Self Harming

[~ Angel Lisa ~]

Last year when i was diagnosed with PND i started to scratch myself on my arm till it bleeds. My hubby hates me doing this and i stopped after about 4mths of doing it.

But lately i have urges to do it more and more and i have to do something else to keep my head busy so i turn my thoughts away from doing it but its always there in the back of my head.

Has anyone on here gotten through it and how?

[cheshire]

Hi Angel Lisa,

Good to hear from you and that things are better since you last posted x

Re. the self harming, this was a big part of my PNI, so I sort of understand what you are going through.

I found the urges faded over time, no doubt helped by meds and therapy too. It seems strange looking back on it now, but at the time, there seemed to be no alternative.

Hang on in there - you're doing really well with the distraction techniques.

Hopefulxx

[winegirl]

Hey Lisa

Just wanted to mention that if you go in to the PNI Diary Section there is a diary section in there dedictaed to self harming, might be worth having a look??

How are you doing this weekend hun??

WG xx

[bean]

Hi Lisa
Just wanted to say im no expert or anything but i am a self harmer and i know how it feels but dont want to say the wrong thing.
I think its great that you're talking about this now, i hid it from everyone for years adn i think if i had admitted it when i started scratching it maybe wouldnt have escalated as it did. im managing it quite well now, finding other coping strategies and thinking differently, this is what you need to find, i know how full your head feels adn i now try to do something else, think of something else, get busy, watch something funny, get the DS out, anything so im not sat thinking, it doesnt always work but ive found the more i do it, the more it is effecive.
Another method you could maybe try:
If you feel like hurting, focus on answering the questions honestly
Why do you want to hurt yourself
then try to think of something to negate that thought
then think how you will feel when you're doing "the deed"
ask yourself how youll feel straight after
then how youll feel 30 mins later
how will you feel when your hubby or someone else notices
will you 'fess up or try to pass off as an accident (i found both usually have the same outcome - thoughtwise)
then how will they react to what you've done
how will you feel about their reaction
and how will you feel when you look at it until it fades
after all this you can ask yourself - do i still want to do this??
I have used this and found it helpful, added my own bits to suit me and think it may be worth a try, if you do find that you're still wanting to hurt - please get help hun! It is a horrible curse and i wouldnt want anyone else to have to deal with it taking over their lives, cause thats what it does, its like an addiction, its shit!
I hope youre ok and this wasnt too deep, i just wanted to reach out to try to help you like i wished someone had helped me. You dont deserve to hurt, no-one does.
Take care
luv bean xx

[cheshire]

Hi Angel Lisa,

Great advice from Bean above - how are you now?

Hopefulx