docs and explain to him/her your concerns. I should think this time you will be monitored more closely.

Relax as much as possible and organise a support network of family members, friends and other people who you can rely on to help out, and of course keep chatting on here perhaps to some of the other ladies who are pregnant.

You are going to be just fine, and we will be here to support you throughout.

Hugs

Scarlet
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[caterina]

Hi doodles
Sorry I misread your post and posted a reply that wouldn't make much sense! Ignore it if you've read it..deleted it now!

CONGRATULATIONS!

You will be fine with this, like scarlet says get along to the doctors and talk talk talk! We will all support you on here as much as we can, lots of love xx

[Bobyn]

Hi Doodles,

You're going to be just fine. There's never a good time financially for a new baby is there, but hopefully you'll have lots of stuff from the first one to pass on and I found this time round I just said 'yes' to everyone who offered me anything for free. Poor Bobs has had nothing new and lives in babygros but she's so happy and that the most important thing.

Although I've got PNI again this time it's nowhere near as severe as it was the first time. I did exactly what Scarlet has suggested to you and went to the GP to tell them my fears and set up a good network of friends and family to support me in the weeks after the birth. I tried to make life as easy and troublefree for myself in the months after Robyn was born and learnt that it's ok to spend a day in bed sleeping when the baby does when possible - if your eldest is 3 will they be at preschool half the week? I found those days helped divide up the week into 3 sections (preschool days, days with the 2 kids and then the weekend) which I feel is easy to battle with then seeing a whole 7 days ahead.

Rest easy and best wishes for a trouble free pregnancy. Congratulations!!
Love,
Bobyn xxx

[winegirl]

Hi Doodles

CONGRATULATIONS! I think that is fab news babes, and i am certain all will be well. My LO was planned for a long time and i still freaked out about finances etc when i found out i was pregnant! Like Bobyn says, there is never really a good time, but you will be just fine.

You may not suffer PNI this time, and if you do you will know how to fix it, and to have that little addition to your family will be such a joy!

We are here for you all the way babes, and wish you all the best in the world xx

WG x

[doodles]

Thanks everyone, i'm feeling a little more positive today now that the stress is calming down a little but feeling really tired and finding it difficult to find time to rest with a very active three year old around the house, any suggestions for keeping him amused for half an hour so i can rest? Also getting stressed because i am starting a practice placement for my uni course in January and it looks like i may have to change where i am going due to pregnancy, although uni are being really helpful. I already have been to doctors and talked through my concerns and then after talking to him decided to proceed with pregnancy. My partner is also aware that i may need lots of support and is already actively trying to get me involved in things to set up a support network.
Thanks all
Doodles
xx

[Scarlet]

Hi Doodles,

Glad you are feeling a bit more positive. Probably the initial shock has worn off now.

Is there any way you can get your LO into a nursery for a few hours during the week in the new year, because you will need to rest a little bit and it'll take the pressure off, plus it'll be fun for your little one.

It's good that you are organising a support network and that hubby is aware that you are gonna need lots of TLC and help..good that you also spoke to your doc and felt reassured, you are going to do just fine this time Doodles.

Hugs

Scarlet
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[winegirl]

Hi Doodles

Great that you are already actively sorting yourslef witha support network just in case! We should all do this when pregnant I think incase PNI hits! Not something you think of when you are pregnant with your first I think!

If your LO is 3 does that mean you get some free time in nursery placement now? That pre school thingy the government offer?

Am very excited for you - I LOVE babies xxx

WG x

[Bobyn]

Hey Doodles,
Glad to hear you sounding so much happier and more positive about things. It sounds as if you can really see this new baby being part of your family and life in the future now and you're planning things around him/her already. Like WG I'm now a newly reformed lover of babies, oh the first smile and the cute little giggles, there's nothing better in the world than the first moment you see your little one

WG's also right about the free nursery placement. When was your little one 3? You will be able to claim a half time nursery place for 2 and a half days a week from the term after their third birthday, and most school and nurseries will make this flexible to suit you. The 'time off' I had on those days once on maternity leave was really excellent to give me time to prepare for the birth and the first months with my new one. Keep us updated... xx