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Post by winegirl on May 10, 2010 19:28:27 GMT
So glad to hear that Dave!
You know you cam come back and talk anytime you feel you need to? We are always here xx
Take Care
WG x
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Post by rocker on May 19, 2010 8:49:38 GMT
Dave, not much to add, the ladies here are the experts, just wanted to say you're not alone, there are many of us trying to help our partners and suffering for it, just make sure you have something to fall back on as in a hobby/friends etc that you can escape for a while, a change of scene etc, you need to keep yourself well to be able to help her and look after your son. Good Luck :-)
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Post by dave on Jun 30, 2010 13:13:57 GMT
hi guys so its been a little while and things have sort of been alright we had a little holiday nowhere fancy but she was quite chatty and we were laughing like we used to. since we have been back things are better in terms of talking to one another etc... but i would love more, my birthday was a complete waste and i tried to make sure her birthday was as good as i could make it, i know she had a good time. My question is i get the feeling that maybe she doesnt fancy me anymore, is there a way of getting her to fancy me again?
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Post by winegirl on Jul 2, 2010 10:41:32 GMT
Well its like this, i love my husband dearly and still find him attractive, but for a long time after PNI the idea of sex and intimacy was just too much! I wanted to be with him, I just had issues with intimacy! I dont know why to this day, but with his patience and my love for him it did improve..
Not sure if that helps at all really, I guess your relationship with your OH simply reminds me of my relationship with hubby after PNI x
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Post by caterina on Jul 5, 2010 0:25:29 GMT
hi dave
I'm glad things are looking a bit brighter for you and your OH, it's great you've managed to have some good times and you've felt supported through this as well as your OH. The men get overlooked so much when it comes to PNI,
As for the fancying issue - well PNI can do funny things to you, I take antidepressants which suppresses any sex drive, but it's either that or I'm a gibbering wreck so hubby accepts that the sex is less, but not completely gone. It's a difficult one, because like someone mentioned sometimes you just want a kiss and a cuddle without the expectation of it leading to sex - now I know you men aren't all sex maniacs and can have a wee snog without expecting more, but maybe making it clear that you have no expectations at this stage and will take things at her pace - a kiss and a cuddle can be all some people can handle when they're feeling really bad. I understand you have needs too, but for now you may have to see to that yourself if you know what I mean!!
I am glad things are looking up for you guys though, remember to come back anytime to talk, vent, ask questions, we're always here x
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