Kitty
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Post by Kitty on Oct 20, 2009 0:08:06 GMT
ive had six negative but i am pregnant, having similar pains to what i had last year before i lost, and im finding posting a thread like this on mother and baby sites useless as everyone is so cliquey...
went to a&e today with pains, the doc did a pregnancy test and ignored everything else, no other tests ignored that i came in with pains and asked if i had depression, and told me to go. what do i do? my mum is telling me to demand a scan, can i do that?
i am going to formally complain tho
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Post by juppsters on Oct 20, 2009 17:41:41 GMT
Hey Kitty
I don't know all of your history but i know that when i found out i was expecting Jack after having suffered an ruptured ectopic pregnancy at 8 weeks, they monitored me pretty closely. Lots of early blood tests and scans but obviously living in a different area to you i don't know if it works differently...i think i was just lucky to have an excellent early pregnancy unit.
If you are really concerned about it, as im sure you are, i would try to make an appt with your GP and explain your worries...they maybe able to speak with your local EPU and get you in for a scan to put your mind at rest
Sorry i cant be of more help, just wanted you to know that someone is thinking of you xx
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Post by winegirl on Oct 20, 2009 20:03:00 GMT
Mate - there has me been jumping up and down all excited about your pregnancy and I had no idea you were worrying about this at the time! I am so sorry!!
Yes, i am struggling to understand why you have not been given any explanation, particularly considering you history with yor last pregnancy!
Yes, get to see your GP tomorrow - explain what is happening and get him/her to refer you for a scan, if only to put your mind at ease.
I dont know is it helps, but I had pains at the beginning of my pregnancy, and it turned out to be nothing to worry about. But I agree, it needs checking out,
Let us know how you are? Always about for you mate x
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Post by Kitty on Oct 20, 2009 20:49:57 GMT
i know, wg its ok youve had loadsof stuff going on atm its not always easy to remember everything to do with other people! youre a good friend and i know i can always call or txt x docs wont see me till after tomorrow  |
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Post by winegirl on Oct 22, 2009 19:39:13 GMT
Have you seen them yet? You ok? Let us know how you are doing when you have got 5 - I am thinking of you hun xxx
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Post by monica on Oct 23, 2009 12:38:21 GMT
Hi
I was also going to suggest the Early Pregnancy Unit - I've found them to be really efficient unlike the drs, to the point when I've been pregnant and suspect problems I've gone to them direct bypassing the gps and normally get seen the next day for scan/blood tests.
Monica
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Nov 3, 2009 14:27:03 GMT
Hi Kitty, really hope everything is ok with you and the baby and that you got to see your GP. Can't believe how you were treated at A&E, sometimes they are so unthoughtful. You wouldn't have gone if you didn't think something might be wrong.
I had terrible cramps for the 1st 6 weeks with this pg (am 8 weeks now) and then the sickness took over and replaced it. It really felt like my period would be turing up any minute. Was it even worse than that for you?
I never knew there was such a thing as an Early Pregnancy Unit. Do they have one at every hospital or something?
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Post by monica on Jan 3, 2010 5:41:36 GMT
Hi
It's beena couple of months - how ar eyou getting on? Did you go to drs for more tests?
Thinking o fyou
Monica
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Post by Kitty on May 4, 2010 12:25:49 GMT
im sorry for not being on here, i was pregnant, and miscarried at 16 weeks.
i am now, however 6months pregnant as i got pregnant straight away after miscarrying, and had a few troubles...
i am not coping.
and im not using this site properly neither.
i dont know what to do i really cant cope.
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Post by gizmoracer on May 4, 2010 13:21:58 GMT
In what way do you feel you can't cope hun? Going through a pregnancy straight after loosing a baby is very difficult. My daughter was concieved 2 months after I lost a baby and I was a nervous wreck for ages. Even with the one I'm expecting now. I belive you also have alot going on in your life at the moment which can't be helping. Do try and talk about it as much as you can. You know what they say about a problem shared.
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Post by Kitty on May 4, 2010 13:52:55 GMT
thank you xxxx
im just so afraid.
im trying to be normal, happy.
but its really not working.
louis tells me he loves me all the time but it annoys me, i cant feel it i dont feel it. i was the first to say it in our relationship, but i cant say it anymore, its since i lost. ive not said it.
well ive forced myself to, its cruel otherwise, but i dont feel butterflies with him anymore.
mollie still makes me feel human, and its a heavy burden for her to carry, but if it wasnt for her id be dead.
i simply do not want to live.
my hips, back and general pelvic area clicks and locks up sends pains up my back whenever i move, so i cant lift her.
or get up the stairs which i dont have to do during the day as our bathroom is on the ground floor
i want her here more now shes away because of natural maternal instincts, but because she makes me feel human. im nothing without her.
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Post by gizmoracer on May 4, 2010 16:24:44 GMT
I'm with you on the numbness. I was like it for years. Don't let that worry you, my pni came on before my son was born and not dealt with til after I had 2 children and a miscarrage under my belt amongst other things. Although I could feel so much emotion for my children I couldn't feel anything for anyone else. I knew I loved my OH but couldn't feel it or say it. I would even read terrible things in the papers and they wouldn't effect me at all. I guess you also have to remember that no relationship holds onto those fluttery feelings forever. Pity really.
It will feel like you're putting alot on Mollie but truely she probably doesn't feel that way. My son must have had a hard time with me for years but you honestly wouldn't know it now. He is just very caring and protective of me. Kids don't tend to remember much at this age anyway. What she will remember are the time you sit a play with her and the occasions that you do feel weel enough to make it to the park, even if it is just for a short time.
I also have SPD at the moment and it is driving me nuts. I've been feeling very down with it all. It's just so much hard work to be in constant pain. Thankfully I'm all on one floor so don't have any stairs to contend with.
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Post by Kitty on May 4, 2010 17:08:03 GMT
thanks for letting me know youre in the same situation as me!
i just dont know how to cope x
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Post by winegirl on May 5, 2010 21:06:09 GMT
Kitty, we are here for you, we always are.. and dont be so hard on yourself! You are going through a rough time and are heavily pregnant and it is BOUND to affect how you are feeling. Dont out yourself down so much lady!
How has today been for you hun??
WG x
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